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Closing myself off from others
June 17, 2007
2:14 am
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kalz
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I used to be such an outgoing, aggressive, and opinionated person. I'm still quite opinionated but it seems like since my pregnancy with my first child I have changed dramatically and my self confidence has decreased. I really don't have any friends, at least none that live in the same state as I do. I work, go to school, and pretend to take care of my family, the truth is my husband has picked up my slack since having our twins 7 months ago. I just don't feel like getting to know anyone. My first child will be 3 in August and over the past 3 years I have slowly closed myself off from making friends. I don't want to be lonely, I miss having a social life, people to share things with, people to laugh with and be silly with but I just don't know how to get it back.

June 18, 2007
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chelonia mydas
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Kalz,

Have you tried to meet other moms? Maybe join a playgroup?

I don't have kids (unless you count the furry four legged kind 🙂 ), but I have had times in my life where I just go into myself. I find doing volunteer work helps get me out of it- I am around people who have similar interests, but yet because there is work to do I am not obligated to socialize on the days I'm just not up to it- and on the days when I feel like triing I do.

I am sure others out there will post more. There are lots of mothers on this site.

Hugs,
Chelonia

June 18, 2007
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I agree with chelonia...some of the easiest ways to meet people, when you have children is thru local playgroups, which are EVERYWHERE, and free...the YMCA, the church, the playground, the library.

I wonder - do you think you are depressed? Sometimes postpartum depression happens and it really catches you off guard.

You mention twins...perhaps your hormones are still way out of wack...and with twins and three total, I can see how you could be overwhelmed, even without any kind of hormone imbalance.

Have you talked to your doctor about it?

Are you a stay at home mom? I know for me, when my daughter was born, I was very depressed being home all the time...I missed the "adult" interaction...but being broke all the time...because of the lack of income...I didn't get out. The isolation was hard to break the cycle...but once you get out, forcing yourself if you have to...it comes to an end finally.

Perhaps you can hire two high school girls to come sit with the kids while you run errands or get some exercise or go out for some "alone time"...I used to call it "mommy time". We all need a break once in a while.

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