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Bubishi's Peace
February 15, 2005
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I understand, Bubishi. Keep your head up and get your heart back in your chest. I know too well the emotions that are running through you right now. Don't over analyze any of them. Let things progress naturally. Do whatever you can to just let them come. Try not to force any feeling or emotion from this girl. Let her come to you with her feelings.

I just don't want you to have expectations she can't meet at this point in the game. Let her cruise for a little bit. You are a Great man. I can tell by the words you have written over the last 6 months. Let her realize the same, brother. Just be you. Don't try to do things with the expectation of a certain response...or any response for that matter. She will let you know how she feels when she is more comfortable being around you. Let her have that, ok?

I am only saying this because I saw a girl I went to school with a few weeks ago. I asked for her number. She gave it to me. I called her two days later. It took her 4 days after me leaving a message to call me back. Those 4 days were tough for me. I started thinking she just gave me her number because she felt pressured at the time. She called me and we had a nice conversation. She told me she would call me this past weekend. I haven't heard from her yet. Either she isn't interested, or she is just tied up with other things in her life right now. You know what? I'm not going to worry about it. I am living for me. If she doesn't want to get to know me again and spend some time in the valley, it's her loss, right?

You are strong, Warrior. Don't let your feelings for this new girl bring you down or make you question anything in any way. Live life for you, brother.

I hope this helps ease your thought process, Bubishi. I'll be thinking about you. have a safe trip back home!

Eternal

February 15, 2005
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Bub, Wow, lots happening for you! Are you coming on strong????????

In a word? Yes. But that's me! I feel slow and steady stays the course darlin. Leave her some mystery to dwell on. Let her wonder about the whens and the hows, you know? MMMMMMM

Anyway, remember your reasons for being here bub. We all want you to be happy. That'a all any of us wants for each other. Oh shit, I think I'm gonna cry.......................

Bub, stay cool here. You are the sweetest man remembering the little things but to some women this could be a fear factor. I sure do wish I could have danced to Moon River with you!!!!!

February 15, 2005
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Workin' Honey,
If you ever wanna dance, you just let me know where you are and we'll make it happen. I'd dance with you any day. I tell you what though, I sure could've held that gal for a long time. It was nice. She wrote me and told me that she was very thankful and had a good time. She said it was a bit overwhelming, but not that it was bad. She asked if it was OK that she has a little more time, I guess to process it all. I told her to take as much as she needs, no rush from me. Don't wanna mess this up ya know. It could be a good thing.
~B~

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Well bub, only if you know the Toby Keith song, You Shouldn't Kiss Me Like This. That is my song. I am waiting for the man who claims my heart to dance with me to that very song!!

But Bub, I wish you the very best and hope you can dance with her again. Be good to your peaceful warrior. He knows better!!!

Love you sweetie!

February 15, 2005
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Hi Bubby!

Well most of the possible reasons were already mentioned.

LOL That's what I get for being a day late and a dollar short, huh?

Just don't rush it. I think it's a very good thing that you two will be apart for these coming months.

Remember what happened between you and Deb... I'm not saying that you are acting clingy or anything to this new girl. And I'm not saying that you were clingy to Deb, but that may have been a reason. Who knows?

And gifts are cool, but so soon, and so many and they can scare a girl off.

Plus, please please please! Do not rush sex! It really and truly only messes things up.

And I am not saying that just because I want your body (next to mine)! 😉

((((Hugs))))

