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C.A.T. - CONTINUED ASCENT TRAINING - SININHO
April 10, 2007
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I´m back from I don´t know where all I have been. I know it´s been a lot of time with kitty. I keep saying she´s a baby, but I´ll figure what what 4 months means for a cat and start weening oft of some much lap business. Other than trying to claim my bed, she´s doing fine. I know I haven´t been laying down so much cuz my mattress is up the wall. She still makes some use of it, though. She climbs up to the top of it.

Ive got to set boundaries around here. First with kitty. Then my neighbor. The ahrd part is Im either too sweet or too harsh.

Let me tell you about him, the neighbor. From day one when he moved to the building, he was sort of inviting himself into my life. I even had the impression he was single. I should know better... Now I´m friends with him and his girlfriend. Theyre like married without living together. I dont know very clearly how I got into another trio, another two actually. Though there´s nothing to show it.

His girlfriend is a very nice friend of mine. I brought her a rose today from kitty. She was one of the two friends that got me to the hospital when I od´d. I was with girlfriend, her boyfriend and his daughter this weekend for a nice getting together with kitty. Another day she was here while her boyfriend changed the shower in my bathroom.

Today I asked the guys upstairs for some help with the PC. The trainee couldnt help. Comes the boyfriend. He helps me and kitty comes onto his lap. She wants to play and bites him slightly. I joke saying "there are many ways of loving, biting being one." He says "can I bite you". I say "yeah" What the hell? I can´t think two things at the same time as the guys can. He opens a huge mouth and I yell "No!" He smiles: "you said I could". I guess I looked afraid. We joked how sometimes we instinctively get scared by something we haven´t really been hurt by. I hastened him home (it was after hours). Then, to make matters worse, I go to the door with him and say only animal bites are allowed, like "only animal love is allowed here and betweeen kittten and me". He hears obviously "only animal love is allowed here..."

The thing is I´m sending double messages and today I was almost called to task! I felt jokes were a nice guard but I can´t joke as well as pro jokers. And I´m attracted by this guy, or by his mask. In reality there´s nothing attractive about an unloyal man. And I´m disappointed at myself.

No more asking favors?

April 10, 2007
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LOL tsk,tsk, tsk...my intuition is right on everytime!!! ((((Sini)))!!

I loved your story Sini. Yeah about the neighbor man, geesh, hmmmm, not sure how you should start setting a boundary there- he sure seems like quite the problem...hmmmm...

guess if you really feel that it could be a problem (feeling disappointed with yourself) it might be best not to ask anymore favors of him lest the temptation. What always start out as innocent fun sometimes has a way of biting us, huh?! But then again other times innocent fun has a way of making our hearts feel a little lighter...tough call there my friend.

Wished I had some words of wisdom for you...

April 10, 2007
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Sini girl - a situation can only go somewhere if you let it. A little flirting here and there isn't a crime - in fact, I think it's healthy when done with good intentions. You flirted, it began to feel a bit uncomfortable, so back off a little and get back to your comfort zone. Only you know where that is. Next time you're around him, be a little more reserved. Once he sees that you have cooled your engines a bit, he will more than likely do the same. If he doesn't get it and goes beyond what you're comfortable with, you can always say something jokingly, that will give him the message, while not embarrassing him or hurting his feelings.

I think you can rewind this situation more easily that you may think. I have the utmost faith in you, my friend :o)

Kiss kitty for me... I'm going to take a hot bath and go to bed. I'll be around tomorrow if you want to chat. I'll check this thread tomorrow!

April 11, 2007
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Sini...sorry for what happened with your neighbour. I am very careful with neighbours. In fact, I have 2 noisy ones. One lives right over me, claiming to be mentally-retarted...I think he's more than that. He seems to be PD..the other (Spanish one) who lives next to me and who...Speaks loudly, I could honestly hear him yelling when he speaks. lol

Just be careful...follow your gut feelings even if he has gf. Men likes to have more than one gf. I used to be naive b4. Now I am more smart and make friends carefully. Next time try not to joke with him and follow your instincts.

Please read my other post. I've had some questions there 4 u!

Sweet Dreams!

PS: My thread is still there....just check it out. Be careful of your neighbour esp since he has gf. Best to you hon. Kisses to u & kitty!!!

April 11, 2007
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Oh, girlfriends, I missed your posts last night, it was getting late, I got too tired, couldn´t read the screen anymore. Tks for replying.

