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February 24, 2006
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Blah. I've gained so much weight in the last few months I don't even feel like myself. It's so weird, I feel like I'm carting around an extra sack of potatoes in my pants. So I did some reading and I saw somewhere that alcohol can cause bloating. Although I've not been drinking heavily as I had been last year, I am drinking often, wine every night. So I'm trying out an experiment. No wine for a week. Now I find myself on a Friday night, went to a happy hour with coworkers and chose not to drink (and I caught some good natured ribbing for it, believe me). And tomorrow night is a big birthday party for one of my girlfriends, and I won't be drinking then, either.

I feel left out somehow. I feel like it won't be any fun unless I'm drinking. And I know in my head that it shouldn't be any different, and in fact, it should be more fun because I won't be worried that people might be monitoring what I'm drinking (no guilt).

But I'm so much more comfortable in social situations where everyone (including me) is drinking. And I don't know why that is.

So I left the happy hour early, and I'm going to go meet my boyfriend at the gym. He is not a big drinker. He never had a problem with it, as he doesn't like the taste of alcohol. But in his past relationships, he's gotten involved with heavy drinkers. So I fit his pattern of partner I guess. But given how much alcohol messed up his past girlfriends, it shocks me when I get home at night and he asks me if I'd like a glass of wine???

He compares it to his indulgence... he has a bowl of ice cream at night. I have wine. But it's like he uses my having wine as a justification for him to have the ice cream. *laugh*

I guess I'm just thinking a lot lately.

Anyone know other causes for bloating?

February 24, 2006
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yes. OLS. It is serious disease Ginger. It is contangious among women. Please get some help for it. It is called OLD LADY SYNDROME. It happens to the best of us.

February 25, 2006
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I am not sure what causes bloating. Maybe drinking soda? Time of the month? too much food? Too much acid food? It could be many things. Try to pinpoint what your habits are.

February 25, 2006
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I'm concerned with your comments about drinking..It makes me wonder..Take a deeper look into you need to drink to have fun, to be accepted.. Drinking wine once in a while will not cause bloating. Bloating is common..Also look @ your diet..If you continue to feel bloated contact your health care professional..

February 25, 2006
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Dear gingerleigh

I too am concerned about your comments about drinking or not. I am a recovering alcoholic and for many years, I did the same thing you did, tried to control my drinking.

Drinking didnt always lead to trouble but trouble was often when I was drinking. Coinidence?

Dont drink wine, only drink beer. Dont touch beer, stick with rum and coke. Ooops, tequila is quicker, try that for awhile. If there was an alcohol out there, I drank it eventually. And alot of what I drank i dont even remember.

Today at going on 5 years sober, I know that I dont have to drink to fit in, dont have to drink to feel like someone else. I can be ME and be happy and not drink.

Sobriety isnt easy. AA is suggested and for 21 years I was in and out of AA before I found sobriety, in of all places, my computer, in an Australian based AA group. I found that there are places alcoholics go and fun alcoholics have in sobriety than anything I ever thought I had fun doing while drinking.

Try AA it wont hurt. They say Keep Coming Back, It Works if you Work it, Im glad I kept going back until I learned how it works and started working it.

Have a great weekend folks

February 27, 2006
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Thanks for the concerns on my drinking. What's getting to me is this feeling of isolation. I find that friends of mine want to drink all the time. I went to a coworkers going away party last Friday and I got razzed for not drinking. Mean, first off, I only had $4 cash on me, which isn't enough to even buy a beer around here, so I got a pop instead. And then I went to a girlfriend's birthday party and they were all drinking and I just couldn't relate to what was going on, and I just couldn't get into it. Maybe it's not my drinking that's the problem... maybe it's the company I'm keeping. Without the alcohol, they are really quite boring. So I'm left feeling like this big circle of friends that I had was really not based on much of anything... people who used me to buy them wine and food (because I have the bigger paycheck)... one of them even brings her laundry to my house because she's a student and doesn't have any money.

I have been to a few AA meetings and I just don't relate to the people there. I've gone to several different "varieties"... women only, business professionals, non-smokers, whatever. The stories are about people who are trying to recover, who are physically addicted, such extreme stories that just don't sound like me.

It's not the alcohol that I'm powerless over... it's my own emotions.

I also recently hit a milestone birthday, maybe I'm just trying to make changes or fighting the inevitable ones.

I haven't had a drink since last Wednesday, and honestly I don't feel any better. I'm still bloated and I'm running around with a mild headache most of the time.

Old Lady Syndrome, that MUST be it.

February 27, 2006
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Since I know that you aren't old ...
and now you have abstained from alcohol for almost a week....

When was your last complete physical?
I have never suffered bloating so I don't know much about it. Have you researched it online?

February 27, 2006
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Ginger,

Have you tried the Tums and Maalox game? If not, try, it may help. Diet is one major factor. too much coffee, (limit to 2 cups per day), soda (or pop), gaseous foods like brussel sprouts, cabbages, spicey foods, smoking (yes, smoking) and alchohol.

Another biggie? Stress. Pure, plain and simple; does it for me often of late since my diet is pretty good; usually.

