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Broken Hearted
May 17, 2006
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Trying to forget someone ou love is like trying to remember someone you never knew.

It takes a couple of seconds to say Hello,but forever to say Goodbye.

Nothing hurts more than realising he meant everything to you,but you meant nothing to him.

Moving on is simple,it's what you leave behind that makes it so difficult

I don't miss him,I miss who I thought he was

There's this place in me where your finger prints still rest...your kisses still linger and your wispers softly echo...It's the place where a part of you will forever be a part of me.

If someone you love hurts you cry a river,build a bridge,and get over it.

I miss you alittle,I guess you could say,a little too much,a little too often,and a little more each day.

Never be sad for what is over,just be glad that it was once yours.

Here's to the men we love,here's to the men that love us...Since the men that we love,aren't the men that love us...screw the men...here's to us.

I'm going to smile and make you think I'm happy,Im going to laugh,so you don't see me cry,I'm going to let you go in style,and even if it kills me-I'm going to smile.

There;s a girl in my nirror crying tonight,and there's nothing I can say to make her feel alright.

You don't die from a broken heart-you only wish you did.

The hardest part of dreaming about someone you love is having to wake up.

May 17, 2006
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hang in there. I see we have the same taste in music, form the lines you wrote. Music can be very comforting. praying for you

May 17, 2006
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That's Why god gave Humans, Heart with Brains. Our brain is very selfish, it want's everything that will satisfy our body. but heart is really different, when heart breaks, your brain equally stops thinking. I have gone through similar things in past.......... remember just one thing that after every sunset there is certainly a Sunrise, only you have to struggle to live throughout the night, once you cleared that night, the morning is very beautifull. Try to go out, party, meet & make new freinds, pamper ur self. There is certainly a beautiful morning for you. I will pray for you. You will have to have courage

May 17, 2006
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Courage what a strong word,it has been almost a year that my husband left only thing that really bothers me is deing alone feel so alone all the friends that where gonna be there for me some how got lost.oh well life goes on

Thanks for the responce I,ve wrote on quite a few threads seems like once I do people stop responing....

May 17, 2006
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hey reaching out...I like this sentimental approach to losing a love. I just told a friend last night (her husband died one year ago of cancer) that when you lose someone through death, often times people treat you with more care and more attention. When you experience divorce or the end of a relationship, people will be patient and listen for a little while, and then tell you to "get over it". That's what happened with me, anyway. I am still grieving the end of my relationship with my fiance. We were together for ten and a half years. I haven't heard from him since he ended it fifteen months ago. It's weird to me, still.

I have been so sad, and so stuck. I have done ALL of the things you are supposed to do when you move on...but the heart still hurts. I think courage to go is important here. Lot's of love to you...2b

May 17, 2006
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33 years for me 25 married I have tried to do all the right things but what are they from age 14 been in his life lived his life don't know my own trying to stay focused I'm doing better today I have a 10 year old daughter that when he saw her would come in for awhile I finally told him I was not at a point of being his friend so I needed him to just drop her off or whatever that was last week haven't seen or heard from him so that helps...Thanks for the support

May 17, 2006
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Have you read any books about codependency? I may have mentioned it before: Codependent no More. It has helped me...it shed some light on things.

I think you set a good boundary by telling him that you are not ready to be his friend. Healing from a relationship as long as yours is going to take a while. Be strong, and it sounds as if you are...sometimes we have to be strong even if we don't want to because we have to protect ourselves.

There is still life after divorce and break ups, and even death of a loved one. It just seems that when it happens to us, that it's the end of the world. I truly believe that no matter what age you are, you can find love and happiness. It just can't happen soon enough.

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May 17, 2006
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I am trying to be strong I'm not but I am so tired of the BS and what I am teaching my daughter I have heard of the book bcuz of being on this site I will have to get it I have tried to read several books but none seem to fit maybe cuz I don't know what's wrong my computer at home is out being worked on so I can only write at work almost time for me to go home sit alone...Thats OK...by the way hard job I have another problem way to much time to think.
Hopefully will talk to you tommarrow I'm here till 3:30 got 15 min left

May 17, 2006
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Hey ro...I am in a computer dilemma, too. I am setting mine up at home, but have been procrastinating because of spending the money on the internet connection. I will be out of the office tomorrow, which means I won't be able to chat...but I promise to check in on Friday.

The other day, I bought the book "10 Stupid things People do to mess up their relationships" by Dr. Laura. It's pretty good, I figure I'll be good and healthy for my next relationship. It took me a while to get there, though. And also, she has a radio talk show which is pretty good. I think she's like the Judge Judy of personal issues. She's kind of tough, but I think that's what I need right now.

Hugs to you, reaching out. Everything is going to be ok.

May 17, 2006
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Thanks have a great day off
talk to you Friday

May 17, 2006
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Reaching out..what was the title of the thread that you had a couple of weeks ago? Would you like to tell me more about your story? I know sometimes that helps. When I get back on Friday, I fill you in on mine a bit.

P.S. I hope you had a good Mother's day.

May 17, 2006
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2B i have heard it can take 2 years at least to get over a divorce. What difference does a divorce make if you are still in a long term relationship that ends. I think it depends on depths of feelings as well. It didn't take nearly as long to get over my exhusband as it is my exboyfriend. Everything will be ok for you. I remember you many many months ago struggling so hard and I have seen you happier. That is so good.