((LL)) your intuition is a state of the art radar, isn´t it? I´m so lousy with expressing my feelings and thoughts that they (play of words) bite me back for true. Hugs,

((Shaney)) Yes, I want my comfort zone back so I´ll cool the engines, LOL! I was really giving in to pressure since it´s been like this since he moved in. And wass also boosting my ego the wrong way, maybe. I´ll try not to feel guilty about it. And there I go again having to sink my feet underground not to sway in my opinions. The guy is not that attrractive. No more than some of my students. He just doen´st know boundaries. Hugs,

((Ras)) I will really try not to make jokes. Latin men sometimes just don´t have boundaries. And youre right, men like more than one girlfriend. In fact here they say if they have only one, some guy must have almost ten as its said that there is almost ten women for each men. Hugs,

I guess I dint mentioned that at the door he said his gf didnt need to know... I should have grown up more, no, grown just as reserved as I was as a child. Social pressures arised and I decided humor was a way of getting away from me, and distancing myself from others.. On top of it, Latin cultures are very indirect and touchy. Good thing I´m not that touchy.

Ill try to imagine a fan on my head cooling off this guy every time I see him...

April 11, 2007
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Sini - don't lose your sense of humor - it's a gift that can get you in and out of sticky situations! I think that you can bring this situation right back down to where you want it. Just be true to your wants and needs, and be cool and assertive when you feel he's getting a little ahead of himself. I guarantee that he'll try to engage in another little flirt session with you, so just be prepared. You can always say something like, "You know, I really enjoy the friendship that the three of us have developed. It's nice to be able to joke around like we do without things getting too serious."

That ought to knock his ego back into reality, without embarassing him TOO bad. :o)

April 11, 2007
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I forgot to mention that when I was living in my previous place in this same building, there was a flirtatious single dad neighbour who had his gf coming over and they would have noisy sex, loud laughs at midnite that really bothered me. Now, when I come across him, I totally ignore him even tho he greats me. He is a real jerk!

I know how tough life is for a single conservative lady. People don't care if you're spiritual or not or have boundaries. In fact, they pretend coz it's not convenient to them.

My other neighbour who lives over me now...is another jerk under the pretext that he is mentally- retarted, he would invite me out, chase after me. Back then, I was that shy codep person who finds it hard to say no. It's really hard to find a decent, respectful man in the complex. That's why I'm careful. I only talk with those I feel comfy with. As I practice what I preach...I just follow my heart.

My other Spanish neighbour is....I am learning Spanish thanks to his ever loud voice. Wait till the nice sunny weather comes and we sit out on the beautiful balcony...I will be singing in Spanish and come on here and talk & sing to you in....Spanish which is close to Portogues.

How about that...a song in Spanish??? I hope your class was fun!!! (((Sinni)))

April 11, 2007
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((Ras)) LOL, you singing in Spanish!

Here´s one song worth looking for in the web for tune and lyrics since my Spanish is really survivor´s level:

"Que se passa con la banda?!
Lo que passa con la banda es que
La banda está borracha, está borracha!"

Meaning "what´s happening with the band? what´s happening with the band is that the band is drunk!"

((Shaney)) Tks for going all the way and even giving me a "spiel". That´s how I like the game: trasparent. Usually it stops people on their tracks. The hard part is getting angry at the charm some guys throw our way. Then again, who´s at fault? That´s just the way things are.

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I realize I didn´t learn to establish boundaries. At least, I´m learning now and with people who as far as I can tell wish me well.

While single, I used to consider myself something in between conservative and way too open, that is, really lost! If I liked the guy, no boundaries (except sexually speaking). If I didn´t like the guy, I had a full armour. I´m learning the hard way about being single in a fast moving no boundaries world. You got to take a stand!

I mean you can´t just go off hugging people for example. It happened to me once that I had a nice dinner with a boyfriend of mine and a recently married couple. The evening was sooo nice. I felt sooo comfortable. Then as I got into my friend´s car, I reached over to hug him and he almost forced me to a kiss. I kept forcing him away with my arms but froze the rest of my body except the knees which trembled like leaves in the wind. Now here the thing was that the guy had been my sister´s boyfriend. I couldn´t kiss my sister´s ex-boyfriend?! Thank HP the guy remained my friend.

