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December 26, 2006
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Hi girls..

CYndra~ I am glad that you had a peaceful and pleasant holiday.. I did too..
THe boys absolutely loved the pretend microwave oven that Santa brought,.. and the SUBWAY play food. They served me a sub sandwhich and salad and a drink on a platter in bed..
They are such good boys.
We really had a good time over at my parent's house. My parent's gave them the GameCube-- like we need another game system in this house.
My brother did not speak to me and so I did not speak to him.. still cannot understand how he can keep such a grudge against me for so long.. oh well.. My neice and nephew were happy with the gifts that me and the boys gave them..

This was the first CHristmas in four years that I was not around Pondscum.. and it felt great. I was very relaxed after the boys went to their father's house. I went over to my friend's house and it was fun. My friend makes me laugh when I am around her so I could not stop laughing.. I had a smile on my face the entire night..

PS sent a text message asking me to call him when I am not busy and sent his wishes for a Merry CHristmas to me and my family. I never called him. He also called me later that night but I did not hear the phone ring.. and I would not have answered because I did not want to speak to him on Christmas.

I hope you had a nice holiday CLown...

love and hugs to you both
~SCum FREE NEED~~

December 26, 2006
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Sloppy Joe's Restaurant is in business again.. microwave oven, utensils, measuring cup, bowls, bacon, cheese, hamburgers, lunch meat, individual chips, cups, ice cream, condiments-- ketchup, mayonaise, pickles, vinagrette, and also carrot soup...

Your nephew's are having a blast..!!

December 26, 2006
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After 9 pm, it is make your own subs!!

I got a free peanut butter & jelly sandwhich for being their MOM!!

To me Christmas is not about receiving presents.. I am blessed every day with the joy and love that my boys bring me..

love,
NEED

December 27, 2006
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Hi Need (AKA-Scumbuster!) and Cyndra:

Glad to hear that you both had good holidays! I did too!

Guess what I got on Christmas day? The best gift of all!!! My daughter & son-in-law hosted our dinner. Right afterwards, they had a small gift for everyone at the table. We opened them and inside was a picture of an utrasound! I am going to be a Grandmother!!!

Needless to say, we had a wonderful day and I am so excited. The baby is due in August.

KH did not call me all day on Christmas eve. As I had mentioned in a previous post, he was mad at me for calling his house and speakng with his grand-daughter.

I called him on Christmas day and wished him a Merry Christmas. (got his voicemail) He called me back and we talked for a short time. I asked if he woud like a plate of food, b/c he was all alone on Christmas day. He said that he would. I went to his house around 9:00 PM with his food and presents. I gave him a bottle of wine and a gift card to Borders. He gave me a night @ a Bed & Breakfast that we frequent. I told him that he needed to cancel the reservation. He asked me if I was sure that I wanted him to do this & I assured him that I did.

Today he brought me a salad and the conversation was very strained at best. I think that he really got the full magnatude of the situation while he was here. He asked me to hug him and I did. It was really quite a sad scenario. He finally left and I truly felt a sigh of relief. This is just how I get suckered in again and then the process repeats itself.

LM got back today from his folks. He called everyday that he was gone. Very attentative and I like that. Tonight we went to dinner and the movies. We are going to see the Good Sheperd this weekend. We also tentatively planned our trip to NY. This will be the true test--can we get along okay. I am not prepared to consumate the relationship. This is a touchy topic for me. KH traumatized me in this area.

Okay, that is my news! I am back to work on Wed. Hope you all have a great day.

Hugs,
Clown

December 27, 2006
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Clown---

Congratulations on becoming a GRandmother!!! What wonderful and exciting news!!

I am glad to hear that you were able to tell KH to cancel the reservations!!

Have a good time with LM at the movies!!

You deserve the best!!

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NEED AKA SCUM BUSTER

December 27, 2006
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Good Morning Ladies,

I see we all had wonderful Christmas celebrations.

Clown, congratulations to you and your daughter!!! Wow!! Can the baby come on August 20th? LOL

I am glad you told KH that he should cancel the reservations. That must have come as quite a surprise to him. Kinda wish I could have been inside his head to hear what his thoughts were!!

Need, glad the boys appreciate the wonderful mother they have. I know you view your children as gifts and treasures. That's one of your many qualities that I love.

I am back at work. I'm going to see if I can find something productive to do.

Love you both!!

Cyndra

December 27, 2006
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Good morning, Ladies:

Thanks for the warm wishes about the baby! We are so excited we can hardly stand to wait 7 months for it to come!

Need: I'm glad you were able to bust the scum over Christmas. Time with family is a good thing & it also provided time for PS to see what life without you and boys at the holidays is like. Maybe going ahead, he 'll appreciate the relationships he does have and treat them more tenderly. So glad to hear that the boys had a nice time. Sloppy Joe's needs to deliver to WV!

