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Bad friendship with Boss/Friend
August 13, 2007
1:45 pm
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thunderspirit36
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I have a problem going on now that I really do not know how to handle. I had a friend for 12 years to whom I worked under for 10 of those years. Recently she started acting weird at work towards me and said somethings to customers in my store about me , trying to ridicule me in front of people. I did not know what I did to her and even asked her. She just said you will find out soon enough . Well after 5 days of going through this at work she finally pulls me into the back room and tells me I supposedly lied about her daughter-in-law. I was shocked out of my mind. I did not even know what she was talking about. Then she brings up something totally unrelated to that, that had to do with the store . I supposedly said something to someone that wasnt true and I confronted that person right there about it in front of her to prove her wrong . After this incident I found out that what was told was a total misunderstanding . Someone had said what was said to her but it was relayed as to how I said it in the wrong way . I have not been able to defend myself over the incident or anything else I am just labeled to her like I am a liar. She is telling customers that I see outside of the store things about me to which every one of them told me the same thing that I should have known better because she has done this stuff before to other ones and I should have heeded that. I even quit my job over this matter because i was so mad at her for doing this to me . She will not return phone calls or anything. I do not want to go to the store and confront her for fear she will claim I am trying to harrass her or something. I truely do not know what to think or how to feel . My husband has even been talked about and he hasnt even been in there in a long time . All of this crap does not make any sense to me and i want her to stop talking about me to people . they don't really even know me other then by coming in the store on a regular basis . We are talking 12 years here . what can I do . my husband says just cut my loses and she was never my friend any way she only used me .

August 13, 2007
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Well thunder, seems to me that you've done all that you can do in terms of trying to get a resolution here.

You don't know what to think or how to feel? Well, If i were you i'd feel hurt and angry. What to think? maybe think about do you want this kind of person to be your friend? "oh, you'll find out soon enough?" wtf? i loathe that game...truly a tool of the immature. your "friend" has taken some very vindicative actions. seems to me that you already have defended yourself by getting the original third party to clarify what was a misunderstanding.

I mean really, if you found out that a friend of your sad something bad about you or your family, wouldn't you want to speak with them first before you went on some vicious campaign of character assassination? isn't that the adult thing to do? have you written her a letter?

perhaps you may have to just accept that she is unreachable right now and there's nothing you can do regarding her running her mouth about you and your husband. Unless of course it costs you money...then you have standing in that you can show damages and litigate the matter as slander/defamation of character. we really can't control the things people say about us..we just have to accept it sometimes. If you are very angry try to remind yourself that the best revenge is living well.

Hope this works out for you.

-G.

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