I hate to say this, but I feel like I am/was a nerd in boy-girl relationships. Less of a nerd in other relationships. I wonder what part of my sexual education was messed up?! Maybe being an introvert by nature and having precocious sexual education. As I remember I always got sexual answers before I had questions cuz I was the third child, mainly. And my parents were very open when there was any sexual curiosity.

Gee, I never spoke about this as much... I realize I gotta keep more up to date about the dating scene so I can speak its language and read the male population better.

Sigend:

As always,

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April 11, 2007
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Don't worry Sini...in time while you're healing from your codep traits, gradually you will become a strong assertive person & boundaries will come automatically.

Just a few years ago...I was in your shoes even worse. I was scared, nervous, too sweet person who did not know how to say "No" to people. Thanks to growth...I was able to evolve. Coming to this wonderful site with its warm & wise folks here, I was able to make big strides that I can hardly recognize myself today.

Tho I'm conservative girl...I'm also quite warm and friendly person. Probably here is where men and male neighbours get mixed messeges and take advantage of our generous heart. My sex-noise producing neighbour is like that. He has a daughter who is maybe 10 years and since I love kids, I used to greet them both whenever we came across each other. On halloween, I would give his daughter some candies, at Xmas some treats etc. He took advantage of me and showed himself to be jerk, by that noisy sex. Now I'm much wiser and only speak with those I feel they are decent ones. It's a real blessing to have at least One good neighbour. I have that one and he and I get along with each other...but only as friends no strings attached. I hope you will find at least that only good one where you live, does not have to be romantic relationship, just pure platonic one.

Sweet Dreams to u & kitty!

April 12, 2007
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(((Ras))), thank you. You´re right about the blessing of having one good neighbor. It´s quality that counts, not quantity. I will try to be very clear about this neighbor´s role in my life. He and his girlfriend are always so friendly and helpful, I tend to forget boundaries. So far he made me embarassed, but now I felt ashamed of myself. Not a pretty feling. Gotta discard that one and learn that we are human with flaws but will have to accept the consequences.

tks again,

April 12, 2007
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Ras, should we start a feline therapy thread?!

Well, Im trying to play the role of a good cat mom, but I´m not so sure I can establish boundaries, while giving all my love to kitty.

I´m trying to train my cat therapist. I´m starting out with a 4 month old cat who learns fast. That´s good when it comes to good things but not vice versa. Her name is Mitzie Fabulous Lastname. How´s that? Well, she didn´t complain about her name. I wanted to call her Fab but it didn´t settle right with her god mothers. And last I learned that cats respond well to namees ending in /ee/ sound.

The problem (or the situation) is that it is M who is really training me. I am more relaxed and loving as I watch her, as well as busier and more motivated.

But I´m also frustrated as a cat mom cuz I used negative reinforcement with her, and she reacted badly. For example I yelled, slightly hit her with my finger and squirted some water over her when she came onto my bed. (Cuz I´m practically having to claim my bed back! Without ever holding her while in bed) Now when she goes to my bedroom (really a room with no door, only a partition wall), she kind of tip toes, has her back arched and her fur upright. She´s a little devil sometimes. But I don´t want her to be fearful of me and associate me with scolding rather than associating the scolding with the bad behavior.

Neither do I want to let her take advantage of me. Today I had a visit from an older lady wearing a skirt. She jumped onto the legs of the lady with her very sharp tiny nails as she got used to jumping on mine when I´m at the computer, like now. The thing is I wear pants, usually jeans. My response was to say no and hit her slightly on her nose. I feel like an abuser. I need to figure out a trick to wean her off my lap. I just looked at her sleping and sucking as if dreaming that she was with her cat mom.

I figure 4 months is like 14-15 years in human years. Do I treat her as a teenager (not that I know how)? I hear at seven months she can be a mom!! Do I treat her like an adult?! Does the fact that she was abandoned gives or takes any years from her?!

I´ll try following my heart while trying to set up boundaries as per the article below. Your comments please!

