Avatar
Please consider registering
guest
sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register
Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search
Forum Scope


Match



Forum Options



Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters
sp_TopicIcon
Anyone have trouble finishing a break up
March 19, 2009
9:29 pm
Avatar
pencil
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I finally had the strength to leave a one sided marriage however, tonight I struggle with letting go completely. I don't want to hurt anymore.

March 19, 2009
9:58 pm
Avatar
Anonymous
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Good for you! How long has it been since you left? It takes time to heal.

HUGS

March 20, 2009
12:08 am
Avatar
_anonymous
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 8
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Well I started a break up and the longer I stay away from my user, abuser nothing but a looser husband the easier it gets. Give yourself some time to adjust and process all that has gone on. I kind of look forward to filing the final judgement for a divorce and sending it to him. My way of telling him he is a jack ass.

Unfortunatly we cant just wake up one day and forget about someone we were married to. Be nice though.

March 20, 2009
12:30 am
Avatar
guest_guest
Guest
Guests

Great that you got out. Just remember the rule of no contact that people here talk about. Its extremely important in helping you preserve your peace of mind. Resist contacting them no matter how bad you want to. At times you will want to so much - dont give in. Do anything else but contact them. That includes any kind of texts, email, phone, real-life meetings and eveyrthing else.

Talk to friends, take your mind off it, do something else - whatever helps.

March 20, 2009
2:56 am
Avatar
tree_hugs_4life
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Talk to your soon to be ex spouse. That's where closure is. And don't say you can't talk to him or her. Because you most certainly can.

peace

March 20, 2009
4:55 am
Avatar
marypoppins
Member
Members
Forum Posts: 4
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Pencil,

You wrote:

"I finally had the strength to leave a one sided marriage however, tonight I struggle with letting go completely. I don't want to hurt anymore."

I'm not sure what you mean exactly by "letting go completely". Does that mean having no contact with him/her? Getting a divorce? Moving all of your things out?

In my experience, in trying to avoid pain, we prolong it. And, when I finally ended my own one-sided marriage, the pain and fear were lessened by the tremendous relief I felt. I was no longer living a lie. I was no longer pretending to be in a happy marriage, or passing by the room in our house my exh had moved into and feeling like a failure and a fraud.

All the best to you. You're not alone!

Mary

Forum Timezone: UTC -8
Most Users Ever Online: 247
Currently Online:
46
Guest(s)
Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)
Top Posters:
onedaythiswillpass: 1134
zarathustra: 562
StronginHim77: 453
free: 433
2013ways: 431
curious64: 408
Member Stats:
Guest Posters: 49
Members: 110905
Moderators: 5
Admins: 3
Forum Stats:
Groups: 8
Forums: 74
Topics: 38534
Posts: 714189
Newest Members:
sendlv, ViolentFighterBrownCaveman, kbrfDazy, traceyob69, JohnMeave, EthanDiord
Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0
Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer