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Cannot stop fantasizing about past relations
December 29, 2000
3:02 am
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charlotte
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I am a married woman. I consider myself fairly attractive and I cannot stop fantasizing about some past relations. One of them happened to be married. For four years I indulged in a intimate relationship with a very attractive, local psychotherapist. He was much older than me. By, I'll say, 50 years. I couldn't help it. The first time I had a counseling session with him he made it clear to me that he was interested in me outside of the sessions. He was widowed and I immediately accepted. After four to five years of a yo-yo type relation I broke it off. I met a very nice man and got married. We have a son. The past lover was discarded. I was honest with my husband, and he was clearly upset. He did not wish for me to speak with the doctor ever again. But nowadays I find myself purposely heading towards the direction of his clinic and fantasizing about another session. I know this is not healthy. And I do want to start some therapy again, but I cannot seem to connect talking to a woman doctor. I feel extremely uncomfortable. And I am afraid if I seek a male doctor, this relationship fantasy may come up again. Please, any suggestions, has anyone else experienced this? I do not want to be unfaithful to my husband, but it is all I can think about lately. He works all the time and I feel like I just want someone to hold me. My husband is not very passionate on the personal level, but he is working on it. I know I still need some therapy, please help....

December 29, 2000
9:47 am
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The grass is always greener...until you get over there and see the crabgrass and weeds.

Get therapy..try a woman...you don't know how that will work til you go... And yes..I think your fantasy feeling need discussion with a third party.

You need to tell your husband ..in words...outloud...to come home earlier and also "I need a big hug"

Schedule a weekend away with your hubby and tell him it's a chance for the two of you to Play.

Good luck

December 29, 2000
7:02 pm
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Molly
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The man violated you, that was unethical, and you know that. Seek help from a female, and get the thoughts out of your head. Why is the forbidden attractive to you? Why did you marry your husband, he doesn't deserve to have you thinking of the perp, so get some help.

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