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What Kitty Doesn't Want You to Know - http://www.catsinternational.o....._know.html Direct correction or punishment of felines only results in owner-absent behavior, so put away the squirt gun. It's time to come up with more creative solutions, strategies that will work when you are asleep or at work as well as when you are monitoring Kitty's activities. Let the environment, not you, convince Kitty of what he does and doesn't want to do. Booby traps, also known as remote corrections, are the secret to keeping Kitty from forbidden areas when you are at home or away. They allow you to be the "good guy" which is very important for Kitty's mental health. Some of these kitty repellents are: solid air fresheners, especially citrus-scented ones, vinyl carpet runners turned upside down (ouch!), eucalyptus oil on rags, a mini-motion detector from Radio Shack (it's battery-operated with an alarm chime and costs about $25), and double-sided carpet tape or Contact Paper (to divert scratching activities). Important: For every activity that is thwarted by these deterrents, there should be many more acceptable places for Kitty to jump on or to scratch. ***********************************

tks and hugs,

April 12, 2007
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That sounds like a brilliant idea, the opening of a thread for kitties. Honestly, I have NO boundaries with my sweetie cutie kitty. lol I just love her so much. Why should I have boundaries with her....life is too short. She is not human that would take advantage of my kindness. She was born at my place and honestly she is born and behaves like a lady...sometimes she can be naughty but so what? She was born disciplined and the only thing that teases me about kitty...is that I bought her a scrach post and she does not touch it at all, tho most cats love it.

I read somewhere that white cats are cold and mine is furry cute white kitty. I love her so much, I wouldn't trade her for the whole world. She really is quiet, sensitive cat. When I have a visitor that does not like her...she goes inside hiding and stays away from them.

She accompanies me every where. She sits beside my PC when I type, sleeps beside me. She is gourmet...loves fine food. How couldn't I spoil her after all that. Each time I open a tuna or salmon tin...I must give her a chunk and some juice of each.

I love her and want to continue to pamper and spoil her forever. Kitty is worthy of it...even if I become Codep with her!!! ROFLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

April 12, 2007
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Hey girls - Hope your lives are full and happy at the moment as I'm sitting here waiting for a pizza :o)

I am so glad that you have M to relieve some of that tension or uneasiness that you used to feel. Isn't a pet the greatest? It's the only true form of unconditional love, for SURE! Sini - I feel like I'm watching you grow right in front of my eyes (so to speak). You just seem so much more alive than before! I just love knowing that I can come here and be silly with you... and serious too if we need to be. I really look forward to our nightly posts. Thanks for being there for me - I'm glad you're around :o)!!!!!!

Ras - reading your post reminds me of how much I miss having my own kitties. My last one died at about 20 years old (about three years ago)... and since I got married to someone who is allergic... I think I'll wait until we have some property so I can get a whole bunch of them and have them outdoors. Although I loved my indoor kitty - I think a gang of on-site mouse catchers will be a good excuse to get a whole bunch of them!

April 12, 2007
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Hey, Shaney it´s sooo good to feel more alive! Pls know that you, Ras and a bunch of other AAC friends make a difference in my life! I look forward to our posts, too! I´ve been learning to be more assertive with you and more empathic with Ras. I imagine us sitting on a merry-go-round with one of us always there to take a turn, push, be at the wheel while the others sit back letting our hair loose in the wind...

Kitties are so much fun. True, one like M need her leash held tight sometimes... She´s been biting a bit too much. That´s why I decvided to do only the positive reinforcement thing, as much as I can. And right now I put her in the back room cuz she wanted to jump at my eyes, it seems. I managed to file her front nails a bit while she slept on my lap. Other than that I just love to watch as she makes faces, wigles her bun to the right then left before darting ahead somewhere, skipping androlling over a few times. I didn´t know I´d be so lucky in that she´s partially trained, smart and cuddly. She doesn´t make flowers when going to the bathroom, and a few times I made her nervous, I paid with butane gas around my nostrils. Well, no one´s perfect!

As for my neighbor cat, Shaney, I like so much what you suggested. However, I haven´t been able to put it into practice yet. I´m thinking I have to "own" the spiel otherwise it´ll backfire like my joking. This guy is very nice, believe or not, for standards around here. However once he already pretended to be kicking his girlfriend (while she wasn´t loooking) in front of me. Sends a message, right?

I like to be frank when something bothers me in a trio. But when the 3rd person is absent, I dont like the finger pointing to the absentee that usually happens. I don´t think I should have to take sides other than mine. Difficult. For me, that is. As I don´t like arguments, if someone says the 3rd absent person is a loser, I wanna disappear rather than confront this person, tell him/her it really isn´t so for me, and let´s all be friends.

