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Calm emotionless and daughter just was arrested .....
March 16, 2006
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My oh my how much can one person take ya know...it seems to go on and on for me.

Daughter got arrested for assault tonite - 18 yrs old ...happened last year with another girl that she called names at and then they faught....my daughter had bite marks on her and filed a report but the other must have filed charges.

We had the police come to our house and take her away. I am waiting for them to process her then gonna bail her out.

Some of you already know that there has been so much already going on with me.

But I am totally emotionless ...in fact asked the police if she could jsut stay there and they said it could be months .......to note she has not had anything else happen ...other than a few piercings and one party at our house. Well, actually her best friend left her house 4 months prior to the above fight and was killed in a car accident a mile away with my daughter coming upon the accident and being at the ER when they pronounced her dead....guess I am in denial ....

Not sure what I am supposed to feel.....

March 16, 2006
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honey, hang in there? are you a single mom?

you know today on the way home from work i was thinking about my boys. i was at a stoplight and a boy about 11 skateboarded across the street. and i thought back to a time about 8 yrs ago, when my middle son was living with his dad, as was my older one. My middle one was as thin as a rail, drinking, never home, not going to school, flunking, and sick alot. i was in the throes of a divorce that was messy, my ex was too ill to take care of them. my oldest was on drugs, could not make it to school, was a very angry boy, always in fights and was dealing marijuana for cash. it was a horrible time. my oldest ended up in jail when he was 18...for a weekend. it was the absolute worst weekend in my life, but the most life changing one for him. he was never the same when he came home. he appreciated everythign more, and the anger was gone...it was a wake-up call for him.

Both of my boys have turned out so well, now 22 and 24. looking back, i never would have thought it possible. i spent much time on my knees praying for them though. i beleive God honored those prayers. and, i have one more son, now 18, who is the light of my life...and for a time i didn't think he was going to make it, but he has.

So my point....hang in there, pray for her, and 18 is not the end of the world. She will most likely get better with age. Being a single mom is crazy at times, but if that is the case for you, then don't forget to take care of you too!!

March 16, 2006
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oh, and i forgot to add tht i left my son there on purpose, just so he would make sure and learn that it was not a place he wanted to be. it killed me to do so, but maybe just leave her there for a couple of days?

March 16, 2006
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You daughter just got arrested for a fight that happened last year?

March 16, 2006
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Yes Nov 05 was the fight. I just bailed her out and am sitting here trying to get ready for bed altho tis almost morn.

she told me on the way home that she has panic attacks all the time since her best friend died...having to sometimes pull over when driving.
We talked about god and healing and counseling which she has refused to go ....but she seemed receptive tonite...I will continue to pray as I have been.

I am married, but having issues there also.

March 16, 2006
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codyrn,

I feel your pain. My daughter was arrested two days ago for drug posession. She and another person were caught smoking pot in the hallway of her high school. What was she thinking?

I'll keep you and your daughter in my prayers. It's good to hear that she's open to counseling. That's a first step. It sounds like she has a lot of pain to work through. You do too. Please be gentle with each other.

Peace be with you.....Lt

March 16, 2006
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Thanks for your support.... I need to remind myself that I can be gentle and work on my own codependent issues at the same time. I can put up such a wall that I am cold and closed.

She cried tonite and I felt her pain as she must drive by her best friends wreck to get to the house she lives at....no other way there.
We had a very tender conversation and I pray she will listen to God

March 16, 2006
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Lt4others

did u bail her out ? Has she been otherwise a pretty good kid ?

March 16, 2006
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codyrn-our gov. is slipping. my son was arrested for punching a boy at school last month over a girl. when we got to court, they were charging him with terroristic assault. (give me a break) have u ever??? we now have a lawyer. the boys have since made up and are friends again. this is a little over the top for me.

have u considered getting some kind of couseling for your daughter? let us know how this plays out....

March 16, 2006
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codryn,

It sounds like your daughter made progress. That's wonderful. It's a good sign when the tears come out. Healing can now begin.

My daughter can be a good kid, she's just morally weak. She's ADHD and struggles with depression. She has an amazing talent when it comes to art and has been accepted for college by two art institutes. I just wish her behavior was better.

The way they handle drug cases in her school surprised me. There is a police officer assigned to the school full time. He arrested her and processed her right at the school. She was not taken to the county jail. The school notified her mother at work, who then met with the police and took my daughter home. As arrests go, it could have been worse.

What troubles me is that my daughter shows no remorse. She knows what she's doing is wrong, but she does it anyway. She's promised us over and over that she won't use drugs again, but she does. She's tested monthly by a county drug counselor. As a child, she was honest to a fault. Now that she's an older teenager (17), she's lies and is deceptive. It's so frustrating. I don't know what to do.

Done venting for now.....Lt

March 16, 2006
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guppy, good grief, that sounds so rediculous, 'terroristic assault'? that's a new one. i never ceased to be amazed. even the 'deadly weapon' definition has changed.

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