Cyn~ Good luck at work today trying to find something productive to do! I underdstand what you mean b/c it seems these days between Christmas & New Years are really hard to focus on work. I am seriously considering taking them off next yr. I hope you have a good day.

Okay, I gotta hop on my broom and fly outta here! To work, to work, I go, High ho, high ho, high ho!!!!

You are my cyber sunshine!
Clown 🙂

December 27, 2006
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Good morning girls..

Boys are off from school this week. They were up early this morning and taking orders already for Sloppy Joe's.. I wonder what the delivery charge is for WV and MD..?

Last night a friend came over after the kids went to bed and we watched the movie CLICK while I finished doing all the laundry that had piled up for the past few days.

Tonight my friend that had me over for Christmas dinner is coming over with her kids.

PS called me three times yesterday and each time I was on the phone and did not click over to talk to him.

My life is moving forward and I am feeling much more relaxed and happy. I feel more in control...

Have a good day girls..

I love you both..

LOVE,
~Scum free NEED~

If any one wants to place an order let me know.. They said that the special for today is Alaskan Salmon..

They are so creative !!

December 27, 2006
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The delivery charge to West Virginia is $25

and Maryland is only $20

So ladies place an order..

Subs:

Ham & Cheese

Turkey & Cheese

Roast Beef & Cheese

Matt & Jake Special -- combination

December 27, 2006
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Need~ Didn't you just love the movie "CLICK"?? I laughed and loved the ending.

I think I'll try the Matt & Jake special since delivery to Maryland is only $20. LOL

They are creative little boys!! I SO love that!!!

December 27, 2006
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Cyndra--

I love Adam Sandler.. I think he is so funny.. I always laugh when they play the Hannukah song on the radio..

Click was a good movie..

Since the boys are off for winter vacation they are having a friend over tonight for dinner & play.

It got really cold here. Feels more like winter..

Do you have plans for New Year's Eve?

December 27, 2006
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My plans for New Year's Eve include church and watching the ball drop from the safety of my own home.

Our church is having service at 5pm this year. I think it's a wise choice.

Do you have any plans?

It hasn't really gotten cold here yet. I keep waiting becaue I love winter.

December 27, 2006
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CYNDRA--

No plans just yet as far as New Year's Eve... maybe bowling with some friends..

I am so glad that you placed your order because the boys are going to raise the prices..

CLOWN--

hope all is well with you soon-to-be grandma HOT LIPS!!

Staying SCUM FREE!!! and LOVING IT!!

December 27, 2006
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Hello Ladies~

Okay, I'll take the combo! I actually think $25.00 is pretty cheap for the distance to WV!

I LOVED "Click". Laughed my head off, but then I enjoyed Taladegah (sp)Nights too! (so stupid that it provided comic relief that I sooo needed at that time)

Need:

I am so glad you are feeling more in control with PS. Isn't that a refreshing feeling~that you can make it WITHOUT him!! I'm so proud of you. Sounds like ole man winter has set in where you are too. It has really gotten cold here.

Cyndra:

Sounds like you have a good plan for New Yrs eve. I always enjoy wathinf the 'ball drop' for my own cozy living room!

LM called tonight, asked me out to dinner for Friday nite with his other best friends (husband and wife lawyers). They have given him a hard time about our age diference. These two are just a few yrs older than my daughter. (the one that is a lawyer too and expecting the baby) This couple will really have a hayday teasing LM when they find out that I am going to be a Grandmother!!! LM seems not to mind at all, that is a good thing.

No calls from KH. I think he has finally figured out that now I am the one calling it Ka-put!! I'm like Need~Ah, it feels so good!

My younger daughter (newly married one) had dinner with me tonight. In a polite way, she told me that I looked rather haggard. The stress from KH has aged me. I am going to try to take better care of myself going ahead. I shock even myself when I look in a mirror. I have bags under my bags!

Let's get excited about the new year. I think we should each make a couple of resolutions for 2007 and support each other with our goals. Whaddaya think?

My goals: Loose some weight, go to bed earlier, work smarter, laugh more and exercise, might even join a gym or something!

HAVE A GREAT DAY,

Klunkhead free Clown 😉

December 28, 2006
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Klunkhead Free Clown

and SCum Free Need

now are you FIB Free Cyndra??

December 28, 2006
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Gosh, am I FIB free? Almost?

I say almost because I woke up in the middle of the night and cried like a baby because I was in a rage. I felt he robbed me of so much.

Don't get me wrong, I know that he can NEVER give me what I need or want in a relationship. I was just simply furious because he continues to not accept any responsibility for what he said and did. I don't know why I keep getting angry.