Ooops, this is getting too serious. Have you guys heard of the overserious people? Hello!!

April 12, 2007
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Young cats are tough to train. I just remember that when they got out of hand (biting a such) I would just stop, make sure I hade their attention, look them in the eyes and say no, firmly. Then once they sort of calmed down, they would usually get this look on their face... sort of annoyed, sort of understanding. Then I would pet them gently and talk to them in a calm voice. I like your post on positive training techniques... I've never seen that before! What great ideas! I never swatted my kitties.... just looked at them sternly and said NO... then the loving rub, if they calmed down. If they didn't. I would walk away. If they didn't come to me eventually, then I would go to them with some love.

As far as the neighbor, trust yourself to say and do the right thing, when you feel the time is right. You've proven time and time again, that your instincts are right.... so trust them. I think from your above post, your neighbor's behaviour is a little unfair when it comes to his girlfriend (the pretend kicking thing in particular). I think you have very healthy boundaries plus you're a nice person... so whatever you decide to say, and however you decide to say it... it will be the right thing... and everyone will respect you for being true to yourself.

There was an orange ans white kitty in from of my house the other day, and it started to run when I called it back. It was SO cute because it turned around, kind of surprised that I had called it, and it meowed as if to say, "Who me?" And I said, "Yes YOU, come and say hello to me." And that kitty turned around and meowed with such excitement, "Well, here I come! How are you!?" I love kitties!

April 12, 2007
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(((Ras))) I rolled down and missed yur post, sorry.

Lol, your cat IS a shy lady cat, hiding from guests, while mine is a tomboy (sp) and throws herself on my guests´legs and laps. She did it again today when my student sat at the PC to help me on something. She escaped through the kitchen while I made coffee.

I bought her a scratch post, too, and she doesn´t like it much, either. I wonder if it is the scent of the sisal which is dyed. Or maybe she´s lazy. Or maybe it´s a phase.

But She needs her nails filed to say the least. I will look for some pet shoes for her and put them on at least while I have guests so I dont get embarassed. Otherwise I may have to call the paramedics.

You´re lucky in that you got your pet as a newborn cuz she took after your sweet behavior. That definitely entitles her to some royal treatment. A little tuna or salmon sometimes is the way to go. Omega 3 and all 😀

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So (((Shaney))), you already practiced positive reinforcement. You seem to talk the cat language with the orange white cat. He could be from Orange County, maybe? 😉 I had to give M a bit of negative reinforcement. She comoes at her whim onto my lap, wants to jump at my earrings and bites if I push her away so... I took her to her backroom and left her there. At his age it seems its hard for them to get the message, I agree. It´s love or hate, fun or war! LOL

The cat guy is just another macho Latin man who has been forgiven by every women in his life for any wrongdoings. His gf says she knows men are unloyal (as if she didnt care) but that attitude is another codep demenaing esteem consuming behavior. I know I could also say something like "I dont want you do get the wrong idea about me" but then Im saying "in your case though I have a bad impression of you". Tricky, huh?

TKs for being there, (((Shaney))) I couldnt sleep cuz I have to teach a university teacher who happens to be a self taught teacher. Need to have my sh** together, lesson plan a.s.o

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April 13, 2007
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I was just watching tv and got bored - so I'm back to check the boards. Sometimes I feel that I'm addicted to this site. It's hard to break away sometimes. But I've realized that this is the only place that I really express myself. I don't even have friends that I tell as much to - and some of them have been my friends for 30 years. It's easy to say what you feel when you don't have to look someone in the eye, isn't it? I have one friend that I could probably be really really honest with, but I don't think I've ever gone there. I have to think about that some more, as to why? My 40's seem to be a time when I'm really looking back at my past. I remember writing here about how wonderful my childhood was, but I'm discovering now, that there were some problems. I was never molested or anything like that... but some situational things have really taken a toll on me in my later years that I really didn't think about before. Interesting stuff... anyway... I think I'm done for the night. I'll check back with you tomorrow. Good luck with the university teacher... you're hot stuff too so dont be intimidated :o)

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(((Sini)))Sorry I was watching tv with kitty last nite. It was really fun & funny. She sat beside me watching a funny movie "Greek Wedding" thing. It's a funny movie that really makes me laugh even tho I've seen it b4. I wanted to spoil myself a lit bit. After that I watched the news and went to bed.

