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Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships -Trauma Bonds - M & S
January 8, 2006
5:07 pm
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Dear EF & Lass:

My heart goes out to both of you. It is so very hardy to stay away after making the decision to cut ties.

I cannot tell you how many times I have reread certain passages in certain articles to strengthen my resolve.

Please see the thread "Warning signs that you are dating a loser". I was so naive. I just didn't know. I wasted a lot of time with an emotionally unavailable man. I have grown and become more self-aware and I do believe that was my gift from all the pain.

I am being bombarded with emails and calls from him trying to induce guilt in me. Observe their tactics: professions of love, displays of hurt, verbal abuse and ridicule! He is a master manipulator and I am NOT going to drop my resolve to move on.

Love those gals at "Heartless Bitches".

"If you find that you are having to explain the basics of respect and courtesy to a partner--if you are finding that he just DOESN'T SEEM TO GET IT, when you try to explain why his behavior or actions were disrespectful--run far and run fast.

People who love you will treat you with respect, consideration, courtesy, honesty and compassion."

We all deserve better. Life without him is lonely, yes. But it is peaceful and without the drama and constant rollercoaster ride of painful emotions. MOst of the time it hurt. That is not right!

I am sending out moon and star beams to support you in your efforts to remain wide and clear of emotional abusers.

M & S

January 8, 2006
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Lost & Found

THAT is a brilliant idea. In addition to reaching children and educating them on those topics, I think that "parenting" should be taught.

Reading so many stories on the listserve break my heart. The abuse, neglect and deprivations suffered by so many are the direct causes of the relationship problems that we are all suffering now.

My ex-bf was a victim of sexual abuse. He never sought treatment until after we met and I suggested that he do so. I attribute most of his issues to that early trauma. Tragic.

I admire so much everyone of you who has been able to somehow deal with life despite your difficult childhoods. I have only recently unraveled the influences from my childhood based on my parents dynamics.

M & S

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