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Childhood Victory I
May 19, 2006
11:49 pm
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So it's graduation time which means family and parents. On the drive home from my sister's grad, I had a different opinion/critical/analytical than my parents on something (my mom's friend's want to walk down the aisle with their grads because their grads are special and they feel it was their graduation too and i think that's crazy). All of a sudden my dad shut me down and called me passive aggressive and got angry. I was going to let it all go, even left the house, but forgot something and had to go back. I figured, he's right. I'm upset and not talking about it because he's taught me to be intimidated to silence. I went downstairs, and laid out what i'd been meaning to talk to him about anyway. And that's the last time I will be intimidated and passive when someone, especially my dad, tries to step on me.

What are some ways you guys have conquered the childhood lately?

May 20, 2006
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Im starting to let go of the fear that my ex step father had over me.

May 20, 2006
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Sounds like learning that you were intimidated to silence was a powerful first step in making a change. That's great!

Conquring childhood involves similar unfinished business for me.

I think that we learn to see ourselves, first, through the eyes of our caregivers. If they are supportive and loving then we feel as though we deserve love and support.

If they are selfish and abusive, we feel as though we deserve to be abused.

My older sister was very instrumental in my upbringing. I have to get it through my skull that no matter how selfish and abusive she was, this is NOT the treatment that I deserved or deserve.

I deserve love and happiness. Everyone does.

I think that when I learn this lesson in it's entirety, I will have my ultimate childhood victory.

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