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codependent parent of adult child
December 18, 2008
8:59 am
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lostinparadise
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Hi,

This is my second post. So many on here I guess mine go lost in the shuffle. Are there any parents of adult children on this site? I could really use some insight. I won't repost my problem but I posted it as looking for codependent parents.

thanks

December 18, 2008
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Lost,

I did read your other post and I am so sorry this is happening between you and your daughter.

Have either of you been to counseling to address these issues? I would strongly suggest you seek some therapy where you can learn to detach with love instead of feeling like a prisoner in your own home.

You obviously love your daughter very much and worry about her threats because of her past history with suicide attempts. But you can’t continue to allow her to hold you hostage with her manipulation tactics.

You did a healthy thing by taking those pictures and going to the police, you were protecting your daughter. But she is 25 and despite her history with mental illness you should allow her to live the kind of life she chooses even if that life is not healthy. We can’t force people to do the right things or take care of themselves in healthy ways no matter how much we love them.

I think it’s time you seriously think about allowing this young 25 year old woman to live life on her own in her own place with whom ever she chooses. And if you need to call the police for yourself and your own peace of mind then do it, have the police remove her and her dog out of your home.

Our codependency keeps us from doing healthy things, our thinking that we are always responsible for others and our habits of doing un-healthy things in order to keep those we love close to us are what keep us codependent and prevent situations from changing.

Tuff love is what you need to do with your daughter right now.

Keep posting I’m sure others will be along soon to offer more.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

December 4, 2013
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lostinparadise said:

Hi,

This is my second post. So many on here I guess mine go lost in the shuffle. Are there any parents of adult children on this site? I could really use some insight. I won't repost my problem but I posted it as looking for codependent parents.

thanks

Hi. I'm not sure if you are still a member or use this forum on a regular basis any longer, but I am new to this site and want to reply to your question. I am a co-dependent mother of a 31 year old son who is abusive and very disrespectful. Having a very difficult time coping. I'm hoping things may be better for you now, being that this was posted 5 years ago. Thanks.


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