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~charlie's catch-up~ xx
December 7, 2010
12:00 am


I just wanted to
share with you my situation. Some of you may recall that through
much of 2004 I was recovering from the fallout of an affair, and
also some mental health issues regarding depression and anxiety,
all of which were in part both fuelled by and ‘self-medicated’ with

I then found help
on this site for the many issues that seemed to plague my life, and
for that I am truly grateful.

However there was
always one constant. This time last year, I was drinking two
bottles of wine a day, I was drinking at breakfast time and
throughout the day. I had thought about stopping, but could not. My
health was deteriorating and I had developed a stomach

In May this year,
I decided to stop for good. The words ‘for good’ can seem so thin,
as there is an element of proving out the sentiment, in order to
back up the intent. I have used alcohol from the age of 18, at
first to combat a lack of perceived confidence especially in social
situations. And also it was always a precursor to feeling
uninhibited sexually, even in a monogamous relationship.

Alcohol has robbed
me of time, money and health. It has caused me to say things I
didn’t mean and to act in ways which shame me now (shamed me then,
even.) My children have witnessed all of this.

But…seven months
later, and I have not had a drink. My partner still drinks, as do
all my friends, and all my family members. But I no longer do.
Everyone has accepted that I no longer drink, and everyone is
pleased. I’m also pleased that I won’t die, a drunk.

Having broken
through the first few sceptical weeks, and also the feelings of
guilt I carried for my past behaviours, I am now a sober person,
living life free from the one thing that kept me from knowing who I

It turns out that
I like who I am.

For those of you
who can relate to this, when you get the strength to quit drinking,
grab that chance with both hands and hold on tight. You will never
regret it.



December 7, 2010
12:00 am
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a great and encouraging post. You should be so very proud of your
accomplishment. thank you for sharing with the rest of

December 9, 2010
12:00 am


Thank you for your
kind words : )

I now know what
people mean when they say that you need to be ready to embrace
change to actually change. I do feel invigorated by my new way of

I really
appreciate your post, thank you, and I do hope all is well with


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