Shaney~I have good news for you...a nieghbour of mine was allergic to cats and really disliked cats. Last year, I was passing by and saw kitten on his patio...so I asked him...he said he sort of got used to her and allergy is no problem anymore. So there is hope for those allergic to them.

I made some date squares and some coffee and was savouring them while watching that movie. The taste was heavenly and sublime. I just love it when I have fun after hardships. Oh lately, I've been having some crosses with the Easter period...I really need to unwind and pamper myself in the same way I pamper kitty. Funny, my kitty loves watching tv and when she sits beside me to watch tv...its almost like a human being sitting beside us. That's why I always recommend single folks to adopt a pet. Mine is so beautiful irresistible...she is White Persian Maine Coon mix breed.

I agree Sinni with you. Cats take on their owner's character. Many people told me that and I've seen this from 1st hand experience. My kitty and me have so many things in common. I just wish if she could be less reserved with me. Sometimes I'm unbale to understand her, but I love her soooooooooo much and expect her to be more passionate with me. Lol I'm expecting her to be like human being.

Anyway...I hope you folks will have lots of fun with your loved furry friends!!!

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Well, Shaney, I made an interview/evaluation with the Professor and he was very enthusiastic and humble. He´s very young and married to another student of mine who wants to take the TOEIC test. Tks for boosting me for this interview. I´m so happy to be able to discuss a course plan with a student, to exchange ideas, without it being considered poor pedagogy. As I´m feeling better, I´m starting again to feel motivated to be creative, to individualize course plans, etc.
My private students are a big part of my life. They keep me up to date, respect me and work with me. I told this guy I couldn´t teach at the university. He said that it is very hard at times. He caught a student who copied a whole paper from the Internet (what the whole hell?!). He discussed with the student that the latter would get a zero (or F) without being reported under the condition that he wouldn’t do it again. Next test, the student had written all the info he thought he´d need on the desk. My student told him to sit at another desk. Then my student took a pic of the proof with his cell camera. Eventually the student failed by a point or half a point and sues the university. Gosh. I understand they negotiated. My student was sorry he let his student off the hook the first time. A cousin of mine was also lenient with her student allowing him to have his girlfriend with him in class. By golly, next thing you know they were deep kissing for what seemed like a long time. She said she just waited cuz everybody was looking. My poorly assertive self would not survive much less than that. My need to backed up in cases like these, together with the need to fix things make a prime candidate for a panic attack.
I realize I also haven´t spoken to anyone as much as I do here. And I can see some evolution in my thinking and in my healing. Whereas before I would write a convoluted post (coming from distorted thinking), I now catch myself, recognize where the thinking isn´t well expressed and am able to correct it most of the times. I agree that not having to look people in the eye makes it easier to open up. However, “we are slaves of our words and kings/queens of our silence”. So we stilll have to face the music, that is, to have others comment on what we write.
I think it´s nice that you can find the good and the not so good parts of your childhood. Looks like you´re open to face the little tiles missing in the constrution of your self. You´re a very open, brave and determined person who won´t knock yourself over the head or crumble for having to pick up a tile.

Tks, Shaney, again, and keep coming back 😉

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Hey, Ras, watch out watching TV, comes midnight and you turn into a couch potato 😉 Maybe not. I liked the Greek Marriage movie. I´d watch it again for fun, too.

The cure of allergy as you mentioned is very interesting. Some doctors say it may disappear at a whim. My sister´s 2 children have allergies. When I told her that, she said, “yeah, they come back at a whim, too” 😀 It seems highly psychological.

Ras, are you a good cook? If so, I will not ask for any recipes. I probably couldn´t mix more than 6 ingredientes. But those date squares sound so good!

Your kitty must be beautiful and very smart. If it could only talk or write, I´d ask it for your secret recipes. lol The little one I have is already acting like a person.

