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Competing for Affection...
December 30, 2005
5:12 pm
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i have this friend who i adore..i've talked about her alot on here..but anyway..there is another friend of hers who i cant stand. She has hurt my friend over and over again..plays mind games etc..my friend keeps her in her life so that is her issue not my own..but here's the thing...

this girl has a crush on my friend..and thinks that anyone in her life is a threat to her affection from my friend. So she makes my life a living hell. Every sincere honest thing i do..she turns into a competition. It makes me look like i am playing along in her game and i am not. Like today..i went to wish my friend a Happy Birthday on a different message board thread..and this girl had to start a completely different thread with the same thing. Now my sincere intention..makes me look foolish like i am competing..i've talked to my friend about it..but she just wants to keep the peace between everyone.

Am i being petty? Should i just be the bigger person and take down my thread and post on hers? How do i handle this girl? this is just one of the many things she has turned into a competition and i am tired of it...any suggestions?

December 30, 2005
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ok..i decided to be the bigger person and take down my thread..just added mine to hers..now she can happy dance around the room cuz she "won" for today..laughs..its way too childish and a little spooky for me..so i guess i am slowly learning..

still open for suggestions..

December 30, 2005
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I belong to many bulletin boards - and it's not uncommon for more than one person to start a happy birthday thread.

and if YOU started the FIRST thread - it is not YOU playing games by starting a new one.

It should have been her to join yours - out of need to keep things in one thread.

But if she started another, it doesn't require you to end your thread and post on hers.

Stick to your gut from now on - don't play into the games.

The friend caught in the middle won't see the games unless they get extreme - and the last thing you want is for it to backfire that it was you that started it - so stay honest and true to yourself - and in the end, that's all that will matter.

January 3, 2006
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Ugh! she is at it again..i thought i had gotten her out of my system but she is like a little annoying gnat. I am going to visit my friends baby tommorow for a few days. My friend is in Iraq. I am flying out to see her..have never met her (she is 2) and am sooooooo excited.

Well here comes the psycho girl..she is so jealous of me that she is trying to do anything she can to mess up my trip. My friends mom doesnt have custody of the baby right now..so its hard for her to get to visit..so first this girl tries to plan a quickie trip the week before mine to head off the chances of two weeks in a row they get to have her over. That fell through. Now she is saying she is gonna call all day long while i am there and talk to her and plans on coming to visit her the week after with more gifts etc..

why is it a competition?? I am just going to visit out of the sincere love for this baby..why must she twist things? why do they let her? The grandma who has custody of the baby is threatening to not let me see her for more than a day..its all a big mess.

Please pray things work themselves out. I am just trying to love on my babygirl. How do i not let the games affect me when in reality they are controlling my life??

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