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bf is smoking crack...
February 21, 2005
10:49 am
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stardj0
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i was working 10 hours last night and was giving much thought to what i asked ..and i have decided to just let things ride out for a few more weeks and see what happens...i think that would be the best solution...he called me last night.. and told me he is going to go to pre treatment this week tues-weds-thurs..i told him that i was glad to hear that and if he does it..it would be the most wonderful thing he could do for himself...and i asked him where he and i stand and does he still want to see me?? and he said of course...i am just going to take this thing one day at a time.. he wants me to come over today(monday) and see him..but i have my reservations about going there to see him..i miss the animals more than i miss him at this point...he has a pay as you go cell phone which i got for him so he would at least have a way to get a hold of me or anyone else, once his land line phone is cut off for non payment...so i will pick up a card for his phone so he wont run out of minutes.. i want him to at least call me and let me know that he is ok...im probably going to go over there just to see that he is ok.. i hope and pray that he goes to these pretreatment meetings..the only thing wrong is that he goes and when he gets off at night from work..he still goes and uses..i guess that is a part of it all...until he can get into a detox program..im not sure...but if this all works and he does get off it..it will have been worth all of my effort..and i will feel rewarded just knowing i saved him from destroying himself..even if we dont ever get back together as a couple..he is such a wonderful guy when he isnt using..so i just hope that he gets hisself back together..take care all..and thanks for the support...

February 21, 2005
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Star...
I hope and pray he gets the help he nedds, But PLEASE take care of yourself first, and foremost.
Don't expect instant results, as the healing process is a long one. My husband Still has problems, and has "slipped" That doesnt mean thay don't want ot stop, It is just that Crack can completely take over anything, and everything.
I give you all my support, etc,and remember that IF he does "slip" or start using agin, not ot take it personally.
Best of luck to both of you.

February 21, 2005
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addicts wife..
i know that he will probably slip up at times..which would be ok as long as he doesnt go back to it completely and get to where he is now again..that scares me the most of anything i can think of...after all that hard work of getting off of it and then getting back on it again.. i am going to some how try to get him into some type of religion or something.. i would gladly love to hear him preach the word of the lord every day and night as opposed to haveing him come home every night all cracked out..i have to somehow get him addicted to that..and me....unfortunately he has a VERY addictive personality..so he can become addited so easily to just about anything...i just have to find some good addictions..i know he loves his animals..so maybe i can get him addicted to them as well..i will do anything in the world for him to keep him off that stuff and i have told him that..but i just pray that he is SERIOUS about wanting to get off of it..that is my main concern at this time..i pray for you as well and hope all is going well..take care for now.....

February 21, 2005
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You can't fix him. I know you want to. I know it breaks your heart to admit to yourself that he needs to decide for himself that HE needs to do the work, on his own to get better. But you know what - he does.

Crack is a scarey drug, hon. It is the most difficult drug to get sober from.

February 23, 2005
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Star,

..."i will feel rewarded just knowing i saved him from destroying himself..even if we don't ever get back together as a couple.."

There is a natural law of sowing and reaping, which says that we reap what we sow, and we learn. Your boyfriend does not have to learn to reap the disasterous consequences of using crack because you are lovingly suffering the consequences for him.
Why should he change? Sounds like he's got you right where he wants you.

What about what you want in a relationship?

CM

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