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Co-Dependent - that's me just read it...
November 13, 2006
12:35 am
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armyleo
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I bought the book co-dependant no more, ~ 2 weeks ago, but hadn't read it. I didn't get very far, because just by the introduction I saw so much of me, than the characteristics, were just too much to handle. but what was worse was

"in the later stages of codependecy codependenets are lethargic,
feel depreess,
become withdrawn isolated,
loss of daily routine or structure, abuse or neglect their children and other responsibilities
feel hopeless
think about suicide
become violent
become seriously emotioanlly mentally and physicall ill
experience eating disorder - not me
become addicted to alchol and drugs - fighting urge to start drinking.

I got that far first 40 pages and shut the book, couldn't handle more.

This along with all the fighting and arguing, and...I'm just a rotten person... look at me... I exhibit all the signs!!!

November 13, 2006
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Armyangel:

I know the book is hard to swallow. I've been thru it multiple times. BUT read on honey. Read on and learn how to heal. Learn how to handle things. If you close the book now then you won't get to the main course. The intro is to catch your eye; to let you see that you are codependent. The rest of the book gets much easier w/ each page. It will truly teach you what you need to know. If you want me to go thru it w/ you I will.

November 13, 2006
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A Angel -

I tend to do that too- with books like that. I really doubt you are a rotten person. I suspect your husband has helped you believe that.

Be nice to yourself- Bevdee

November 13, 2006
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Yes, I know exactly how you feel. Even sometimes just reading about problems on this site makes me very sad. To think that so many people are sad and dealing with such abuse.

Try to surround yourself with nice and happy people to feel better.

November 13, 2006
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It's hard to look in the mirror and not like what you see. However, you bought the book (by the way, there are two more to go with it), and you did start to read it-- a GREAT first step. Go back to it--this is not high school or college where the book or chapters have to be done by a certain time. If you're ready to read, but not ready to do the activities at the end of the chapters, that's fine, also. Baby steps, armyleo. You didn't become codependant over night, it won't be straightened out over night, either. Keep talking to us, find people to talk to face to face--it all helps! Good luck! 🙂

November 13, 2006
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(((ArmyAngel)))~ I know the book is difficult, but it will help you. PLEASE continue to read it. It opens your eyes then helps you find solutions. It will help you not hurt you. I know it may not seem possible, but it really does.

Angel (that's how I think of you) you are a wonderful person. Your husband has fed you so much shit that you believe it. Trust me, he's WRONG!!!

You are a valuable person who is intelligent, strong, and kind. You are a good mother who is doing the best she can in a difficult situation.

How is your arm? You haven't mentioned having the cast removed, is it still in a cast?

I love you sister. Keep moving toward the light.

November 13, 2006
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Ditto to what all have said here. I couldn't add more to their wisdom and love.

Army -- I totally agree with you. The start of the book is really heavy and hard t swallow. However, as you get on with your healing journey, you will bcome so proud of yourself, your achievements and the your self-esteem will bounce back.

Don't forget you are not alone. We are here to listen to you and cheer you one.

Blessings & hugs, Ras~

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