Some people handle stress in different parts of their bodies. for me, hits me in the neck where i have major health prolems with any way, goes into headaches and yeah, migraines. Mine also hits with the digestive system, common with lots of folks.

If none of these, see your doc. Could be working on major stress in the stomach, early ulcer (which CAN be eliminated or fixed, trust me).

Hope this helps. And big time congrats on the abstaining from drinking!

Headache, too? Check out the stress factor, even if you feel it may not be the reason. Often it is and we do not realize it.

Sew

February 27, 2006
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Oh, add allergies. Could be food or environmental.

February 28, 2006
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A physical might be a good thing. Actually, it's probably a really good thing. I'm calling all this "bloat" but really it's probably just normal weight gain due to too many calories and not enough exercise. I may be working out regularly, but I'm still eating like food is going out of style so therein lies my problem.

Damn you, food, and your tasty goodness!

I will definitely get myself scheduled for that physical. Stress I'm sure is playing a big factor, for a variety of reasons.

The good news is that I haven't had anything to drink at all in almost a week. I'm dragging ass, I have to say. I looked up alcohol withdrawl, and I've found that frequent drinkers, even if only moderate consumers, will still feel a bit lousy while detoxing. It could also be all this Seattle rain too. Urrggh.

Oh please, my coffee, my beloved coffee! No please! *laughing*

I really like reading everyone's feedback and suggestions. If you think of anything else, I am all ears.

February 28, 2006
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And is it Feb. Im on east coast. February that goodness has only 28 days. Then March rolls around and still dragging kind of month. Spring brings out newness and flowers etc. Warm weather. By the end of winter I get the blahs. I know it is different on west coast but thought I would bring it up. I have to get used to be older too. Im no spring chicken anymore. Im more at peace with it. As far as alcohol, I don't see you as having a problem with it. You seem comfortable talking about it, not a heavy drinker or drink at all. Just keep at it but don't let it consume you this bloated feeling. Maybe it will go away on its own.

February 28, 2006
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I've always felt that I struggle with my weight. I went on anti-depressants for a while, and the weight came off like magic. I went off the meds, and the weight came on again. *pout* I think that's what I'm fighting with.

The medication caused me to lose weight because it upset my stomach and so I ate less. That's probably the cue that I should take.

With the eating, I think I'm definitely trying to cover up something, living to eat rather than eating to live.

Now don't get me wrong, I'm not obese. I'm at the high end of normal. But it's funny, the healthy weight range for my height goes from 130 to 165, so that's a lot of room to play in. I perform best when I'm lighter, in the 130 - 140 range. Really I'm looking at losing 15 - 20 pounds, which seems like an impossible task.

Maybe I'll call about that physical today.

March 1, 2006
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Frankly I think your friends are rather insensitive - there are many reasons why a person may decide not to drink: pregnancy, medication in compatible with alcohol, detoxing, being broke etc. I guess it is difficult if they have always known you as a 'drinker'. I think it is admirable that you didn't when faced with their pressure. If you are serious about quitting or reducing, perhaps it would be best to limit contact with them/likely drinking situations so you aren't "tempted" - much like a drug user is typically only successful if they are not triggered by people or environs in which they typically used. Or perhaps you can start reminding them that there are other ways to have fun than from drinking. Alternatively if you don't want to address that, do they serve 'non-alcoholic' wine in bars and stuff that you could substitute so you can still play the part and not get hassled?

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Hi Ginger,
I'm detoxing too. I had a drinking problem in college and quit altogether with the help of a counselor. He helped me deal with the withdrawal and lifestyle changes I had to make. Its been over 15 years since then and during that time I've done some limited social drinking, but usually keeping things in check. Over the past year, my drinking escalated, most likely due to my dh going overseas. about a month ago, I got way out of control and very sick and I've gone off it. According to what I've read, it takes about two months for the brain to start recovering. The headache maybe dehydration, try to drink more water. The physical is a good idea too.

March 5, 2006
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I almost forgot, the bloating. I feel bloated alot too. mostly, I think I'm not exercising enough. I live to eat too. food is a great source of comfort to me. i need to lose about 20 to 30 pounds myself.

March 5, 2006
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Ginger, people tend a lot of times to overlook the most important thing you can give yourself--water. Keeping hydrated helps combat stress, fautigue, bloating, skin problems, anxiety. And added bonus, it helps keep you pretty and slender--we tend to fill up on emty calories when we feel physically thirsty, just wanting to put SOMETHING where the hydration is what our body really wants. It's magical stuff, I tell you.

March 6, 2006
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ginger,

I have a lot of bloating too. I always jump to the worse possible reason and then worry about that.

I went to my ob/gyn about the bloating and he did a pelvic ultra-spound and found a mass. I was totally scared.

I had surgery and the mass turned out to be scar tissue from surgery I had years ago. He remove the scar tissue and the bloating went down but now its back.

I also had a colonoscopy and everything there was fine.

I drink tons of water and I eat a very diet very high in fresh fruits and vegetables and whole grains. I know that these foods can cause bloating.

