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Bf moving out..thought it's what I wanted but I'm scared!!
October 31, 2006
3:25 pm
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I asked my bf to move out last Saturday night. Well he has been going along like that's fine with him and he said he needed a week. I e-mailed him today to ask when on Saturday he scheduled the moving truck, he said he didn't know if he was getting a uhaul or two men and a truck...so he said he hasn't scheduled it yet. The weird thing is we haven't spoken, but he's keeping the house clean, acting happier than he did when we were a couple, and hasn't packed up one thing. I know he has 4 nights left, it's weird though. My friend thinks he's cleaning the house and continously changing the computer desktop pics because he's bored....well if he's bored why isn't he packing. Everyone who knows him is glad that I am kicking him out because they feel he was using me. Maybe he is staying because he feels that as long as his stuff is in the house he isn't going to stay anywhere else...maybe he thinks I'll destroy his furniture although I haven't destroyed anything even in the worst of arguments. Although I know that I have to do this....I have my ups and downs on my feelings towards it because I know that I love him but he doesn't if ever loved me...and I'm scared of the loneliness once he's gone...I need some words or insight in to what anyone else thinks...I Love this site..it helps so much!

October 31, 2006
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Oh S&C... :o( I remember feeling the same way... but once his things were gone, I felt a huge sense of relief. Sure, I felt a little lonely but I knew I would get through it. You have to believe that, because it's absolutely true. I knew that going through that pain of a breakup, would be far better than the continued suffering that I would experience if I stayed in the relationship. The loneliness that I felt having a boyfriend that didn't treat me well, was worse just being alone. The loneliness and fear that you're anticipating is normal, but will be short lived. You WILL find someone else that loves you, that's inevitable. Play it smarter this next time, do things differently... learn to recognize the red flags so you can make better choices. It will all fall into place - just look ahead at the good, and leave the bad stuff behind. You can do it!

November 4, 2006
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dear scared and confused.
maybe he is acting "wierd" and happier and cleaning the house and doing things on the computer instead of packing...because he has no intentions of leaving...maybe he is hoping that once again ..you will see the "good" things in him and let him stay?
thats what I think my guy is doing..
he said he would move out on the 15th but...doesn't look like he is saving money, looking for a place to rent..packing?? Instead..he is whistling, doing things on the computer, fixing the cars, working in the yard,.. and spending his money on a 'security" system he says I will need ?? I don't think he plans to go anywhere...and dread the d-day...
how are things going with you now?

shaney. wanted to thank you for your last reply on scared and confused other thread. it made me cry and then laugh out loud ..when you said..I am providing him a 401k plan and can you move in with me?.... I know it sounds so STUPID..or should I say FOOLISH..yep..I like FOOLISH better..I know..I truly am a bleeding heart that lets people take advantage..but I am TRYING..to stand my ground this time..and hope I have the strength to JUST say NO MORE.
thanks again shaney!

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