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Calling Out Rouxlady
February 28, 2007
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Hey Bev! What do you mean by slithering around??? I am confused....

The weekend was good. My doctor appt. went well, I guess. I am making good progress, but I am not going to reach the goals I had hoped for. It seems that my joints are "hyperflexed" so therefore the implant leg can't function in that same capacity. Also, I didn't know that I would have to have yearly checkups with Xrays and MRIs, etc. I did know that this would only last 10-15 years. I guess I thought I was going to be better off and now I think I am not going to be and that has me a little down. But, I am going to put forth my best effort in p.t. and then swim a lot this summer.

February 28, 2007
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GG

Slithering, I was just teasing. Sorry.

I'm sorry that you are disappointed with your prognosis. Where will you swim?

Did you have any other fun this weekend?

February 28, 2007
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bev, do NOT apologize silly...We have a pool, so I hope I can swim and strengthen the muscles in my leg. It took us over a year to get a new fence since the hurricane, so I am looking forward to using the pool again. Yes, I did some shopping at the galleria and went out to eat. I still tire easily and that is annoying. Pverall, a good weekend.

February 28, 2007
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Bev,

Somehow I missed this last night. I do not always read this thread everyday. I usually keep up with reading it every couple of days.

Thanks for asking about my weekend. It was good. I was away from my family for the first time in 6 years. I really just needed a weekend with a couple of my girlfriends. We had a lot of fun. I was kind of sad to have to come home, BUT, it was fun while it lasted. My hope is now, to make a point of doing it a little more often. Such as NOT waiting until I am completely drained by being a wife and a mother. I found it to be refreshing, and something that I REALLY enjoyed. But, truly, it showed me to some degree just how codependent I am. I struggled to give much input as to what I wanted to eat, or where I might have interest in going. I am so used to making choices for everyone else, that I am at a loss for what I want to do. It was kind of a sad realization, but one that I WILL do something about. I want to figure out who I am, and what it is that I enjoy, and learn to love me again. And I think that I started that pretty well this last weekend.

Again, thanks for asking. I DO appreciate it. It was a LOT of fun, and I am looking forward to doing it again.

I do hope that all is well with you.

Mich

(((Bev)))

February 28, 2007
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Bumping this for Bev....I just wanted to make sure that you saw that I had responded to your question.

I hope that you are having a good day.

Mich

March 1, 2007
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Mich

I had to work a killer 12 hour shift.

Good for you for treating yourself to a nice weekend. You deserve a break and I hope you will be able to do it more often.

I'm doing pretty good, but it's almost 2 in the morning and I am going to try to get some sleep- I have to get up at 7.

Talk to you later

Bevdee

March 1, 2007
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GG

I am envious that you have a pool- oh wait!! I have a pool too!!! but it's a quarter mile fromm the house, around 2 corners, 3 paths and 4 steep hills!! My lake.

I think the swimming will be great for PT, and I think you are still being too hard on yourself and too impatient - just my opinion.

Talk to you later, Rouxlady.

March 1, 2007
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Bev, well that pool is a drain on the pocketbook and is work, work, work sometimes....but very nice to have in the summers. My kids really enjoy it.

Okay, you have me pegged...I am TOO IMPATIENT with me and maybe a little too hard on myself? Gosh, kind of gives me the creeps to admit it because those descriptions are my dad made over...ugh. He is VERY impatient and is very tough on himself and expects us to be the same. When we we were tough on ourselves, he was so proud of us. Okay bev, that realization just popped out as I typed it!!! Whoa!!
Think that is enough thinking for me this early morning and don't want to get too emotional before work...gotta go get ready anyway...

Don't work too hard!!!

March 1, 2007
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(((GG)))

I love you girl. I hope that you understand that you are NOT your dad. Try not to be so hard on yourself...you are a WONDERFUL woman. I believe that you are a lot more patient that you give yourself credit for...look at your past. Now yes, with this situation you may be impatient, but I have heard enough to know that you have the patience of a saint. Don't sell yourself short...Please. You are a good woman.

I love you. Keep moving forward. You are great.

Mich

(((GG))) another hug to get you through the day....

March 1, 2007
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Thanks mich...I don't know where you have seen my patience here. Even my doc and p.t. told me that I am too impatient and my h tells me I am all the time. But thanks for the compliment. Maybe I am patient with other people? Maybe that is what you see? About not being my dad, I know I am not him, but I do see some of his bad characteristics in myself and that makes me physically sick. I am sure you know what I mean. But there are also sides of my mother that I see in myself that I don't like either. Why can't I ever see the good in myself or that I may have even gotten from them? Now I am wondering what I have passed to my children...ugh....

