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Bitsy's Update
November 21, 2007
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Well it has been an interesting few days since I last checked in. C's car was released from the impound yard in Georgia. She got a 4th DUI. I caught her with R's credit card. I managed to get it away from her because she was snonkered. I called him and told him I had it. He asked how I had it and I told him C said he had given it to her for gas money. He went on line and started checking and still hasn't gotten to the bottom of how much she has charged on his cards. He found a 3rd credit card number with his name on it. Turns out she had gotten an debit card to his checking account and at last count has been through $5,000. When C got the DUI I ended up having to get his mother's truck home safely. She called me last night and left a message on my cell phone thanking me profusely and apologizing for her past actions. She asked me to come see her today. She said right now too much is going on but she wanted to apologize and sometime in the future we will sit down and she will explain things. Surprise, surprise, surprise, C has been lying to her about me. She was also very thankful that I got R's credit card away from C. Last night R packed all of her stuff and put it on his front porch. He locked up the house and told her she was not welcome back that he never wanted her in his house again. C has been dating a guy and she told him that was where she was going to go stay so he got all of her stuff delivered to the guys front door, including her cat. Her parents posted her DUI bond under condition that she not return to her home state.
I reminded R and his mother that they had accused me of taking advantage of them and using them this summer but I had never stolen from them. They both apologized. I reminded R that any time he had given me money to purchase something I had come home, given him the change, and showed him the receipt, and that anytime he had sent me to get something with his credit card I had returned the card with the receipt. Last night I told him where to go on line to check his credit report. Today I told him that he could call and 800 number and cancel the debit card. I used to work for the bank where he banks so I know all of their security. I told him first thing Friday he needs to be at the bank and let them know what is going on. The bank will prosecute her and there is nothing her daddy can do about it. He thanked me and again apologized for his past actions.

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November 22, 2007
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R told me last night that the positive side of this whole mess and what it has cost him is that his mother and I made up. He said now he can spend more time at their condo (meaning now that I could go he would go more).

They had put it together somehow that C had a key to the condo and has been entertaining the men she has picked up in bars there. They were talking about having to change the locks. I admitted to them that I had also taken the key away from her when I got his credit card. His mother started laughing and said well, I guess when this whole thing is over we will all three go down there.

Last night I did see R and he started crying. He asked me how he could have been so blind to everything C did. I explained the pathology of an alcoholic to him. She has no conscious. She felt entitled to everything she took from him. She felt like he owed it to her.

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November 26, 2007
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Well, this is my check in and to say I probably won't be around as much as I have in the past few months. I have accepted a position as sales coordinator for a local company that will lead into a full time sales position. The hours are long. 8:30 to 5:30 one day and 11:00 to 8:00pm the next with one long weekend a month. It makes my stomach hurt to think about having to be in an office or on a showroom floor and not be able to pick up and go whenever, however I want, but you have all listened to me whine about being poorer than I have ever been, so this is a blessing in that I will get a salary plus commission/spiffs.
Any prayers and or positive thoughts and encouragement you could send my way would be greatly appreciated.

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November 26, 2007
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HEY BITSY! CONGRATS ON THE NEW JOB POSITION!

November 26, 2007
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Well I thought I would update you on the latest... R kicked C out of his house last week and deposited her belongings on the doorstep of the guy she has been seeing. Yesterday and today she called saying she had some movies that were hers left at his house. She was going to have the police meet her there becuase he has "violated eviction laws". This afternoon she broke in and took the movies. They weren't hers. She has never had a key to this house and has never paid a dimes rent. She was living there through his generosity and stole almost 8 thousand dollars out of his checking account in addition to what she charged on his credit cards. What do you guys think of that?

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November 26, 2007
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Now he has discovered that while she was in the house she stole another one of his credit cards. The police have said there is nothing they can do because she was not formally evicted.

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December 1, 2007
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Well I found out this week that if you work 10 hour days you don't have a lot of time and energy left over to be depressed and focused on what is wrong with your life. I have had to laugh a little about living in an alternate universe. In real estate I was dealing with professional co-workers. Here their idea of sexual harrassment training was to talk to us in the sales meeting and tell us is was not ok to say to a coworker: "Hey, I need to get laid, are you free tonight?
I probably earned an extra 100 dollars this week, which is pretty good considering I really don't know what I am talking about.

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December 1, 2007
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Well here is somehting to be thankful for. All of my bills that HAVE to be paid today are paid and I have 200 dollars left in the bank. I will get my first paycheck from new job Tuesday and child support after that!!!!! Maybe just maybe there could possibly be a light at the end of the tunnel

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December 1, 2007
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Well thank you Doris Day. I appreciate your encouragement. I try to be positive on here and positive to other people. I have had a few good things happen to me recently. I have shared on here some of the things that have happened to me. I asked for words of encouragement and you gave them to me. Thank you. Bitsy

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December 9, 2007
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Work has been hard. Long hours. Tired. R cooked me dinner Mon, Thurs, Fri, and Sat night. Cat was with her dad and I spent the weekend with him. First time in a long time. Yesterday he worked and I roamed around and got a little of Cat's Christmas done. This afternoon I got bored and wanted to come home and get some things done before Cat got home. He acted all put out like it hurt his feelings for me to leave him. He called me later and apologized that he bored me. Well, excuse me if I don't want to watch football and watch you sleep on the sofa. I had other things I could be doing so I did them.

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December 28, 2007
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Hello Everyone. I can't remember the last time I was here. The past week has been such a blur. I was going into Christmas really depressed but managed to pull it out at the last minute and have a good time. I have worked this week as well and can't check in from work. They block the computer. Anyway,
I would love to hear from everyone. Doris Day how are you? Mary Poppins are you still lurking around? Nappy and Ma Strong any words of advice as I/we go into a new year and I go into an new decade? Honolulu Girl, where have you been? Nerdy what is going on with you? SDesigns how about an update? Everyone and anyone else I have forgotten to mention please check in and tell me you are OK? Love and hugs and kisses to all.

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December 28, 2007
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HI BITSY!

Doris Day is doing okay. The surgery has healed well.....

I am having a few ramifications from the "instant menopause" that I am now dealing with. It never ends!

I am emotionally still struggling about the ex. The holidays are so bittersweet. NO CONTACT. I still am wondering what he is doing..who he is with.

GLAD YOU ARE WELL!

December 28, 2007
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Hi Bitsy!

Glad you ended up having a nice Christmas. Hope all is well. Any goals or wishes for the new year?

Not much new with me. Biggest thing for me is waiting til the people upstairs get an offer on their place and MOVE. Good grief, they have taken about a year out of my life. So my wished for 2008 is that get OUT asap and life can return to some form of normalcy for me. First on the agenda will be to take a nice vacation, somewhere tropical and relaxing! I surely do deserve it.

SD

PS: Doris Day, he may have already moved on to 3 or 4 dif ones- so don't get gray hair over it!! He's probably got a trail of broken hearts behind him.

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