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clarrise
February 6, 2001
6:09 pm
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hi im a 24 year old mum ,i have two children one of 6 and one of 3. i lost my mum in 1998 and her death triggered off my depression . i split up with my childrens father 6 months later as we wernt getting on.i was with him 7 yrs . i am now in a new relationship but everytime i try to be happy my ex pops into my head . im trying to get on with my life and its as if hes stopping me. i still love him but i know we will never get back together as he has a new girlfriend and they are having twins , im not sure what im depressed about ,maybe its because ive had a hard life when i was younger running from men who beat my mum,i feel i believe in families staying together as i never had any proper stability but it is not my mums fault. i feel guilty towards my children for giving them the life i had , i only feel down when im at home as i work part time and when im down im angry i feel torchured as if i want the pain to go away and the only way i have thought of is by not being here , but when i think like that i know its selfish but i just want it to stop i can control it but what if one day i cant please help me by giving your views i dont know what else to do, i have never asked for help before because i just shut myself away.

February 6, 2001
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Clarrise, you have a ton of feelings raging there. So many emotions with which to try to deal. One unresolved feeling leads to another, and so on and so on. Because of this, beginning with your childhood, I think you need to seek out a good therapist. It's so very typical to be unstable as an adult when we've been taught instability as a child, and you don't want to pass that trait onto your children.

I'm pretty sure you're going to have to move on from ex. He is about to have more children and you can't keep looking for happiness and security by going backwards.

You'll be okay. Try to stop feeling guilty, children can be resilient if they know they are loved and secure. You can show them that by getting help and being strong for them. You have so much more life to live and so much more to share with your young children. And if you can sort things out and get mentally and emotionally healthy, you could be happy in another marriage someday. But don't expect to find that if you aren't happy with yourself.

Take a deep breath, relax, think straight. Go get help.

February 7, 2001
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It's good to talk it out. I have problem expressing my feelings & thoughts to others since young.

But I guessed it gradually improves. I am in my mid thirty and I find myself talking more of my problems than hiding it.

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