Maybe in the future we´ll know how to communicate better with them. I was calling M to come eat something and she looked at me like “don´t you know I´m taking a nap?” Well, sooorry! Right now she sitting on my lap as usual looking at the screen. Anyway, hopefully we won´t fully understand their mistery cuz that´s part of the charm they hold…

Good dreams, my cyber feline friendly friend

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Hey Ras - you are absolutely right about the allergies. I never had a cat as a pet until my mom's bf had kittens. We play with those babies for hours at a time. I was itchy eyed at first, but after a while I really think that I became used to them. So you're right... I think it really can go away after a while. Especially if you don't stick your fingers in your eyes and do a lot of hand washing :o). BTW, we kept that whole litter - two girls and two boys. We ended up giving one of the boys ("Peanut") to someone, and we never forgave ourselves. We kept the other three. The last girl died about a year ago - she was 22. Those were the hardiest cats I've ever known - all of them. Toby died at 20, Mattie died at 21, and Netty died at 22. Amazing animals... can't wait to have the chance to get more.

Sini - It sounds like you really love your work and your students. You're VERY lucky. And I'm so happy that you felt positive about your interview - I KNEW you'd breeze through that.... you're one smart cookie - don't ever forget that. So now that you're feeling better and better, take advantage of the energy that's flowing through you right now. That creative streak that I KNOW you have is dying to come out. Plan a project, spice up your lessons with your students, create something big and wonderful to look at, to wear or to give away!!!

I swear, I was walking through this lovely garden shop at lunchtime today and saw this plump little kitty made of stone for a garden..... SO cute. I wanted to buy it for you!!!!

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Don't worry Sini, I don't watch tv a lot. Just enjoy watching good movies and when it comes to cooking...well to be honest...I'm still trying to improve my culinary arts. Next time I want to bake more of those date sqaures and bring them along with some coffee & bring them with me for all of us...you, Shaney and anyone else who would like to join in here and may be have a girls' nite out thing. A night for ourselves where we can have fun. I am an East Coaster, I hope you too both are with close proximity timeframe.

Shaney ~ I'm sorry for the death of that kitty. 22 years is quite long period for cat to live. My present cat is the 1st kitty or even pet to adopt. B4 I had phobia of cats. Thank God, I am healed! That kitty you saw at garden shop sounds like something I would love to buy. I know each time I go and visit an exotic shop, I love to buy everything beautiful there. We have so many exotic stores in my area...African, Latin American, Indian, Chinese. These items are irresistible!

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(((RAS))) What a nice idea to get some cofffee and sweets one of these nights. It would have to be later as Shaney is in the West Coast. We just have to go to sleep later... I´d make some apple juice and bring some tuna sandwiches we can share with our kitties.

I too wasn´t fond of cats, except I wasn´t paraticularly bothered by tehm, neither allergic. I remember as my mother helped a mom cat give birth and was quite impressed. I was a little upset I couldn´t just take the babies and run and play with them. I was afraid they were blind for life!

I got into a buying mode as I settled M at home. Of course I needed suppplies but Im so glad I didnt forget some toys. The thing is she likes some of the things I have at home: some plastic roll of thin thread (I learned they are good for kitties to scratch their nails), a soft light rubber heart which she plays soccer with, a frailed fringe of a sheet I gave her...

My nephew and niece were here playing with her today. It seems as if she remembered them from that day in their house.

I watched a movie with the kids which was cute called the Princess. At 16, an American girl found out thta she was the sucessor of some distant country in Europe, it seems. Very light and funny. Escpecially #1 of the 2. I recommend it!

hugs and paw strikes,

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"Now that you're feeling better and better, take advantage of the energy that's flowing through you (...)spice up your lessons with your students, create something big and wonderful to look at, to wear or to give away!!!

Right on, Shaney, thanks. As I feel motivated to create, Ill also work on my humbleness since my beta testers are my students, and we´d be critiquing my work together. I like individualizing lessons and having my materials.

Other than that, doing costume jewelry, box covering, some crochet, some sewing, making cards and frames are some of the things Ive totally lost interest cuz I wasnt motivated to make them for myself or anyone. As I leran to tolerate my limits, I will appreciate more and more a little of these crafts.

Thaks so much for thinking of M and I when you were at the garden shop! M doesn´t even know she´s got that many friends! So nice of you.

My nephew and niece were here playing with M a bit before traveling o to their grandparents. My 8 y.o. nephew said something that prompted me to reply "But you were one of the reason I took her - you said, ´aunt, we gotta take this kitty home´." He smiled that I remembered. This afaternoon I´ll take
kitty to another friend, a ex-student of mine and her daughter. I becoming M´s mother!! Well, there are many worse things...

(((hugs))) and paw strikes >ü< plump little kitty made of stone for a garden..... SO cute. I wanted to buy it for you!!!!

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