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cleaning lady for hire
February 22, 2007
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robbie2007
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an active woman in her late 60's lives in a rather large house that she has taken care of for the past 9 years.

her husband offers to hire a cleaning lady to help her

would you welcome the help?
or feel insulted and like you are not doing good enough?

February 22, 2007
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HECK YEAH!!! Take the help. I doubt the offer has anything to do with your ability to keep up your own home, and everything to do with your husband wanting you to have more time for yourself, and him. I'm currently lookin for a cleaning lady. I KNOW I can clean the house, but an tired of being a slave to it once I get home from work. I asked my husband what he thought of having a cleaning lady around, and said, "Whatever takes some pressure off of you and allows you to have more free time."

Get one.

February 22, 2007
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take the help. regardless of intention, I'd view it as a gesture of love and appreciation. maybe he feels like he doesn't help enough and sees this as a way of doing his part.

Unless you just love housecleaning, i'm sure that you can find many more pleasant ways to occupy your time. also, a cleaning lady probably won't do all the work, so there will still picking up, laundry, etc.

bonni

February 22, 2007
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hell YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Who cares what his motives are...use it to your advantage!!!!

I would LOVE a cleaning lady.

February 22, 2007
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my old codie self would feel insulted and that I was not doing a good enough job.

But my new healthy self would welcome a cleaning lady with open arms!!!!!!!

If you don't hire her send her my way!!!!

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

February 22, 2007
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this was a question for my mother.

my father told me today that he asked her about getting her some help and he says "she has a complex"

Truthfully - I would have the same reaction.

and, actually - my mother isnt "allowed" down time by my father. but lets not get into that here. its a whole other can of worms.

however, you must know - my father is very controlling and emotionally abusive.

February 22, 2007
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Oh, I thought you were asking for yourself. In any case, being that your dad is controlling and emotionally abusive, why would he offer to get your mom a cleaning lady being that he doesn't like her to have any down time? Does he have other plans for her?

February 22, 2007
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hmmm good thought shaney - I think he is actually being nice.

hadn't really thought of the motive.

but from years of abuse - especially of never being good enough - i can understand why she would think that.
she does get offended easily. then again, so do i. but maybe thats because of him.

but now that i think about it - i think he was just being nice...

February 22, 2007
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If he doesn't give her much down time, this certainly would be his way of giving her down time.

The only catch would be if he had other reasons for wanting her "available" and planned on making her do something else instead.

But overall, it sounds like a good thing. Hell, let him put the cleaning lady down for not doing a good enough job...at least it will relieve mom of that abuse!

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