~Amanda~

February 15, 2005
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Bub,

I agree with Amanda.Don't be too clingy. That can be a turn-off for many girls. That can scare women off. Every situation is different though. I think you have a heart of gold and you act on how you feel. That is a good thing. The only thing is,(I don't know anything about this girl and how long you have been seeing her)I think you went a little overboard by buying her a ring. So very sweet and thoughtful don't get me wrong. I hope you don't get upset that I am giving you my honest opinion. Every situation and woman is different so don't think this is how everyone feels. Me personally, when I was dating, I liked when a guy took me out and we had a nice time. That was nice if he paid for dinner(I wanted to pay the tip at least but the guys I have dated in the past would insist on picking it up so I let them, to open the door for me took my breath away, but if I guy did too much, I honestly thought that he just wanted in my pants. I am the kind of girl that very very much appreciates nice gestures and I know that their are gentleman like you out there. The thing is why not save some of that for when you get to know the person more once they know your true personality. This great girl that you have been with may possibly only see this as a comeon thing and not know what to make of it. On the otherhand, she may be falling in love with you and scared that you were just trying to impress her.Maybe you should just take things slower and not think of what things could lead to, but yet just let them get there on there own. I hope the best for you and I hope that my opinion doesn't upset you. In my opinion, what girl wouldn't fall in love with you!!!! Hugs from Jewel!!!

February 15, 2005
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Hey Amanda,
What's up Honey??? Happy Valentine's Sweetheart. Did you get anything nice?? YOU KNOW that I'm yours. ;o) I want you too baby!!!! You shouldn't talk to me like that because then I start wanting to get you naked. ;o)

I didn't think I was rushing anything but I guess by looking back, I may have been a bit much. Here's the thing, my Pops always taught me old school, so that is just what I thought was right. After all, we were celebrating Valentine's. I didn't push though. And I'm going to just sit back on cruise control right now. I just wanted to give her the fantasy, just for one night. That way, if we don't work out, She'll always remember me!!!!

((((Hugs and Snuggles)))))

~B~

February 15, 2005
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Hey All,
Who's out there walking through the Valley Tonight???

~B~ ~TPW~

February 15, 2005
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hey Bub, i am in the valley for good.....and feeling a lil' down and out...just did the big break up with the bf...and I am alone, but this is what I wanted, just feeling a lil' missing him, but deep down i do know this is the right thing for me.

February 15, 2005
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Hey Camer,
Why, if you are missing him was it the right thing?? Seems to me that if you miss him, you care.

February 16, 2005
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bub, i do care about him and i do miss him....he is like you guys, a sweet down to earth old fashioned guy, opens car doors, buys flowers, is stable with job and money...all the good things...the thing that bothered me from the start was that he was a "pot smoker" and i found out
he was a non believer in God.....and these 2 things bother me more than the good things he has to offer, if that makes sense. I couldn't go on longer, and ended it, its only been
6 months, but i had to be honest with my wants and needs and i didn't want
these 2 things he has in my life. So we basically broke up on Valentines Day...great, huh?? be we ended it on a good level, no screaming or yelling or past regrets, just 2 people who didn't have the same values, i guess. So i kinda feel like i lost a good friend too....then, i keep thinking that i should have just accepted the 2 things that i didn't like.....aaaahhhh, thanks for letting me vent......and now to relax cuz i am here in this valley for a while now. ((camer))

February 16, 2005
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Camer,
You did the right thing here. We all get back to our core self eventually and if you'd "accepted" these things about him, You would have ended up regreting it down the road. So be happy here in the Valley. I wonder why it is that so many times when we reach the Valley, we're actually alone???? Does the peace of the valley not offer itself to people that have found love?? Does finding happiness on the outside, mean that you cannot find the Valley inside?? Be here, and be at peace Camer, with the rest of the lonely souls in the Valley. (((HUGS)))

~Bubishi~
~The Peaceful Warrior~

February 16, 2005
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awwww Bubi!!! you are the sweetest!!! thanks so much for your encouraging words!! I am so glad to be in this Valley, I knew i was heading here, entering the valley alone, but when I get here I feel so welcomed and comforted and NOT alone...and yes, I know i need to build back that love that i have within myself, that's where it comes from..from me...I just think that living alone, and going home at nite, i feel "alone"...but i have to think that I am not alone, there are others out there, like yourself Bubi who can help me get thru this, with support and comfort.
I think reaching out and sharing to others helps so much, and that is why i am so thankful of YOU and this wonderful site..it is a Godsend to me.

