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breathing, sleeping, eating and smiling again- thedogsmom
July 6, 2007
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Hello All,
just a quick update to let you know that the anger and anxiety and sleepless nights have dissapeared right out the door with him! YAHOO!
I feel SO much better- my house is cleaner- and I look forward to getting up and being alive each and every day.

He is not letting me go easily. He calls, texts and comes by frequently. He got a job with my neighbor installing sprinklers and cleaning up his yard-- and now is doing another job for a neighbor across the street - painting his house for extra money.
I think he still has his normal job...but based on a phone message regarding his car note at my house-- sounded like he is on some kind of disability.

He states he is no longer doing drugs...but I don't believe this for a minute-- since he seems to keep late hours and hasn't went through rehab again.

I am no longer ANGRY at him...and I miss him and the things he did for me quite a bit. I still love him, actually but have no intentions of starting a relationship other than this friendship with him. I hope and will make sure that I won't let him interfere with my future ... that I won't let him hold me back from meeting that right dream-man..... but for now -- I am looking or ready to even meet anyone.

I'm trying to keep the focus on myself-- self improvement...and getting my life, health and looks in shape.

WHEW! It feels good to be 'at peace' again. Thanks again to all who've helped and care.
TDM

July 6, 2007
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((dogsmom)) you are an inspiration to me. Keep going the way you are

July 6, 2007
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Way to go, girl! I am so proud of you! Do you realize how strong you really are? You are taking charge of YOUR life, saying NO to his bad habits, and moving on like you TOLD him you would if he didn't stop.

It is true than in time, when we see it thru our rear-view mirror instead of standing in the middle of it, that life starts to get back into balance and you start living again.

Pat yourself on the back, my friend. You escaped and in no time, this will all be a distant memory that doesn't hold it's sting anymore.

Good to see you!

Plz~

July 6, 2007
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TDM, you sound wonderful!! I'm so happy for you.

Please be cautious with this "friendship" that he keeps promoting. It would be so easy to slip back into those old, comfortable patterns. If you want to find your dream man, then you need to distance yourself from this last nightmare. His very presence in the neighborhood will keep potential boyfriends away, even subconsiously. You need to let this one go completely so you can open your heart to someone new. You sound so ready for that. (((TDM)))

July 7, 2007
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thedogsmom,
Congrats on some incredible life changes. I remember your earlier posts. What a huge difference!!! I knew you could do it and your still doing it. Keep posting! They are an encouragment and show others that there is life after life with an addict!!! Good for you! I think you are wise not to believe him without him being in recovery. My ex-h used to tell me the same thing all the time until he got arrested for prescription fraud. I think they believe their own lies after a while.

July 7, 2007
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I am happy for you and glad you have found peace.

I knew you could do it!!!!!

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

July 8, 2007
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(((thedogsmom)))

I think about you often and am so glad that you are doing well.

Love,
Lolli

July 8, 2007
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That's great. Remember if nothing changes then nothing changes. He hasn't gone to rehab, he hasn't sought counseling, he hasn't started attending 12 step support groups so chances are he hasn't changed. Past behavior is a good indicator is future behavior. He is talking the talk but not walking the walk. My ex says he isn't using when I know he is for a fact. They lie to lie sometimes, at least it seems that way. It's nice that I don't have to put up with his crazy life anymore. Not my responsiablity! Isn't that wonderful! It's nice to be free from such a headache. From a nightmare. Good luck and keep moving forward. When you feel weak and give in a bit too much pick yourself up and keep posting for support. Remember as we change they change. They adjust their approach to try to win us back. Stay strong and you will be fine.
AQueen

My ex calls today and asks me if I could pick him up and take him out to eat and give him money!!! I said no and hung up. The nerve I swear.

July 11, 2007
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so glad to see you.
Havent been on much, my bum is still here. This is hard. Time to leave again. Keep up the good work, you are an inspiration to me.

July 13, 2007
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just checking in again, have any room for me so you can teach me something or two. Bet queen wants to get her hands on me

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