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caught cheating w/neighbor(landlord)
May 31, 2007
6:10 pm
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A little more than a week ago my neighbor and I were caught kissing, by his 16 y/o daughter. He is also my landlord. His wife knows, his daughter knows and then it all seemed to pass. We had been emailing each other and I printed one out, not wanting to save them on the computer, and stuffed it in my purse. It was found by my husband. He took it next door to the wife and they went into the house for over 45 minute. When I knocked on the door they pretended not to be in there. Then she comes over in an hour and asked if he was alone and when he said he wasn't she asked if she could talk to him. they were in her house for another 30 minutes. to set things straight, my husband is very emotionally abusive and the only real reason I am here is because I couldn't make it on my own. For our kids too. When I talk to my landlord he just tells me we will work it out. He wrote things on this email like how I invigorated him and made him feel young again and then how I was not suppossed to fall in love with him. The wife has not wanted us to move out yet. Really strange I am thinking. There are so many more things I could say. I just need to talk about it with someone as I am not "allowed" to talk to the others that are involved in the situation. Another strange thing to me that kind of pisses me off. My husband was at first going toleave but then he stayed after he talked to the wife and we had sex this morning. Something else that is strang eif I am asked. Help me figure this out or maybe not even figure it out but just listen to me.

May 31, 2007
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find a way to make it on your own and get out of the situation. warning flags are all over this.

May 31, 2007
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ummmm t8 you don't live in a trailer park by any chance?

May 31, 2007
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I was the other woman in a relationship. It has taken me a long time to get over it. I would suggest that you put this behind you. Nothing ever good comes from loving a guy that is not available. The chances of him leaving his wife are very slim. The chances that he will cheat again with someone else is also very possible. Now that everything is out in the open, chances are high that your neighbors will be just fine as looks as if it has already passed the test. The wife is going to hold on to him. I remember my ex telling me how alive i made him feel, blah blah blah. It all sounds so familiar. But in the end actions speak louder than any words. He is not moving anywhere. Words don't mean much if he is putting you on hold. He could have taken action but he is not. He has made his decision. You sure are in a tough spot. It sounds as if you need to be on your own if you are unhappy in your marraige. Focus on yourself for awhile. Get counseling. People often have sex for pure stress relief. Married people will have sex no matter what is going on outside. I would read books on self esteem. I learned not to put myself in a position to be someone's sidekick, I learned to control my actions and decide what is good for me. Just keep talking and learning.

May 31, 2007
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t8...you've got yourself between a rock and a hard place. I think you were caught because you want your husband to leave you since you don't have the courage to leave him yourself. As you said you don't believe you can make it on your own. Guess what? You can. You might have to be on assistance for a while but unless you are sick and cannot work, you can make it. I agree with Taj..you need to work on your self-esteem. You are letting your husband abuse you and your landlord use you. You are worth so much more. You deserve to be with someone who loves you, respects you, and wants to do nothing but what is the best for you. None of the people around you see you this way and that makes me sad. More importantly, I don't think you see yourself as someone who deserves to be cherished, respected and honored which is your birthright as a human being. Would you consider attending CoDa meetings? Are you in therapy? Please keep posting. Most of us here understand drama very well because we have lived are living it in some form or other. There is no judgement..

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