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October 15, 2004
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So, I just found out that my ex took the car I gave him ( 1 of 2) and traded it in.

I am upset because he lied to me about it. He told me he sold it only after I had a friend tell me it was gone.

And he was suppose to split the money with me. I asked him if he traded it in, he said no....now i find out he lied..

I want to call and scream at him. I am so sick of his lies..

I cant stand it, I feel like I am going to have a breakdown.

October 15, 2004
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Sweetie I know you are having a rough time right now. I don't really know what to say but want to let you know I am here for support. As much as all this is driving you crazy the more you let go. Resentments only hurt you they aren't bothering him a bit. Don't get me wrong you have every right to feel the way you do. I just hate to see it bothering you so much when it has no affect on him. Have you written him a letter? Either giving it to him or not. Sometimes writing a letter and getting it all out then burning it or something provides some relief.

October 15, 2004
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I am about to call him and yell at him for lying to me,after he promised he was honest.

But, he won't feel bad and we will just fight...but i have to get it out.

I also, hate that i am not part of his life..or i would know what was going on.

October 15, 2004
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I am now sitting here at my computer balling my eyes out because of him, and because I allow his actions to still bother me...heck he is 1000 miles away

I cant do this anymore.

October 15, 2004
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I wish there were easy answers to all this. He is such a jerk! That word doesn't even suffice! Argh! Starry, Kick his ass! (In your mind at least!) *Hugs* ~Amanda~

October 15, 2004
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He has lied a lot....I know it, but I still end up believing him.

I doubt my real friends and believe him

I don't know what to do?
Do I call and end up fighting?

October 15, 2004
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No, I wouldn't call. Is it really worth it? I understand that a lot of money is involved here...But your emotional health is more important than ANY AMOUNT of money! If you have things that need to be tied up with him, maybe you can get a lawyer, or a family member/friend to do it all...So you don't have to go through the pain... Hey, you never know what if he is subconsciously doing this to get you to get angry with him so that you contact him? I dunno, but that could be possible! Just stay away at all costs! ~Amanda~

October 15, 2004
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It isnt the money...it is not too much, and I don't care about money.

I feel like it is the principal. I
kind of want him to know that I know he is lying.

My head doesnt' want me to call...but I am so hurt, angry etc.

October 15, 2004
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I know it seems like a little thing..but it is not just this lie..it is all the lies...when we were together he was different.

I don't get it.

October 15, 2004
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I do...And I know how you feel. He had the title to it?

October 15, 2004
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Hey starrslp,
its not a small thing. betrayal is betrayal just like all the small lies turn into one big one: who they are and who they pretend to be. I'm keeping that in mind when I want to believe mr. jack again, or trying to at least:). I'm sorry your hurting, hope you feel better after venting at least.

October 15, 2004
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Hi Starry: I agree with what everyone else said. I also think that not giving you your share of the money is stealing from you. On top of everything else. I think I would write a very business like letter (no emotional stuff) and state what your agreement was and what you expect from him now- the money. And give him a deadline for payment. No ifs, ands or buts. Put him on notice. SD

October 15, 2004
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Yes...Take him to court, if at all possible....

Hi SD!!

October 15, 2004
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Hi Sunny! Good to "see" you. SD

October 15, 2004
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SD:
Thx! Gotta love you west coasters! You get to stay up with us! Of course you know I'm a transplanted one...LOL

Hugs,
Sunny

October 16, 2004
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Thanks guys, you all make it more clear.

i kept going back and forth all night wanting to call...but i think if i call it will ruin my almost 7 days of detox and will make me want him back in my life...i don't know why...he just did this totally jerky thing, and i still want him.

why is my thinking so screwed up??

October 16, 2004
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IMHO.... You need to examine your life..If you feel so totally "lost" without him? After all the crap he has heaped on you? What are you really saying? That you want more abuse? That you will let it happen, to satisfy him and make you more miserable? Are you seeing a therapist?

Sunny

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