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Committing suicide
September 20, 2000
11:38 am
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I've got a friend whose Mom is thinking of committing suicide just because she doesn't get enough attention from the husband. She's (my friend's mom) ~50 in age. I am really worried of my friend as she can't even sleep at night thinking of those possibilities that her mom can do... I try to help, but I didn't know how to coz this involves her family matters. She tried talking to her mom and dad but the same problem occurs again. Maybe professional help will be a good idea, but as a friend, I really hope I can do something to help her.

September 20, 2000
11:45 am
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Mooncake,

Sounds to me that the mother does need some serious help...If she defines who she is through her husband, than she sounds very co-dependent. When I here stories like this it angers me because in reality the mother is being very selfish...not thinking of the people she is affecting around her...but if she is in some kind of depression or something...she is not thinking right.
I really do not know if there is anything that you can do...but if your friend is concerned that her mother is really planning on hurting herself she needs to contact a person in the mental health field to give her advise...Maybe her mother needs to be hospitalized. Give your friend all the support you can...she's gonna need it, take care,

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September 20, 2000
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You didn't say how old you are but if in school, ask your friend to speak to her counselor, and you as a friend can speak to the school counselor about this if your friend is hesitant, it is a tough place to be in. It is child abuse for the mother to dump this stuff on a child, psychologically controlling, and emotionally abusive. Mom could have a bunch of stuff going on, and it could stem from menopause, depression, to domestic violence. help your friend help her self, there may not be much you can do for the family situation, but start with getting her help, and then let the adults take over. The children should not have to deal with this being a teen is tough enough.

September 21, 2000
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Jaskid,

Thanks for the reply. As I learn more from my friend each day about the situation, her Mom is basically unhappy that the Dad is mixing more with his close friends and neglecting the family more. He (Dad) starts spending Saturday dinners with his friends rather than family and gave birthday presents to his friend but not his wife. Her Dad did try to change the situation by refraining himself to see his friends, but it seems that he is doing it unwillingly (obvious from his actions and facial expression). I agree that my friend's Mom is being too emotional at times (she's 50+ and going in the menopause stage, I believe). She even said that she'll bring my friend with her if she commits suicide. I was really very uneasy hearing that as I care really much for this special friend of mine.
I'm really disturb by what's happening in her family and the worse thing is that I can't do much to solve things other than just to console her (which, frankly I don't think it's much use since the root of the problem is not solved).

September 21, 2000
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Molly,

Thanks for your reply. I'm >20 in age and so is my friend. Do u think if there's anything that I can do besides just consoling her? I don't want to keep consoling her. I want to get to the root of the problem and solve it, but I really do not know how.

September 21, 2000
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It is certainly frightening the statement that if the mom commits suicide a comment of taking your friend with her. If that is not a dangerous statement I don't know what is. If you do not want to involve authorities, I would offer your friend a place to stay, and get her out of danger, and the family mess. I would say that at the age of 20 she tell the dad, and with the mom there that she needs serious intervention, and that your friend is leaving, and will not return, or communicate with them until they have gotten the medical attention that they apparently need. Your friend will also need some counseling, and support. But convince her to leave, why take the risk that the mom is just tossing selfish self centered abusive threats. If there are younger children in the house child protective services should be contacted, some would consider such a threat, a 5150 type case, a danger to self and others. This is serious. Get her out, and call authorities if younger children in the home. Better to over react than to read it in the paper.

September 21, 2000
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Mooncake,

Ask your friend to call the police and consult with them about the serious threats her mother is making. It is against the law to threaten to, or physically harm another. Please do not dismiss her mother's words as idle chatter, they are not. The police can also offer suggestions and agencies that may be able to help your friend and her family.

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