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Codependancy and Jealousy - What a mixture!!
February 24, 2004
4:39 pm
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I have read so much about codependency...and I was wondering if anybody could help me out...

I have a girlfriend...She's truly amazing. She's the kind of girl who every single person adores...and that's one of the reasons why I first fell for her.

I truly love her, or at least, I think I do. I truly cherish and enjoy every lil second I'm with her.

The problem is that, as I said, everybody else adores her as well. She has so many guy friends who she hangs out with all the time. Sometimes she spends more time with them than with me, and that gets to be really painful with time. I never say anything coz I'm always under that constant fear that if I get angry with her, our realtionship might get spoilt.

When we hang out together with friends, as a big group, I always seem to be so aware of her: what she's doing, what she's saying, who she's talking to...but she, she seems to be having all the fun in the world without looking at me even once...and that again hits me very deeply and gets to be very painful...but I never say anything. How cud I explain al this to her?

ANd deep inside I know she loves me a lot too, because she has done all thses cute things for me in the past, given me presents and all those kinda things.

It's very irritating, coz I'm supposed to be happy. I've found the girl of my dreams and she says she likes me too...but then why does every day end up being so painful? What is happening? Why am I unable to see her love for me?

I feel I do a lot for her, I out in my 150 % to make her smile...but it seems as though I get sad when she has fun with other people...why? Why?


February 25, 2004
11:55 am
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Didn't Tom Jones do a song about this one?

"It's not unusual...."

Oops, sort of dated myself there.

February 25, 2004
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Hey Itz,

I think you must say something. If only to make yourself feel better. Tell her how you feel, don't acquiesce her of anything. Acquiescing will only piss her off! (You know how you feel when someone acquiesces you of something) Make it come from your heart!! Good Luck!

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