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Atalose,anyone -boyfriend asked this question
September 17, 2009
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Well, I just brought that up because of his apparent control issues, superiority (by that I mean his being so critical of you and voicing that opinion to you- who says his way is the right way?).

Thats part of what I mean by the sense of entitlement- they are used to being in control and not questioned about it. They are used to being the authority and can be rigid in their conduct.

I decided my guy was a sociopath, due to his behavior and his past. His father apparently used to beat him and he said he thinks he has PTSD from his childhood. His father became very wealthy from buying property but now lives like a pauper on a beach in Mexico even though he's worth about $10 mil.

September 17, 2009
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Yes SD..he does have some control issues but that didnt bother me as I did enjoy spending time with him and we do have our set days..so I am able to plan whatever I need to do on my days. And the being critical I guess gives him a sense of superiority.

His father is also worth a lot of money..but HE HAS HIM living like a pauper at a boarding house because he claims he is a danger to himself..but he does visit him and take him out everyday..He says it was a promise he made to his mother to take care of his father until he dies. If he were my father..I would have him taken care differently especially when he has the money to be able to have someone take care of him at home.

So how did you end the relationship?

 

 

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September 17, 2009
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Well, I didn't see him as long as you've seen your guy and it didn't get as close. I eventually found out some lies and he had quite the hidden life, so I cut him lose. I didn't have as much invested timewise as you did.

So, what do you think you walk away with from this experience? Anything you would say you've learned about yourself? Anything you would do differently next time?

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I learned to be more careful with people and not get to close to them before I get to know them well. That when one is in a friendship..when it turns into romantic relationship is very different. That being generous in general is a very good quality because one is able to give freely emotionally....and that money is not as important as people and relationships.

 

 

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September 27, 2009
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2B,

Thinking about you, what’s been going on in your life these days?

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

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