Reaching out - so good. Is it not amazing trying to heal from broken heart. It really does felt like the heart rips in two. I hope you get better soon.

May 17, 2006
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Dear ReachingOut,

How your words echo my own feelings, and that of so many others.

You are not alone.

Mama said you have the same taste in music, so maybe these are lyrics to a song I am not remembering or haven't heard... If so, who is it by & what's the title?

I want to copy & paste these words into my email so I will remember them & have a place to look them up.

Sometimes, knowing you are not alone in your heartache helps... knowing someone can relate helps me.

Wishing you the best, and peace & happiness for you heart...

It will get better. We just have to have faith & believe in that.

Juanita

May 17, 2006
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reachingout ... I am reaching back to you with open hands.

Feeling you have a broken heart? It is just all part of the experience. To deeply hurt means that someday incredible happiness will be experienced. I believe this.

Does not the day always follow the night, spring always follow the winter, and birth always answer death?

Its just a season and will pass

littlespirit

May 18, 2006
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Reaching out,
Hi, I wanted to write simply to tell you that you r not alone. I also was divorced 5 yrs ago and believe me I am so glad I divorced him, and one day you'll look back and smile knowing that you had overcome all the sadness, obstacles and knowing specially that you have taught your daughter (w/your actions) that you are a strong woman, one she can model after.
TAKE CARE! AND MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU!

May 18, 2006
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Good Morning Everyone
Thank you all so much,Things just seem so hard last night I was invited to a going away party a friend of OURS
son going into service I didn't go bcuz he was also invited finally around 9 I called he wasn't there so I drove over when I got there I say his motorcycle so I just kept going he called said he tried to come out and stop me I ask him want makes him think I can be his friend right now I just don't understand I told him when we see each other then I come home and sit alone he goes out and just picks up someone else why did I say that made his day probably I hate it when I give that power over me oh well another day movin on

May 18, 2006
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reachingout...You will overcome this pain. A heartbreak is hard to overcome.

We search for why and how it could happen. Sometimes there aren't any easy answers.

I have fallen repetively into the trap my ex sets up for me because I believe he has changed and he cares about me. I am always wrong.

I look forward (occassionally back) and hope to one day move on permanently. It does subside with time. This is the place to find caring people that share your pain.

1L1

May 18, 2006
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You Know I know you are right and it already seems a little better I cried a little last night when he called but today I am thinking about it but not dwelling on it like I have in the past so yes I'M GETTING THERE there will be life after ex now I have to figure out how to get the courage to file for divorce

May 18, 2006
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Juanita
It wasn't a song It was broken heart quotes http://www.brokenheart.com

May 18, 2006
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Got out of the Jeep this AM - borrowing from a special friend - saw this slip of paper on the ground, in a rain puddle... It said:

I wrote your name in the sky & the winds came and blew it away.
I wrote your name in the sand & the waters washed it away.
I wrote your name on my heart & forever it will stay.

Such an odd coincidence to find something like that at my feet where I normally park my vehicle.

Very appropriate, though, as his name is etched in my heart... forever to stay.

Some people, you just never forget whether you get to love them or not.

May 18, 2006
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It is helpful just to know others are experiencing the same pain. But it does not help when you sit alone and try to comprehend what is next. I can't seem to even move, paralized. I sit and still have hope but I realize I must just disappear. The thought of even the next day is too hard. Need support now.
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May 19, 2006
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DL

You are not sitting alone we are with you. And will stay with you. Unlike our used to be partners we understand one another you have to have hope and dreams I to feel the same way but keep telling myself it will all get better and it will.when you spend your life living for someone else it's hard to know what to do without them but we just have to learn to live for ourselves
Hang in there your dreams will come true

May 19, 2006
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Hi friends, so many beautiful thoughts here. I loved your post, Littlespirit. That's a keeper.

How are you doing this afternoon, reachingout? I agree with you--we give ourselves away...we think it's in the name of love. I soaked up the man that I dated recently (for six months) like a sponge. I absorbed everything about him. It is still hurting me so much. But I am going to keep plugging along, trying to let him go. I haven't contacted him, but...I think about it all of the time. And I think about him all of the time.

So your ex was at the party the other night? I'm sorry that you had to see his bike. That hurst sometimes as much as talking to them. Why did he call you!? Didn't you already tell him that it hurts when you see him?

May 19, 2006
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DL, We are here. I know someone in person is what you may need but, if you read our post, it will help.

Go out, sit among others. Even if only at the mall or a library if you get out, you will begin to feel better.

May 23, 2006
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Had my daughter's b-day party Sat my ex came he just act's like we have been great friends forever like he belong's there but then can just leave how can he be like that I guess because he has always been a cheat so he has never been devoted so he can just disconnect I don't know we where both invited to another party on Sat night of course I could't go I had my daughter and some of friends stayed over so when he started to leave said he was headed to the other party I kinda lost it said ya you can go do that I have a daughter you don't she is his just letting him know it didn't seem like it I have all the responsiblity I'm mad at myself cuz once again I let him know I was hurting over him being gone I want so bad to move on but just can't don't know what to do and can't afford counceling I feel I have lost everything and everyone I am fixing dinner for my neighbors tonight to to have some company pretty pathtic huh will I ever be happy again and be the person people want to be around

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