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Can you stay friends ?
October 18, 2007
4:31 pm
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My friend of three months and i have decided not to have sex and just be friends. I need to know if that is possible. I was told that she did not want a relationship from day 1, we still talk everyday. This is very hard for me because we used to spend a lot of time together and every weekend.She is going out this weekend but not with me. can i keep her in my life realistically without wanting more? If you are intimate feelings will suface i have learned. But one good thing this time i am not devasteded because she was honest .

October 18, 2007
4:34 pm
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Maybe back off and get some new friends, let her see you are interesting to others and that you have life are no doormat here, or else you will become one waiting around...and being hurt, good luck to you...friends, yes if you want that, but it seems you want more??? And she doesn't here...get a life without her, she is moving on appareently here, so should you!

October 18, 2007
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tough question, you mention friends and having sex, no more.....were you ever really bf & gf?? or more just a friend type of sexual thing?? and you can get hurt this way.

If she chose to be friends, I would wean myself away from her, she is moving on with her life, and it may hurt you, but now is the time to heal
and hang out with your regular friends and don't rush into dating too soon,esp. if you still have feelings for this "friend".

October 19, 2007
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haze.

I had to chime in here to offer another point of view. I dont know your situation but I am in the same type of situation. Only I am the one needing space. I told him from the beginning I could only be friends with him at this point in my life.

Heres the thing. No Im not in love with him. For that reason sex feels wrong. But I do love him. I dont want to lose him as a friend. He is like my best friend. But through all our talking and hanging out, and we have always had a great time, I started feeling like I was being pushed into a relationship. I cannot handle that right now.

I know I need to work on myself, and I cannot do that if I jump into another relationship. Right now I cant fall in love with anyone because ... Well just because so I finally have the chance to just be me with out a partner and learn who I am and what I need to do to keep myself sane and from ending up in the same types of situations I have been in in the past.

Im sure this didnt help any as far as the question of can we stay friends went but I wanted everyone to understand where your friend could be coming from.

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