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Apparently my family is falling apart (Loverbee)
November 14, 2006
2:33 pm
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Well, as I had mentioned, I recently broke up with my bf to try and so some growing that needs to be done on my own. Then I got a phone call and today found out that my uncle, who has raised me like his own and has basically been my father for the last 8 years, cheated on his wife with her twin brothers wife and they are now getting a divorce. I am going home for thanksgiving and all this has happened and I don't know how things are going to be now. On top of that my grandmother is getting worse with alzheimers every day and now I feel like my whole world has completely flipped upside down. What the hell was my uncle thinking? Why is this all happening now of all times? I am overwhelmed and scared and I am trying to be strong but it is hard. It feels like my own parents getting divorced and it is the second set of parents that I have had that are going through this because my biological parents were divorced when I was three. Wow this sux.

November 14, 2006
2:52 pm
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(((Loverbee))))

November 14, 2006
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loverbee,

I can't offer any advice! I have never been through anything like that, but your thread touched me and I am thinking of you and your family. I hope you and your family find some peace!!!

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November 14, 2006
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I wish I didn't have an exam to study for tommorrow.

November 14, 2006
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Good grief.

Honey, I would find someplace else to go over the Holidays!!! Could you just slip away to someplace you've never been before and........relax?

I'm sorry your mother's family is going through so much drama and trauma. I really am.....so sorry that you have to feel the pain and embarrassment as much as the ones directly involved.

I missed learning you and your bf broke up?!?

And just for the record, the two who had the affair were BOTH not thinking (except about themselves).

You ARE strong, Loverbee. This whole deal has nothing NOTHING to do with who you are. It is OTHER PEOPLE'S problems. All you can do is lend a sympathetic ear to your mum's sadness and just listen. I'm sure you are and have always been a shoulder for her. Please remember to set some personal boundaries for your protection and safety.

November 14, 2006
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Well, it is actually my dads family and it is my uncle who is getting the divorce but he has practically raised me since my dad disowned me 8 years ago. I am going to be ok, but it is a lot to deal with. Life is so strange how everything is just falling apart but I am sure I am not going to fall apart because I haven't yet. I just need to focus on making myself important to mself again.

November 14, 2006
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Oops sorry I assumed the uncle was you mum's brother.

"I am sure I am not going to fall apart because I haven't yet." I really love this line, loverbee. It would save a lot of us to think that way.

November 15, 2006
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The biggest mistake that my sister made when she went through a breakup was to sit there thinking " I can't wait till we get back together." So I decided that I am not going to think like that. I am going to help take care of myself and take care of my family without making myself any less important. I think it is helping a lot to be seeing a therapist right now too.

November 15, 2006
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I think that if you looked at my family and all the drama that has happened, it would make for a very good book someday. Man the drama. The funny thing is that I think out of everyone in my fam, I am handling everything pretty well and I am going to just try to be supportive.

November 16, 2006
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Well, just found out that my uncle (the one who cheated on his wife) is now not being invited to thanksgiving dinner. Instead we are having it at his wifes house. I feel as though that is pretty cold to make your own brother spend thanksgiving alone. But on the other hand, I think it is lame what he did. I just love my family very much but it pains me to know that any of them are unhappy. This sux.

November 16, 2006
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(((( loverbee ))))

I'm sorry to hear.

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