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Back to my old ways... I think yay?
April 20, 2005
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Well, I have decided to go back to the way I used to be. It finally struck me, people hardly ever live up to their said morals. I plan to go through with mine.

I am going to wait for that special girl, the one I know I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. She is going to be incredible, I may not know anything about what I want her to be like, but I can guarantee we are perfect for EACHOTHER, not just one way. It will be the perfect ending to a tragic story called "Life." I will remain a virgin until my wedding night as my plans had always been. I'm not going to do or try drugs.

I'm not saying I'm just going to sit around and wait. I will attempt to meet, no scratch that. I will meet new people, and get to know them before anything else. I deserve something so much better than what has been happening to me. Yes, I deserve great things. I just have to take steps to get there, and I plan on it.

April 21, 2005
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Is that bad? I don't know. I feel like it's what I'm supposed to do, but then why is it nobody else is like that?

April 21, 2005
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I'm talking to myself here... That's weird. I guess no one can say anything.

April 21, 2005
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ever_glow,

I wanted to say that it sounds as if you have finally made peace with your raging emotions, "right on!" Yes, you do deserve much better than how you have been treated.

More importantly, you are going to take steps to get where you want to go. I know this whole painful experience will make you stronger and give you more wisdom in future relationships.

You seem like a very sensitive (in a good sense), smart young man and I know you will do well. You will always have empathy for those who are hurting, too.

Keep us posted, or if you just need to vent, we are here.

(((HUGS)))

CM

April 21, 2005
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Ever_glow,

I am soooooo proud of your decision and of you!!! Especially as a guy, I rarely hear guys saying things like I'm gonna spend the rest of my life virgin till I meet the right girl.

God bless, keep us posted, all the best,

Rasputin

April 21, 2005
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Hey, I gotta get my 2 cents in here:

WAY TO GO!!! GOOD FOR [email protected]!!!

You will be truly blessed by following your morals. You are a
welcome rarety. A very good one.

April 21, 2005
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I know it's rare for a guy to remain virgin... but I not only want, but need, the act of making love to be just that... Making love. Not just sex. I'm not saying that it's not fun, and I'm not saying that I'll never have sex just for fun. I am saying that my first time will be that of making love. It needs to be, I've grown up on those morals (which are so far from my parents morals as kids)... My parents never taught us morals or etiquette or manners, but my sister and I turned out much better than almost any other kid I've seen.

This is weird. It's going to be worth it. It has to be.

Good things come to those who wait. Right?

All I know is I'm going to live it out, one day at a time, but always work towards my dream. Towards the baby I see my wife holding in her arms. Towards the little girl that hugs my leg with all her might, because that is love. The act of creating a life together with someone you want in your life forever.

Anyways... it's amazing I'm not gay.

April 21, 2005
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everglow,

wow. you are amazing. just from your words, you reflect this positive outlook of life. i don't think i have ever heard a guy speak of love the way you do. because of your optimism, i truly believe you deserve anything good that comes your way. i respect your choice for saving yourself. . . keep true to yourself, but if it feels right don't hold yourself back either.

gosh, why can't there be more guys like you out there!! hee,hee. . .

all the best. . .BIG HUGS!!!

April 21, 2005
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I support you in your integrity and in doing what ever is right for you no matter what that turns out to be.

I have been reading about how young people who pledge abstinence are more likely to engage in unprotected oral and anal sex and contract STDs that way. You want to watch that one.

It is possible to express ones love and passion without doing any of those things though. And letting Love be your guide sounds like a really good way to go.

April 21, 2005
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"Good things come to those who wait. Right?"

yep, and another one: "Steady plodding brings prosperity". It all boils down to patiently waiting for the right person at the right time in the right manner (the manner that is right for you).

Keep on,

CM

April 21, 2005
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EG -

You sound like such a sweet and wonderful guy!

Where were you when I was in high school?

Oh...not born yet, I guess. LOL!

Anyway, for the record, I completely agree with you, and admire you a lot.

Take care -
D.

April 22, 2005
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Now... if only the people my age wanted the same thing.

That's what makes it so hard these days. The world is a bad place, and there are so few good people out there that are waiting. Most of the people who have told me they are virgins end up confessing that they are not.

Now... looking back a lot of people have noticed that waiting would have been the good thing to do. However, when you are in highschool, it's not that way.

It's going to feel good waiting, I know it is. It's important to me, and whoever the lucky girl is.. I have no expectation that she'll be perfect and have the same ideas as me, but she will respect my wishes to wait until marriage. Virgin or not, she will be absolutely perfect to me.

I have started to see many people that I find attractive again. Not that they got ugly or anything, but I stopped noticing the good things about them. I am starting to see the good in people again, even if I can't stand the person (like most of my 'friends')... I deserve to be treated better, how I want to be treated. I want to be treated with compassion. I want to be treated like many of you treat me here. and I thank you all for that.

April 22, 2005
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everglow,

You are very mature for a young adult, which probably makes it tough to cope at school. Many high schoolers are still very self-centered and looking for instant gratification, which is actually developmentally normal, but sooo hard for more mature students, and for parents.

Standing alone is tough, but it is the stuff that leaders are made of.

Most of us here on this site are older than you and can sympathize with where you are at now. Also, most of us have been literally and/or figuratively "beat up" by people in our lives which have made us able to recognize what is really important, that is, working toward being healthy and reaching out to help others be healthy.

Peace out,
CM

April 22, 2005
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I appreciate everyone's support here. It has really helped, I have been through a lot of the same things many of you have talked about. I feel like the people here are much closer to me than the people... 'here'

Coda,
I do want instant gratification, it would be wonderful. I am self-centered. I just know I'm going to have to be patient. I need to have something that I know I can hold onto. I don't want to have to always worry about suddenly losing somebody, I understand that with dating and relationships I am going to lose people, but I know there will be a time where I won't. It's that time that I'm working towards. Be me, who I want to be, not who others want me to be. Do what I want, and work towards my dream. It will be mine.... someday.

Again, thank you everyone. I now know that there are some really sweet people out there, and genuinely good people. I was beginning to lose hope, but you all have shown me the other side. Thank you.

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