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Checking in... it feels like I've been kicked in the stomach - NEED PRAYERS
February 16, 2004
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Why is everyone saying i can start a new with someone else??? What I want is him... I want to do what Pickles did..l. play it cool and "be friends".

Pickles, did you kiss and hug and get intimate when you were "just friends"? I think he still loves me and might appreciate my friendship. What do you think? Should I give it a few more days and call him? Pickles? You said it may be too late - do you really think so?

Yes, I hope he comes back to try again. Am I being pathetic?

February 16, 2004
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artist,

you are too funny, I thought the same thing when I read pickles note to you about my own relationship. The question is are you being true to what you want. If you want his friendship then go for it, but don't expect it to me, the expectation will cause you to be hurt and maybe a bit controlling as you try to get him to come around more quickly than he is already (and be prepared for the fact that he may never come around).

I think she was so right with the Ms. Cool aspect of the relationship. When you force him to realize that you have your own life and could be happy without him, then maybe you have a shot at getting him to realize he won't be happy without you (just don't count on it)!

Wishing you all the best as you try to work your way through this. I know it sucks!

Marley

February 17, 2004
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It's a little tough when you have a lot of history with someone to back up and "be friends" without having any of your future colored by past experiences. Is it possible? Sure, anything is. Is it likely? Not really. Just seems to be the way we humans work.

February 17, 2004
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artist -

how are you doing today?

Marley

February 17, 2004
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Hi Marley, thanks for asking. Well, I want to forgive him and let him know I'm not angry, that he can consider me a friend, and not an enemy. Beyond that, I don't know. I have no hopes or expectations about anything, as it should be. I've gotten over the hurt and a whatever anger there may be, so that's good. I just want there to be peace and good things for everyone involved. My concern is with creating good, and not destruction - which used to be my past mode of expression.

February 17, 2004
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artist -

I am impressed. I am still angry at my ex-boyfriend from like 5 years ago (some days). I really hope you can be friends and maybe if you have the space of a simple friendship, you will find that he isn't who you want to be with - or better yet you guys will grow closer on a whole new level.

Take care of yourself.

Marley

February 17, 2004
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Artist, please keep us updated on how things are going. Aces and I are kind of going through the same thing you are and we think we just realized that we don't want anything else to do with our exes but if it works for you ... let us know

February 17, 2004
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Of course! I'd love to be a mentor of sorts. But you know there are more lovely women who are wiser and sometimes have to shake me to my senses from time to time.

I've been able to stay friends with a few, and a few not. I think a guy can do it no problem. Some even might take sex, but don't go doing that because it's different for women. If you had related at one time socially and intellectually, then there's a chance.

I'll check back. My therapist says it will get harder before it gets easier. I know the upcoming weekend is staring me in the face, and looming like a shadow. I'll probably be back here posting away...

February 17, 2004
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Artist, sending (((Hugs))) your way.

Yes, please keep us up to date. I too can relate to your situation, and I found this thread to be very helpful. (like I am not alone). My hubby will be moving out in 2 weeks on the reccommendation of our therapist. He needs to get some clarity and figure out what he wants, (sound familiar?)The therapist said alot of the same things Ginger said above, (we grew in different directions, losing sight of what we found in the other person in the first place).

Perhaps we should start our own thread for people trying to move on without our significant others?
Just a thought.

Ladyace

February 17, 2004
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Hi Artist, just checking in, - I can't say more than anyone else here so just to say I think of you.
Love K

February 17, 2004
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Kessie... how's arts, girl? I'm working on trying to do more. Thinking of taking a class again to get started. The studio bit at his house is completely off, of course. Love, Artist 2

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