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Being wrongly accused of cheating.
April 3, 2016
12:27 pm
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Please help!!!! I have been in a 4 year relationship with my now fiancé. Today I have encountered another one of her rants, where she accuses me of cheating on her. I'm feed up and at my wits end. She picked me up today and literally searched my purse as well as patting me down for her phone. She didn't find anything and I told her the last place I saw it was in the glove compartment. We were on the way to the grocery store and before we got out the car I searched in the glove compartment and found the phone. Instead of makin a big deal about it I mentioned that something else was in the glove compartment and didn't mention that I found the phone. She turned around came to the passenger side and looked in the glove compartment and found the phone for herself. She blew up and accused me of stealing the phone and taking it to work. I told her that it was there before I even got in the car and on top of it she had already searched me as if I was a criminal. I have encountered accusations like this before but never to this severity. I'm in love with her that's why I stay but its hard when she is always down my throat about cheating. It really breaks my heart and saddens me because its almost an everyday thing. If I go to work I'm accused of screwing every man in there and if I follow her to work since she works at a club I'm accused of being with people at her job. If I told you about the things I've sacrificed to be with her you'd definitely call me insane. I let her use my car to get back and forward to work, she has a phone and I don't, and I follow her to work and sit in the car waiting for her. I know no one would do any of these things to prove their loyalty but I have. Even writing this I cant stop crying because I'm so hurt and I don't know where to turn. I love her to a fault and I don't wanna let our relationship go. I really feel like she's the one cheating that's why everyday is a constant headache and argument. Am I wrong for wanting to keep this relationship when everyone tells me I'm beyond insane. Should we even go as far as getting couples counselling because I know I'm innocent I would do anything to show her I am not doing anything. I really feel as if she starts the arguments so she can do what she wants outside of the relationship with no kind of guilt. I know I haven't done anything that would leave any impression of cheating and at this point I feel like she's a bit possessive. Its like no matter what I'm always the bad guy in the relationship. I feel even worse because she runs around telling people that I am horrible, a cheater, liar, and no good. She has even gone as far as to say I wanna be with her family member's which makes me even uncomfortable to be around her family. The arguments definitely are worse when she comes from her job and picks me up from mine. Its like she sits there and plots what she'll accuse me of today. I love her but is love enough to have to go through this at least 4 times a week. Its like she's miserable and wants me to be also. Its straining on us and it definitely is hard to coup with what should I do?

April 9, 2016
7:47 am
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Dear B,
From what you described, there seems to be quite a few problems and frustrations for you and your partner. It appears that your partner does not trust you and is continually suspicious of your every activity. I do not know your history or your partners history and that does not matter. I think any kind of couple's counseling could not hurt at this time. You say you love your partner, but it seems that this person you are with is really hurting you. Maybe if you went to counseling together it would reveal what is really going on between the two of you and why. Good Luck.

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