I wanted to pick up the phone and leave him a voice mail, but I resisted. It took me an hour to fall back asleep, but I didn't call. I'm quite proud of myself.

I guess I'm having a backsliding moment. I am angry, AGAIN. I know it will pass. I know it's part of the grieving process, but if I don't move on from this part of it I won't heal. I want to heal, so I have to let go of this.

I had thought about writing a letter to just get it all out and then burn it. I don't know.

New Year's Resolution:

Continue losing weight; exercise more; go horseback riding more; get a dog; buy a house; and give and receive joy.

December 28, 2006
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Cyndra:

Write the letter, then put it somewhere so you can retrieve it and read it again. You will see how you have healed in time....... as the anger, hurt and disappointment fade and FIB BECOMES a distant memory. You will grow so much from this life experience. Consider it FIB 600~Graduate Level Class!

Love ya,
Clown 🙂

Called KH today, why, just cause it's a habit I suppose. I said I wanted to check on his arm, very strained conversation. I MUST leave him alone. Went to lunch with LM. He is making plans for our New Years Celebration!! OO~La~La!!

December 28, 2006
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Hi Clown~ I wrote it up. I'll print it when I go to work tomorrow. I will put it away and one day when I stumble upon it I will see how much I've grown.

Thank you for the suggestion.

Yes, you must leave KH alone, as much for him as for you. It sounds like he does get that it is KAPUT and you're calling while he's trying to grieve has got to be painful. We don't want to do to them what they did to us no matter how good it may temporarily feel.

We are better than they are. But I do understand the backsliding!!!

Love you. Have a Happy New Year with LM.

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Hi Girlie girls~

Cyn-thanks, I DO need to leave KH alone. ( my co-depend. rearing it's evil head) You're right, I think he does get the Kaput thing, and I probably want/expect him to fight a little for it. He is so narsassistic (sp) that he is now thinking already of my replacement! I am going to see my therapist tomorrow and she always helps me to see thing as they really are. I have shared many aspects of my relationship with KH, and she said she has NEVER seen such a selfish person as this guy.

LM called and we are going out with his friends tom night. Wish me well on this one! I guess they have been riding him pretty hard about things like: "When is the wedding, did he propose over the holidays, etc." All in good fun though!

He also said that he had made dinner reservations for us at this really nice fancy-smancy place for New Years Eve. Problem is: KH's daughter-in-law's sister works there. So the gig is up if she sees me with LM. I really do not want to hurt KH with news that I have found someone else. That will crush him and I find NO pleasure in that. I'm not sure why I care, but I do. For all I know, he is seeing someone else too, but I doubt it.

Okay, thanks for allowing me to rattle on!

I am taking a vacation day tomorrow and I am hoping to sleep in for a while. I am so excited!!

Hey, Need, where are you girl??

Hugs,

Clown :O

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Clown~ I can understand your not wanting KH to be hurt by your finding someone else, but he's going to find out sooner or later.

I know there was a time you didn't want to let go of him, but I think you are getting passed that. YAHOO!!

Someone suggested I start to attend the online CODA meetings. I'm going to start doing that. I've registered so hopefully they'll let me participate.

Have a wonderful New Year. I know you are getting well-deserved rest.

Love,
Cyndra

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Hey Need~ Is everything okay? You've been quiet lately. Just checking.

Miss hearing about the boys.

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Hey girls... How are you both? I am doing really well. Thanks for asking Cyndra..

Pondscum Free!!!

My friend was in a car accident the other day and I had to take her to the ER -- whiplash.. I stayed with her the entire time.. She is staying with me tonight and probably over the weekend. When I am at work she stays with her twin sister..

I will post more tomorrow.. Love and hugs,
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Hi Need

Just dropping by your thread.... am just back from a week away and had to tell you this amazing incident. I was in a shopping mall parking lot and saw a pickup truck with the license plate "PONDSCM". I'm not kidding!! I did a real double-take and had to stop myself from lauging out loud too boisterously, because I was with relatives to whom I would not have been able to explain why I found it funny.

But I thought of you for sure! (And now we know there must be at least 2 of them on the loose because this was in northern Arizona, and I don't think that's where yours is, is it?)

Anyway I'll sign off before i keel over from exhaustion.... wishing you a very happy and continued Scumfree new year!!

festively yours, kroika

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Hi Kroika,

Glad you had a wonderful vacation.

I think the license plate is too funny!!! I suspected there was more than one of them, but they have so many different names!!!

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Need~ I am so sorry about your friend! Whiplash, poor lamb. I hope she's resting. I'm glad she has you and her sister. How is she today?

How are you? How have you been feeling? How are my nephews?

Love,
Cyndra

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