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Can I strangle my sister without going to jail
January 13, 2003
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I've been with my bf for almost 2 years. He does not fit into the "normal" mold of what my friends and family would picture me with. He isn't gorgeous or wealthy. He has hair to his waist that I braid and he wear's only mocassins. He is a musician, no 9 to 5'r. He doesn't drink and speaks his mind. I don't know if I'll be with him forever, but now, today, I enjoy him in my life.

I have 3 sisters, one of them, "L" hates my boyfriend. She says I'm different when I'm with him and she tells everyone this but me. Her 12 year old daughter stayed with me for a few days during winter break and told my daughter that she hates my bf. He has been nothing but good to her, friendly to her and makes her laugh. She gets her opinion from her mother which is awful.

L is bitter, angry, negative, nothing is ever good and she always finds fault in what people do. If she isn't happy then she wants no one to be happy. She has been thru several failed relationships but refuses to believe it could be because of her in any way. She drinks constantly and gets mad when we all don't drink with her. Actually yelled at me for not keeping up with her.....

She e-mailed a mutual friend of ours and said that our family Christmas was dysfucntional because he was there.....OMG. This coming from the one that yelled at our mom on Christmas day over where her dog can and cannot lie in my mom's house and made our mom cry.

I don't know what to do, most of the time I don't care what they think, I'm happy, and that's what matters. She just got to me this time and the "mutual" friend has asked me not to say anything to her because she will then be mad at him. Uggggg!

January 13, 2003
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tsk, tracelyn!

Strangling Sisters is illegal. I've looked it up before 😉

Just make sure to keep your distance. It does hurt a lot when close family are mean and hurtful to you. It hurts even more when you see that a close family member lives a life of bitterness and anger. It hurts because you love them and you don't want your loved ones to be hurt, not even by themselfs. And it hurts even more, because those people who spin round and round in their bitter life, try to get hold of something outside their circles and often hurt a lot of people around them.

This is propably not about you, not about your man, but about your sister. Just get your boundaries in place and operate from there. Protect yourself from hurt. Try to let her go and let her be. And mot importantly: try to ignore the meanness.

January 13, 2003
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Ive learned to make distance between myself and toxic relatives during my healing, it is most important for you to do for YOURSELF.

January 13, 2003
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
if there was a way.....

As much as we would all like all of our fmilies to get along with everyone we think is great....ain't gonna happen.

One of , bot of my sisters have turned into big time "city girls" (nothing wrong with that) and at times I feel "left behind" for more reasons than one.

just let it go as much as you can...if you need to speak your mind do so gently yet to the point and love her anyway.

And have a great time with that bf.

ta

January 13, 2003
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A little story.

Many years ago, my sister who was 33 at the time, educated, executive type , making very good money.

Beautiful!

Dated very wealthy handsome men.

Then one day, she met this man who
was 24 years old. Worked at a hamburger joint. Going to school.

He was Jewish. A little overweight and blind in one eye.

She fell head over heels in love with him.

Needless to say, family was slightly disappointed.

They ended up getting married.

Today-

he is a doctor, professor at a major university.

In 1999 he made the national Who's Who list.

Life can be interesting.

DragonRider

January 14, 2003
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Wow, Thanks for the advise. I'm feeling better about it today. She has he own problems....she will never be happy for anyone unless they are as unhappy as she is.

DragonRider~thanks....gives me something to think about. I never thought I'd be with my bf, not someone I would have been attracted to but WOW, who knew........

Be well all.

January 14, 2003
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Dragonrider, very nice input.

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