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Anyone have some quick advice for me?
February 18, 2006
8:04 pm
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ryny143
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Question~ The whole "dont react to what you usually react to" concept- how does that work exactly? Given that I JUST reacted by making myself hysterical, if I hadnt, and I went on about my night- later on when my "bf" called and tried to act all nice like nothing happened, how do I react THEN? Just let him get away with hurting me? I almost got off the phone (in tears of course), and let him get his way (us NOT going out, but me coming there and renting a movie and REWARDING him for shi**ing on me), but he kept tryingto make things worse....whatever- the stories and issues I have are endless.

How do things get solved or change, if I stop reacting and being so needy? I want to try a different technique starting tonight. Help?...

February 18, 2006
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Hi Ryny,
I'm not as wise as the others here, but I'll do my best. I don't know the whole story, but it sounds like you and your guy had plans to go out tonight, but he'd rather you come over and just watch a movie and be low key, but you were all psyched to go out. Now you are disappointed, because he has changed the plans and feel like you have to comply with the change.

What do you want to do tonight? What can you do that will make you happiest right now, tonight?

February 18, 2006
8:18 pm
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Thats basically the issue TONIGHT, but for a while now, I have been treated horribly by him, and regardless of the apologies, no changes. So after a blowout last night, and "I wanna make it up 2 you and start new" this afternoon, it is retracted tonight. I would love to just hang out at his house, but not tonight- I feel like he needs to compromise and bend a little, for the person he has been hurting SO much. Or maybe I just need to stand up for myself, and not be so weak and stupid....I think its the powerless, unloved feeling that really gets to me....

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