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February 25, 2005
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Married many years 3 kids one gone one on the way out and one still at home. Husband is a daily drinker won't say he is an alcoholic but he is because he drinks everyday. Through the years I have threatend too many time that I'm sick of it and I'm leaving to never do it. I know my threats are as bad as his promises. I am finally to my rock bottom. I don't love him but he has yet to realize that because the little time he is sober he is a great person and dad. When he is drinking he is awful, on the edge yells just to make sure we all know he is the DAD of the family. He is emotionally not there for me ever. He says I'm the only one with a problem. He says he will slow down but that lasts only a few days. He gets mad some times and says THIS IS ME! Either accept it or leave. I know he doesn't ever think I will leave but I'm going too. He is so dependent on me for everything except when it involves drinking. I am sick about this and stressed daily. He says if you would just not think about it so much all will be just fine. some support is much appreciated.

February 25, 2005
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Hey, glad you are here.

First off, it is NOT you that has the problem. You're only problem is him. Have you sat down one on one w/ no kids and tried to talk this out? As in if this is all your fault, then he needs to explain it to you so you will understand and fix it. (That's just to get him to talk). Don't sit there and let him bash you tho.

Has he always been this way? or did this occur over time? Maybe think back and you can see something that knocked him off the edge.

He's drinking to cope. That's what my non-alcoholic always said. Do you want to live this way? coz this is what you get if HE does not want to make any changes. That's why I said... think back if this was a sudden change, try to talk it out w/ him, suggest counseling.

Keep coming here and posting. You'll more likely keep your sanity that way. You are welcome here any time.

February 25, 2005
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Hi

Of course it's all your fault according to your alcoholic. My alcoholic said it was always my fault too. Just learn to roll w/ the flow.

Sorry for your ordeal w/ your alcoholic. Has he always drank, or did this or did it just happen all of a sudden? I ask because he drinks to cope. With what; he only knows.

Have you tried to sit down one on one w/ no kids to talk about this? Not him blame you, but talk it out. This is the way you will live until and if he decides to change it. There is nothing you can do unless he wants to change. You can continue to live this way, or .......

You are welcome to come here and vent. You'll at least keep some sanity that way. Glad you are here.

February 25, 2005
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(sorry for the double post... I get knocked off the computer when the phone rings.)

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