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Can't Quite Get It together!
January 3, 2002
7:47 pm
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hrtbreaker
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I know all the things that are wrong with me, yet I can't seem to control or get a grip on things. My mouth always gets me into trouble. I always say things out of anger or fustration because I can't see past that certain situation, then end up losing people I really care about. I am a very attractive young women. I never have a problem making friends or attracting the men, I want. My problem is keeping people around. I always say things or do things, to make people never want to look back. I know what's wrong, I know what I do wrong, but how do I control it? How do I stop myself from making the same mistakes over and over again? I am the result of so much pain in my life. Losing the people I can't and don't want to live without.. Can someone plese help me get a grip??????

January 3, 2002
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Okay, I lied. I have to reply to this post . . .

I do the same thing a lot of the time. I say things I wish I hadn't. I think a lot of people do that at one time or another . . . It's hard to bite your tongue sometimes. But it's also a distancing method . . . to keep people away from us emotionally, we sometimes say things like this . . . I've done it with my parents, my boyfriend, the professor (though being distant from him is mostly a good thing, if you've read my other posts . . . ) and yet I feel bad and wish I hadn't, even with people I know are no good for me.

If you really want someone in your life, you have to learn not to do this. I have to learn to. But we all make mistakes . . . we all say something we shouldn't have. But one mistake is not many, and if we continually push people out of our lives, we will feel lonely and unloved. However, we can't depend on other people for happiness . . . that's something I've learned and am just beginning to deal with.

I'm not really sure how to handle this, since it's a problem I Have myself . . . I am going to get counselling, maybe you should to? Talking about problems help . . . venting. Sometimes taking a "time out" of sorts when we're angry at someone prevents us from saying things we shouldn't, but it's not always available to us. We can't always get away at that moment. Maybe those people aren't good for us and we're trying to drive them away, and we know this deep down? It may be all of this and more . . .

I definitely hear you . . . Hope things turn out better. Know you're not alone, as I am struggling with this myself.

January 3, 2002
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oh hrt this sounds just like me when I was younger and still some now but I do have more controll today. Most that helps me is to get to know me and love me, then I don't feel I need to lash out at others as much. You might ask well, what to do to like yourself better? What is working for me is to write the anger down, counseling, my friends here, staying sober and talking about things that I use to have to hide from others. I had to hide everything. I was raised in a baptist home and everything is a damn sin. Get a grip by talking to all of us. We are ok people!!!

January 3, 2002
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ok I'll speak for myself (LOL)

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