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Army, are you here?
October 13, 2006
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ArmyAngel:

I'm glad to see you honey. A bit worried about you myself. Yes, I'll check Kasie. She will be fine tho. You? You gonna be ok?

As Kasie stated... It is not an easy process to get away from the abuser, but you can ask any woman, well we'll say almost any woman, if she'd rather have the money w/ the evil x or struggle always and be free from abuse. MOST will say the abuse and poverty are far better. HOney I gave up 6 figures and took on all the bills and had no job but it was good coz I didn't have to be afraid for my life anymore. Kasie is having a bad day and I'd bet alot has to do w/ letting herself get worked up over everything. She's not yet learned how to control her triggers. She will.

I am sorry you have a fracture. Did you check out that website? I've not made it past the introduction, but i'm having to face a few unpleasntries in my life also. Please, please check it out. It is a straight forward presentation.

I'm here for a few if you'd like to talk. If not I'll be on tomorrow again.

Armyangel... you keep comin back. You have family here. We are here for you almost anytime. The fires here burn 24/7. If someone doesn't answer right away, they will answer soon.

((( holding you close )))

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October 13, 2006
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Army,

You can continue, you have made a big step by coming here. Please don't give up hope, there is always hope. Don't blame yourself for not being strong enough to go...what you have been through has depleted your strength, thats understandable, your defences and strengths have been torn down...that is the abusers aim after all isn't it? But, you can get the tools you need to build your strength and spirit back from here, just as I got them here, just as so many people have. This place gives you tools...you will understand what I'm talking about some day. Just take care of yourself, keep coming here and keep learning, you have it within you to make a good life for yourself away from your abuser...but for now, you need to take care of your inner and outer injuries and replenish your strength. One day at a time Army.

Rev.

October 13, 2006
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They must have asked you what happened at the clinic. What did you tell them?

Keep posting here. This is your first step toward freedom. Do NOT give it up.

October 13, 2006
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Wish I could be there with you, just to give you the hugs you need, some chicken soup, more hugs and plump your pillows...more hugs. But know that we are there with you in spirit and here for you on these threads. You are exhausted today. But I want to remind you of one thing. Repeat after me: I DID NOTHING WRONG. I DID NOT DESERVE THIS. I DID NOTHING WRONG. I DID NOT DESERVE THIS.

You rest today. I am praying. Your day of freedom from this abuse and torment WILL come when you are strong enough.

- Strong

October 13, 2006
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anyone out there

October 13, 2006
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i just stopped in to check on you and scared...what's up?

October 13, 2006
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Hey, Army, I'm here.

October 13, 2006
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We are here (((army)))

October 13, 2006
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just lonely I half 1/2 alone.

October 13, 2006
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can someone just talk?

October 13, 2006
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don't want to write because I want to bury evrything, for now

October 13, 2006
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army, I wrote you and scared a poem, go read it.

October 13, 2006
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What ar "triggers"??? Was it my fault?????

October 13, 2006
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army what do you want to talk about?

October 13, 2006
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thumkin,

I dont know?

October 13, 2006
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Can you put "triggers" into context? Sometimes around here it means that someone is going to say something that might bring up one of your issues. For instance, I am a food addict. If someone is talking about chocolate cake, I'm gonna start obsessing. It's a "trigger" for me. People have things that bring up their issues of all sorts of abuse and addictions.

October 13, 2006
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army how many children do you have? boys, girls? How old are they? Are you just wanting to talk about anything else to give your heart and mind a little relief?

October 13, 2006
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Army,

It was not your fault.

It was never your fault.

He has no right to put his hands on you EVER...no matter what.

This is all about him honey. He is sick. It's not about you or anything you did, or anything you said.

If you were absolutely perfect (which no one is btw) and did every single thing right...he would still find some excuse because he is sick. Part of his sickness is to make you believe that you could have done something differently.

It is a lie. He is lying to you. You could not have done things differently. He will always find a reason.

Please know that.

It's not about you. It is about him.

October 13, 2006
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Army,

I don't know if anyone has told you..but there is a book called:

Why Does He Do That....Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft.

Please get that book. Read it when you can and please....believe what you read.

October 13, 2006
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Mama/Stronginhim,

Then I am to blame, I am so reponsille if somethinng happens to Kasie....

OMG I should not have written anything I'm sorry....I am so bad I should not have said anything....I'm sorory I won't write again.

tell her I'm sorry I didn't mean to hurt her, I'm always messing things up!!!!

I care for her...she was one of the first to write and understand me.

I can't do anything wright. Please don't hate me.

October 13, 2006
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Army,

Nothing that happens to anyone else is your fault!

I understand that Kasie is your friend and you care about her...but you do not know her in person. You cannot be responsible for anything that happens to her or anyone else.

Your only responsibilty is to take care of yourself.

October 13, 2006
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How could something happening to Kasie possibly be your fault? I know I'm missing something. But IF something happened to Kasie, it would certainly NOT be your fault.

The other day I told you how I learned to stand up to my husband. If you had tried what I said, and said to him, "It's not my problem," or "It's none of your business," and then he beat the crap out of you, would that be my fault? Nope. Would it be your fault for trying it? Hell no. It would be HIS fault -- ALL HIS FAULT.

jill

October 13, 2006
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From "One day at a Time" in Alanon....

"I have the right to free myself from any situation that interfers with my having a decent life and pleasant experiences. Every human being is entitled to live without fear, uncertainty, discomfort. I should take a firm stand and hold fast to whatever decision I make, to help not only myself and my family, but the suffering _______ as well. Constant wavering can only hinder me from breaking out of my present thinking patterns."

"God, guide me to make the right decision and give me the fortitude to cling to it against all pressures and persuassions."

October 13, 2006
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"I am an individual with the right to a good life. I must not look to anyone else to make a good life for me; this I must do for myself. Have I deceived myself into thinking that it is my lot in life to accept anything life chooses to hand out to me, however humiliating or degrading?"

October 13, 2006
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