Also, eating too fast can cause a lot of air to come in with the food causing bloating. I tend to eat fast. I don't know why. Something from childhood I suspect.

I don't drink much soda so its not that.

Getting checked out by your doctor sounds like a good idea just to be safe.

I too LOVE coffee! I can't see giving that up unless its life or death.

March 6, 2006
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I can bloat and look 5 months pregnant, (no lie), within 30 minutes of eating an offending food - mostly dairy. However, I bloat and have water weight gain after eating gluten heavy products like wheat in particular.

there are a number of gastro-related illnesses...also, kinda what you said about - living to eat. Granted, you were on meds and they caused you not to eat...now you eat - like you said...to cover for other things?

Age also is not kind. I'm finding this out. I was a size 0-2, five years ago (hey, I was 98 pounds through college - and I did not have an eating disorder...I ate everything in site - was very active). Now I'm an 8p. It's not for eating crazy - likely meds and treatments over those five years....but my mind has not caught up to my body. I'm working on getting to a size 6. Right now...getting over a rat boyfriend and on new meds that curb the appetite...I've lost 4 lbs. 4 more to go to my goal- and size 6P!

I did have a physical due to weight gain...checked hormones, thyroid, that sort of thing. It's not a bad call - helps rule out the issues.

Might try an elimation diet in order to rule-out offending foods...

Best of luck...

March 8, 2006
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Got back from my physical today. Thanks for all the input, ladies. My bloat isn't bloat... apparently I'm just fat. My BMI is a 25, which is considered overweight on the doctor's chart. I was horrified with what the scale read. It was 15 pounds heavier than I even suspected.

She put me on a diet, less meat and dairy, more vegetables and fruit.

I am eating a salad at my desk. I hate it.

🙁

March 8, 2006
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ginger,

I'm always suprised at how much I weigh at a doctor's office. I weighed 112 lbs this morning at home, totally nude, before breafast or coffee. Then I got dressed, had mt breakfast and coffee. When they weighed me at the doctor's it said 122 lbs! was very upset. that's 10 pounds difference. I don't know how much I really weigh or how much weight to loose.

I have lost 10 lbs based on my scale at home, weight I gained over the holidays.

I eat oatmeal for breakfast with blueberries. I have an orange and 10 almonds for a morning snack, a whole wheat sandwich with baked chicken and mustard and raw vegetables, I eat my apple at 3 pm then at 5 pm I eat a raw turnip and t 6 I eat 3 oz of chicken breast, a big salad with one teas olive oil and rasberry vinegar and a nectarine. At 8 pm I eat a large portion of sliced raw red cabbage, at 9 pm. I eat two whole wheat low fat crackers.

I don't know if that's of interest to you but its how I lost 10 lbs plus exercise.

I just felt sorry for you to be eating a salad and hating it. Maybe you can find a diet that's more pleasing to you.

March 8, 2006
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Re bloating: I had this problem too! Mine was definitly caused by bad diet...I was almost addicted to diet-coke! I had no idea how bad it was for me until I went to the doctor...that stuff just wrecks your insides...

Have you tried a bio-drink? Here in Ireland we have actimel and yakult...in the US there is probably like 145 equivelents to this!! Or a yoghurt with bio-actvia or another love culture? I found this really good, to stop that mid-morning blaoted feeling. Also, try going for regular walks, my doctor told me that mid-paced walking can be really good as it get-things moving without causing the excess gas that you can sometimes get with fast-walking or jogging...just a suggestion!

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Oh my god!!! LOVE CULTURE??? LOVE CULTURE???? I meant LIVE CULTURE!!!!

Sorry!

March 8, 2006
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Thank you so much for the support! I just get so frustrated that it's easy to eat poorly yet takes planning to eat well. It's like, not only am I supposed to cut out the foods I love, they are also in plain view (my office is RIGHT NEXT TO THE FRICKEN KITCHEN) and healthy treats aren't exactly provided in the vending machines here. Even eating out at healthier places aren't quite so great when you get down to how much oil and salt is used in what is prepared. *sigh*

It's just funny... I exercise a fair amount, go to the gym every week day, but my portions and food choices are apparently too far over the edge for exercise to make a big enough dent. So. On the diet I go.

Bugger bugger bugger bugger bugger!!!

March 8, 2006
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Well, consider that you've got a lot of diet buddies, because you are not the only one!

Eat lots of small healthy meals/snacks! Metabolism kicks in best! LOTs of water.

My problem is exercise. I have issues that keep me from exercising or for any duration beneficial for weight loss. Drives me nuts...but if I can do 12 minutes on a treadmill...I'm a happy girl. Now...if I can make time to do that twice a day!

Does anyone have a cattle prod and some carrots?

Let's lose!

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the carrots for me are all the emotional and health benefits of exercise, all the diseases I do not want to get like hypertension and diabetes.

I also enjoy exercise. I have a craving for it. I was just reading about a study that compared 'couch potatoes' to 'active exercisers'. The resutls indicate that there is a genetic component to wanting to exercise and 'couch potatoes' don't have it so it makes it harder for these people to go work out and exercise.

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