March 1, 2007
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Your putting up with your h says a LOT about your patience. And as far as your dad GG, we ALL have some bad characteristics. I have some of my moms too. I don't like them either. So we need to do whatever we have to to make us different...and that is what we are here trying to do. We will all pass our traits to some of our children, good and bad. Some they will pick up from other places and develop on their own. The same happened to us. You can't beat yourself up for the past....just do your best to change the future. Love your children, but most of all...LOVE YOU. You are special...you are. Work on you, the rest will fall into place. I love you sweet sister, and I am holding you close...

Mich

March 1, 2007
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Is there a book on how to love me? Or how to begin?

bev, remember we started writing positive things about ourselves which was such a struggle. I wish we could go back and continue that or at least try.

March 1, 2007
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gg,

I'm struggling right now, would you mind if I joined you?

Isis

March 1, 2007
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sure, I am back and forth here...what's wrong?

March 1, 2007
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gg, loving yourself is not an easy thing to do. Something that I still REALLY struggle with...

We have been tought that we are not lovable and that we don't deserve that. The truth is just this, that is a lie. We have to learn to accept and believe that we are lovable. I don't always see myself that way. BUT, I am getting better. It is a long road, it took us several years of being taught that we are not lovable...it won't change in a month or two for most people. We have to believe.

I think that the big thing, is we have to watch what we are saying out loud. I know when I look in the mirror I do not like what I see. BUt I need to quit telling me that. I need to start saying that I am beautiful, and there are people that love me, and I am an ok person. IF you say or hear ANYTHING long enough...you will not believe it. So, I think that the more good things that we can say about ourselves the better off we will be...

Make sense?

(((gg))) (((Isis))) (((Bev)))

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Oh boy- so much. I really need to start my own thread, and I will. It's just that I'm running out of time today. I've posted a lot today and very soon it will be time to get the kids here and there.

Let's just say that I was a bad mommy this morning and really mishandled some stuff with my three boys, and before school to boot.

I feel like a total loser of a mom.

I'll try to post- in the meantime,
thanks- for being here.

Isis

March 1, 2007
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Isis,

just remember that none of us are perfect honey. Don't beat yourself up. When your kids get home, you wrap your arms around them and apologize and love them. There is nothing wrong with apologizing for the way that you have treated them if you know that you were wrong....and they will remember that. Just try to breath slow, and try to remember to walk away before yuo say or do anything that might be way out of line. I have four small children...trust me sweets...I understand. And I know that I have moments that I am certainly in the wrong. Doesn't make me a bad mom, just a mom having a bad moment.

(((Isis)))

Mich

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I'm waiting for the two little ones as we speak, then I'll go pick up my two oldest at school. I hope they're OK, it was pretty ugly.

Thanks Michy,

Isis

March 1, 2007
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Isis, I liked what michy said about a bad moment. One thing I have learned to do was to apologize to my children. I think it is important and to then to tell them I love them. It is hard to do since I was not taught that way. I find that it makes a great difference and children can be very forgiving if they know you are sorry and know you love them. I hope you feel better....(((Isis)))

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(((Isis))) I am hoping that your night is looking better than your morning. I am thinking about you. Remember, you are not a bad mom. You are a good mom having a bad day. It is ok. I KNOW that it doesn't feel that way, but it is true. Keep your chin up. Hug them, tell them you love them, and apologize of you have to. It is ok to say sorry to them. I don't know their ages, but they know that you are a good mom. I am sure that they made it through the day ok...please let us know how your afternoon went.

Mich

(((Isis)))

March 1, 2007
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Isis

I'm sorry to hear you had a bad day. Thank you for your explanation of definition of paganism on the other thread.

I have missed seeing you peeking your head around the corner!! Where ya been? How is your arm and your seat? (((Miss Isis)))

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(((Isis)))

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You girls are the best.

Michy- those words..."you are a good mom having a bad day" Those are about the kindest words anyone has ever said to me. They really brightened my day.

gg- you're right- it is important to apologize to our children and tell them that we love them. I understand where you're coming from when you say you weren't taught that- same goes for me.

bev- I've has a bad two weeks! I'm not going to clutter up gg's thread with my problems though- I'm going to start my own. I thought about updating our thread on Libs, however, I need some support so I'll start my own over here. See you then.

Love to you all,

Isis

March 1, 2007
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(((Lolli))) Thanks

Hang in there cutie.

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Bev, Just wondering how you are doing? I see you supporting so many here, but wondering if you are okay...you spilled a lot recently and I just wanted to make sure you are doing alright...gg

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