(((((sending huge hugs to you Bubi))))) now lets go take a jacuzzi together.......waiittt!!! lets get Amanda and Eternal, and Workin and Ready over here too!! woo hoo!!

February 16, 2005
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Camer,
The only thing with jacuzzi's is that I like sittin' in them naked. Something about the bubbles tickling certain parts.

I wonder, if all of us here are from a certain tribe of people that live with passion. Those of us that put everything we have into loving and end up walking it alone. I wonder, are we people that will ever find someone like ourselves that love the way we do. I don't think that any of us are wrong in the way we love. I think that we just end up with people that don't put into it what we do.

~B~ ~TPW~

February 16, 2005
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ooooooh laaa laa....lets get naked!!!

and its so true about what you said about"are we people that will ever find someone like ourselves that love the way we do. I don't think that any of us are wrong in the way we love. I think that we just end up with people that don't put into it what we do"

it seems like the attraction and excitement is there at first, and it would be great to find someone who gives all they can for a relationship.....makes me wonder how many other couples/marriages just end up "settling".

You have such words of wisdom, Bubi,

Now get naked!!!!!

((camer)))

February 16, 2005
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Camer,
Hell I'm already naked. That is, except for my gun belt and hat. Gotta have those to work. I'm just not sure where to put this damn badge???????

I think a lot of people do settle but you gotta think about relationships this way... It's about two people, finding each other and making the conscious decision to make it work. That is what makes people put up with what they do, they decide to make it work. Relationships end when one person decides that they no longer WANT to make it work. That makes it hard on those of us that don't want to give up. Oh, to find someone like that. You know, I had a girl like that years ago, but she put in so much that she woke up one day and gave up. Who knows what the right formula is??????

Wanna go for a walk with me in the park?? There's some new flowers in there that I want to smell.

~Bubishi~
~The Peaceful Warrior~

February 16, 2005
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Hey,
Is anyone on right now??

February 16, 2005
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Hi Bub, Haven't talked to ya in awhile. Just wondered how ya been.

February 16, 2005
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Hey Mama,
I've been pretty well, walking through the Valley of Peace. I'm a little disrupted now though. I think I may have come on a little too strong with my new lady friend and don't know what to make of it. I may just be reading too much into it though.
~B~

February 16, 2005
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hello my friends Bubi & Mama!!! hey Bub, did she say she was going to call you next??? and how long has it been since your last date???

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Camer,
It's a complicated tale. Lets just say that I normally talk to her everyday. Little notes and such as well as calls. I haven't heard from her for just a couple of days. I think I gave all the details above. I'd just hate if I ran off such a good girl.

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Bub, give it a lil time, its only Wednesday now....now if she doesn't call you or talk/email with you by this weekend, then hmmmm, i'd start to wonder. I think all that you did for the Val day weekend was great, you were a sweet kind gentleman and would have melted any girls heart....Maybe SHE is not used to getting treated like a queen, and another thing, this is new, and usually in the beginning its good to take things slllooowww and see how things build up.

Do you want to email or call her???

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Camer,
You're right. I have e-mailed her as I usually do. A little note in the morning before I leave for work and sometimes a note or two throughout the day. Nothing ever heavy, just little "Hello's". I don't want to call her because I know that it's important not to push. I'm not going to push. Taking it slow just like you say. Let me tell you, I've never danced with anyone as smoothly as with her. You know how sometimes, slow dancing feels awkward with certain people?? It didn't with her. It was so nice. I can always tell by the dip. When you go to dip a lady while dancing, if she fights it, then it's awkward. She trusted me on the dip.

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alright Bubi, you are the king of "dippers!!" and that is good. Take things slow, as you are, its only Wed & more to look forward to by the weekend. I do hope she calls and I do wish you the best with her.
Be the Peaceful Warrior as you are, and good things will happen!!!

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Hi Bub,

Haven't talked to you for awhile, but have been keeping up on your thread! Looks like the guys and gals here are having such fun! Enjoy the party lol.
Bub, I hear you have a new gal on that arm of yours? I wish you the best!

((((group hugs everyone!)))))))

Sew

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