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Broke away from spouse..got involved with Alanon friend
December 29, 2005
10:57 am
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lisaalexis
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Help...I just moved out of my house from my alcoholic husband 2 weeks ago. If it wasn't for Al-Anon & my Al-Anon friends, I couldn't have done it. It was hard, very hard. One of my Al-Anon friends has feelings for me, he pursued me & I accepted. He's separated also from his alcoholic wife. So we had a "10 day affair". It was wonderful, someone who held my hand, told me I was beautiful, etc..then he realized he may still have feeling for his wife, he's confused, and we cooled it down and now have gone back to Al-Anon friends. I fell in love with this man, I know it's a short amount of time, but he's everything that my husband wasn't, romantic, loving, affectionate, and most of all, non-alcoholic. He has so much love in his heart to give to someone, and so do I..I am letting go & letting God take over at this point, I hope in the future we can get together, and if not, guess it wasn't meant to be. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

December 29, 2005
11:02 am
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it may possibly just be a rebound....most healthy relationships need time to grieve, even though you moved out 2 weeks ago for your own sake, its also good to find out your wants and needs. Sometimes its so hard to just cut off feelings and then move onto a new relationship, ususally end up bringing the excess baggage of feelings into the new relationship. And new relationships are always nice, they start off that way. I think the healthiest thing to do is yes, let go and let god and see what happens now, and keep the focus on you, not on relationships.

((((camer))))

December 29, 2005
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Let me first say I am sorry for your pain and I can empathize with you.

I would have to agree that this is a rebound thing more than likely.

Being in such a bad relationship and then having someone attentive to your needs and treating you the way you felt you needed at a time when your life was in turmoil and you were both vulnerable.

Let me say this: I been where you are, as many of us here have been. You are not at a stable place right now. How could you be with all of the unrest in your life. Take some time to pick up the pieces and put them together for yourself.

You will feel much better then and better be able to make sound decisions. If it is love and it is meant to be, then it will be.

December 29, 2005
12:09 pm
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Hi...thank you for your input..I know everything you've both said makes alot of sense..It's hard when I see this man to resist!....but I'm trying.

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