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being a caregiver
May 25, 2004
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I have been thinking I am 43 years old and have a very dysfunctional family. I look back I started being a caregiver when I was 14 years old. My Mom was a stay at home Mom and my Dad got laid off for a year. She went out got a full time job my brother's 5 and 8 years old and I was 14. My Dad got a full time job so I was the babysitter, housekeeper and made sure dinner was on the table at 5:15 every night. I see it this way now, I took the place of my Mom while she worked and I went to school did the cooking and cleaning. I did this for a very long time up past my 18th birthday. Even when I had a full time job I was still doing this. At the time I didn't see anything wrong with it but now looking back I was robbed. Of my teen years all the fun and parties. I had very little friends maybe a hand full. The guy in my life well he was 3 years old then me and moved to Wyo when I was 18. A couple years later I went there 3 times to see if we could have a life but he had major problems and it didn't work. So for almost 30 years I was a caregiver for my whole family. Now I cut to codependcy strings off me, I can now take care of Me and my husband only. My family has to take care of themselves. But am I wrong to feel robbed? Would like input. Thanks

May 26, 2004
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i too felt robbed when i was younger i was a caretaker also, then every relationship i was a caretaker to all the "addictive" men I chose. I can't say I feel "robbed" becuz I CHOSE these men, for whatever reason, I am getting better and trying to learn to do more for me, life is so quick and passes by quickly, for you to not
focus on your family now and be your own person is great, live for today and remember you have changed and are leading a much better life now!

May 26, 2004
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HI! Camer I have only be a caregiver to my family, well I do care for my husband but it's not the same as with my family. Sometime's it's not a bad thing to be a caregiver, but when it turns into codependency then it is. take care spacegirl

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