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codependency is difficult but possible to shake
June 4, 2007
2:11 pm
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I am really amazed at the wonderful advice I am getting from all these wonderful people. One has to feel better after that. There is no other way to go

To Openbook: I must tell you that at the moment I am hurting a lot. There are ups and downs. At times I feel I am on way to full recovery but it slips again and I feel that after all these years I have achieved nothing. So my friend you are embarking on a very difficult journey of codependency. On the other hand with right choices you can feel better and in the long run have control on your life and start loving and living your life to the full.
Like I said, at the moment, I am hurting a lot and I am far from full recovery ( if there is one)and I still have a lot of issues to deal with but I have seen a marked improvement in my peace and serinity. I am about 25 to 30% better than what I was a few years ago. I attribute this solely to following:

1 Admission that my life is in shambles and my way is not working at all and I need to change

2 I must let the higher power take over my life from now on

3 Attend on regular basis CODA meetings

4 Go thru the patterns and characteristics of a codependent. This will highlight your weaknesses

5 Follow the 12 step program. Take your time with each step and try to go deep in the intent of each step

6 DETACH your self from the oldway of thinking and try to build a new and healthy behavior patterns

This is starting point. Once you start you will find your own way what ever suits your needs

The most important is to TAKE THE FIRST STEP FORWARD

Good luck and you will be in my prayers

Vinny

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June 4, 2007
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In addition to all the wonderful things shared here, I recommend three books that really helped me with these issues they are by the christian psychiatrists, Townsend and Cloud, Changes that Heal, Safe People, and Boundaries. They do use are Biblically based but still very effective.

June 4, 2007
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The only thing that I can say on this one is that your HP will help you but he will sit back and wait until you get your hands off of the situation before he can do anything.
He don't need you to do his job for him because he can't do his job until you let go and stop trying to do this on your own.
We all on this earth has some form of codependency. There is some that is a little codependent and there is some that is a lot of codependent.
Can you shake codependency? Yes, but it want be overnight, and in order for you to get it, you have to want it and you have to work it.
Nappy!

June 5, 2007
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Thanks Nappy

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