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October 24, 2001
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I feel really strong mostly but people in work have started to treat me with a meanness that I cant cope with - it's making me really upset and although I'm strong..and really good at my job..its horrible..I feel it goes deeper than work..

October 24, 2001
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.....and?.....keep talking.....

October 24, 2001
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Teasing can get out of controll real fast, we have a group of women at our office, that are on the edge of bullying real rude. The thing is to not take things personal. they would do it to anyone. Could be you have your heart on your sleeve, and that makes for a target. Could be your tired, seems like all of us are on edge, and have a low tolorance for everything since 9/11. I have a friend who has a saying , just get out of my kool-aid, ok? Try it, reminds me of kids, which we can all be no matter how old we are.

October 24, 2001
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Yeah, I work with this real CRAB. I just try to stay out of his way. If i MUST make contact for work, he's usually an asshol* to me. I get the business done, and move on to a place where I don't have to deal with him again.

Good luck to you. You can do it.

October 24, 2001
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Sometimes though, I've found that it isn't always worth it to hang in there at a place where the cards are really stacked against you. Sometimes it is - because you are strong enough to endure it and they might respect you for it - after they torture you and you don't fold from it. But, then again, there are times that - it's just not worth the aggravation and the stress, if you can move on to another place and get some peace for yourself. Trouble is -you can't practice always running either...

Tis a balance and only you can judge what's up here and how you feel about it. People always feel cozy in groups with their wicked stuff. Jealousy is a nasty monster. Had it aimed at me too many times to count.

But, after awhile you realize - that them seeing the blood coming from you is precisely what they are after... Whatever you have to do to arrive at true confidence is the best weaponry you can ever have. Nothing can get through that. Absolutely nothing. The reason you bend over and wilt is because - you don't really know and love yourself yet. If you did - you'd just look at them and smile as if to say - and your point is? Realizing and showing it in your demeanor that to walk alone when surrounded by such - is a priviledge and not something you hate. That turns the tables on them because they can't penetrate your armor and now "you don't choose....them".

I've always been in this situation where I work. The men try whatever and the women hate me with a vengence. Used to it i usually have high profile jobs, so that puts me in a category of even more jealousy and spite. I am always....alone. That's okay though. Such is the way of the warrior. Eh, Blondie? (smile) Old people, children and animals....those are usually my tribe, more than not.

October 24, 2001
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One thing to always remember is that "packs" are always made up of weak people. Narcissists usually... They despise people with strength and character, so they seek to destroy what they themselves "will not" have by choice.

It's hard when you're young because you want so bad to have this idealistic view about life and then....life teaches something very contrary.

Like I tell so many people that I work with....if you possess something of quality, you have to be very aware of that and seek to protect it like you would protect a finely tuned instrument, a sophisticated lazer beam that is very sensitive - has much protection around it and so does a fine violin have a good case.

People see this in someone and while you are very vulnerable they seek to reduce you to what they are so they feel more comfortable with their own decisions and cowardice in life.

I used to be sooo hurt in my 20's by all this. Couldn't for the life of me figure out why I was so attacked and for no good reason. But when you do get a handle on it...things take on a different perspective. Not to boost your ego, but to put you in a place of "understanding" what is truly up here.

Real power and presence is always despised by the "packs". The "fear" it.... And it's a precarious point when you realize this and yet still remain humble and on your way to becoming a true warrior... You could turn and become like them, but I give you a heads up now and say to you - do not use their own weapons against them. Rise above it, learn how to fight it but not on their level.

Faint not but do what you must to protect yourself and continue in your own growth as a person. You will always receive confirmation that you are growing and evolving in a good way by the amount of attacks you get from people like this. Consider it a compliment. (smile) People who truly understand what's up....will tip their hat to you. Those are the people you seek your affirmation from...

October 24, 2001
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right on sistahhhhhhhhhhh, or are we supposed to call you mom now???

October 24, 2001
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you are a very funnie woman today. What's in your tea over there?

May 25, 2005
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Please help me! at primary school i was bulled by a girl who, herself, gets bullied now. in year 7 we were best mates, but now we are arch enemies. when my friends are horrible to her i join in, but then i feel really bad. today i called a friend a chav, but she told the teacher. i got in loads of trouble in the end. at the end of school me and sarah* had a cry because i said that i was really sorry, and i had made matters worse because she had already had had a really bad day. i said to her that i take my anger and pain out on other people because i am being bullied. now we are okay, but there is still one problem. I AM BEING BULLIED. i have told numerous teachers, but i never gets resolved.

May 25, 2005
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Emsy,

I'm sorry you are going through this. I too was bullied when I was young so I understand how you must feel.

If talking to the teachers isn't helping, can you tell your parents or perhaps the local authorities.

Don't stop asking for help.....the sqeaky wheel always get the grease!

Good Luck,
Lollipop

May 25, 2005
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I have been there too, you need to tell someone so this stops.....The really funny thing is now that I've been out of school for quite some time, I ran into the girls that used to bully me and all I have to say is EWE! Typical white trash hillbillies. I couldn't believe it when I saw them. Dirty with dirty kids and all. That's the ultimate revenge. (and really bad frizzy hair- lol)

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