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Birthday forgotten - what would you do?
November 5, 2007
3:33 pm
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My birthday was completely overlooked last year. Since then, everyone's birthday has been celebrated profusely in the office. I suspect that since my boss was mad at me and I at her during at the time, she asked that my birthday not be ackknowledged. I know it sounds impossible, but she's just like that - a cheap shot.

In a month I will have a birthday again. Should I remind them?

November 5, 2007
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if you want them to celebrate it yes but there are ways of reminding them without being so blunt about it. I do this with my dads family because I think that they all including my dad would forget if I didnt tell them. I say I cant believe that I am turning 24 this year man the time flies or something like that. What date is your birthday

November 5, 2007
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How would you remind them without being so blunt?

November 5, 2007
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well you could randomly talk about your birthday plans and tell them how excited you are or you could ask someone "do you think I should do this or this on my birthday they both sound like fun I just cant decide"

November 5, 2007
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I can't even imagine that your boss would be so childish and deliberately ignore your bday. Wow. Is everything cool with you and your boss now? I don't know about reminding everyone that it's your bday... I know that I, personally, would feel wierd doing so. I wouldn't want people to feel obligated to do something for me just because I made it a point to remind everyone when my birthday was. You know what I mean? That's just me though... I usually take my birthday off anyway. I'd much rather spend my birthday doing exactly what I want, and with the people that I want to spend it with. It seems like a waste to spend my whole birthday at work. Give yourself and early bday present and request the day off :o). If anyone asks what you're doing, just say, "I'm taking the day off as a birthday present to myself."

November 5, 2007
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As someone whose birthday has been "overlooked" for the last three years by all of my family I would advise you to ask yourself one question. Think of the most important person in your life (your bf or best friend or sister or brother) and if that one person remembered your birthday, then I wouldn't bother to remind all the people that don't matter that much. Everyone disappoints people in life, but there is always that one person you can count on and then we should just feel grateful. But in the meantime, happy birthday.

November 5, 2007
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I would send myself some flowers, ballons and a card and leave it at my desk the day before my birthday, and when someone asks me when is your birthday , I will say my birthday is tommorow!

November 5, 2007
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Hi artist: I don't know if I would remind them simply because they snubbed you before and there were hurt feelings. It would be much nicer if they rememebered on thier own, and treated you like everyone else on their birthday- but we can't expect others to make us happy, can we?

I'm with Shaney on this one. I usually go somewhere on my birthday- simply because I think its important- if only to ME- and so I treat myself the way I want to be treated. Like loverbee, I have been forgotten by family on my bday, of all things, and so I just don't worry about it anymore. Its all up to me.

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November 6, 2007
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do you really WANT TO FORCE them into feeling guilty and doing something?

or do you want it to come from the heart?

Personally, it's great that someone remembers - but if it's not from the heart - then it kinds of loses it's "touch" in my mind.

I came from a family that ALWAYS neglected my bday - like clockwork.

It just wasn't a "thing" - my grandma was the only one who did bdays - and often she forgot mine, but remembered my uncles, who was close to mine - THAT HURT....she remembered everyone else's.

Anyway, I am NOT with a family that is JUST as bad. My BF's mom got him two pairs of jeans, a few days before his bday - and handed them to him in a grocery bag - knew mine was a few days later - and even asked what I wanted - but then got nothing. My daughter wished me a happy day - my BF said it in passing - my mom forgot until the end of the day when she called me - and that was it.

It just is what it is.

And personally, I am a little upset about it - but there are worse things in life I guess.

I also wonder - will I get a baby shower?...but in the end, don't expect that I will....I am not super close with anyone here - baby is due after xmas - and people I know are just on budgets - or not close to me....and its' not my first baby.

so, who knows.

Thing is - if you want the attention - then do something to remind people - but if you want TRUE attention that comes from the heart - you can't force it and just have to accept what you do get.

My mom's boss wants attnetion on her bday - so every year, she throws a dinner party for herself - invites all her closest friends and makes it HER day - that way nobody forgets....she doesn't ask for gifts - she just invites people to join her for dinner in celebration of another year passed and another year to come.

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