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Computer/Internet/Video Game Addictions Ruin Lives!
May 31, 2005
3:23 pm
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I said I'd start a new thread about this since so many people seem to have been through this!

I am the 6th Everquest Widow that I know of! My ex ran away from life and played games instead.

He stopped talking about ANYTHING accept the latest "Guild Quest" & tried to get me sucked into it as much as he was.

He stopped helping with the house work so I had to work a 10 hour shift, go to the grocery store, come home, cook dinner which I then had to serve to him in front of the computer, then clean the kitchen, do the laundry, walk the dog, clean the litter box, do homework then pass out to be ready for the next day!!!

Some weeks I had to work a different shift every day & could barely drive home I was so tired & my hip hurt so bad.

I would be lying there on the bed crying & he would sit there 3 feet away from me & just put on headphones so he wouldn't be distracted while he played!

HIS Schedule was: Wake up, leave for work at 6:00am, come home at 5:00pm, play the game until 2:00am, sleep - repeat.

& what is worst of all he would start yelling at me when I tried to get him off of the computer to help me with something! He would tell me that HE has to work all day too and needs his time to relax & if I have a problem with *housework* then stop making such a mess! He would get so angry when I would tell him that he was addicted and it wasn’t healthy!

My breaking point was when I found e-mail’s he was having with some women he met online & they were sending pic’s to each other.

But what is best is that when he left he went to Seattle to be with her but it turns out she was married with like 3 kids & just wanted to play online to relieve stress. She gave him her real name so he looked up her address! He couldn’t get a job up there & his parents had to send him money for him to move back in with them! (found out from friends)

What is worse is that our friend’s MARRAGE broke up because of Everquest too & it didn’t even occur to him that the same thing was happening to us! Our friend’s wife was the one who got addicted. She paid all the bills while he went to work but she spent so much time online that she stopped paying the bills so their car was repossessed & eventually their home got foreclosed!

She had a B/F in Australia & ran up Thousand Dollar Phone Bills with him!

She told the cops that HE was beating her, got a restraining order, packed up the 2 kids (15 & 17) a week before finals & moved to NJ with her parents. Her kids had to repeat a Senior & Sophomore year of HS but she didn’t care, she just wanted the computer all to herself.

Video Games/Internet is ruining lives & there is nothing that can be done about it! It is just as destructive an addiction as Crack but “It’s just a game” so no one will see it that way until it has ruined their life! & then it is just the partner that sees the self-destruction not the Addict themselves.

How has Computer/Internet/Video Game Addiction affected YOUR life?

May 31, 2005
5:14 pm
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When I lived with my ex and his son, he would spend all his extra time playing games with his son. I mean ALL of the extra time he had... his son was addicted too...

May 31, 2005
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acryforhelp,

well, if he refused to do anything I certainly wouldn't serve him food, nor would i clean-up after any messes (read laundry) that he did make.

I spent too much time online to the detrement of my marriage once upon a time. I don't do it any longer.

May 31, 2005
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I have to say that I have had an addiction to video games. I do find it helping to escape a since of the "real world", I would say it hasn't helped in my past relationship, but I don't think it was the end all. I lost my job back in June and would spend a good part of the day and then get online and game the rest til the morning time. I was so depressed with the loss of my job my only escape from it all was a game. I did however clean, cook, take care of my son and all the little extras. I did neglect my relationship on some levels. I agree that Computers/Online/Video Games can ruin lives. I have learned that it just isn't worth losing the one you love over it. I am alone now, but for what it's worth I have learned from my mistakes, this thread included. I have lost a lot of my desire to game or even get online. Lossing the one you love drains you from alot of the passion one holds when there is no one there to come home to every day and to hug and tell them you love them... No damn video game can do that....

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May 31, 2005
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that first part is I would spend a good part of the day looking for a job, and then get online around 4:30pm or 5.

June 1, 2005
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I see Games/Computer like Drinking...

If you have a drink after you get home from work to relax that is fine... But when you get home from work and down a bottle of scotch then it is a problem...

A game in moderation is fine... I play Warcraft III and Diablo II periodicly.

As long as you can still FUNCTION then it is not a problem but when it becomes the center of your whole universe and EVERYTHING else comes second is what I am talking about.

I can't belive that in the maybe 10 Squair Mile area that is Ahwatukee Arizona there are SIX Females and ONE Male that have had a GAME be the distructive addiction in their lives...A lot of people can't see that Smokeing Tweek and Playing a Game can have the same disasterous effect!

Because Games are an accepted past time for most they are incapable of seeing the issue but if you are smokeing tweek then there is a VISUAL and Legal reason that it is a problem.

I can not belive that our culture has put the kids in front of the TV and the Computer and say "Have a nice life kids, dinner will be finished at 6:00 if you want to wander over and eat."

I do agree with the study that came out last month that video games can be used to teach and I 100% agree with the guy being interviewed that "If your kid does NOTHING but read then tell him to play a game. But if your kid does nothing but play the game then turn off the TV and tell him to read a book."

We as a CULTURE need to figure out that we are neglecting our kids by doing this to them! My generation has been the first that has On Demand EVERYTHING and it has really screwed up our minds!

You don't have to save your pennies for that PS2... Just go and cry to your mom...Get out of college and get a JOB and a HOUSE and a PARTNER? So I can turn into my parents???? HELL NO! I'm moving back in with them because I always knew that a BA in FILM was just for a hobby! I'm gonna keep working at that coffee shop so I can party every night!

THAT is the culture that we have created! I had to either move in with family or kill myself. I got legetimate problems that have been diagnosed but ALL of my peers that I graduated with in 99' are back in AZ crashing in the same rooms that they left to Go Off In To The Real World.

Now, if they even HAVE jobs, they just sit home and download music and play their PS2's...Oh, and some of them go off roading and break their tucks and have to have either their parents or their girlfriends pay to fix it so they have transportation to go and LOOK for a job.

This may ahve gone off track a touch but it all boils down to the same problem.

Their PS2's, RPG's, and X-Box's are MORE IMPORTANT than ANYTHING ELSE IN THEIR LIVES.

It is a symptom of a MAJOR disease that will eventually need to be cured before this country gets even more dummed down and we lose our position as a super power because there is no one smart enough!

K, I am done ranting for now... I got paperwork to do...

GOod luck!

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