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Anyone Else Attract Liars?
November 1, 2006
3:57 pm
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Gee I wish I had found this post a few weeks ago. It's helped me to see thing more clearly about dealing with this person who lied to me about their age. He said some of the same things, like, "Your gonna believe what you want to...."...and if he really did want me to believe he wasnt lying...then he would have done something to PROVE to me how old he really was.....which he did not. I actually was second guessing myself because I could not rationalize how he could still deny the truth after being confronted with it. I just could not relate to his behavior. It's really sad that someone is so caught up in their own lies and will sacrifice these people in order to hold to their own truth- which is a lie.

Their truth is a lie.

Our truth is their lie.

November 1, 2006
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I read something that said..

'the funny thing about liars, is that they LIE'

and I remember it everytime my ex says something, because I know it is a lie.

funny thing about liars....

nvr

November 1, 2006
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I have had a HUGE issue with my ex's lying.

At this point I do believe it is pathological and without help...I honestly do not believe he can help it.

November 1, 2006
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.... is it something in "you" attracting a liar or something in "him" or "her" attracting you to them (liars) ?

I think it´s neither one of the two approximates ... truth ....

a liar (to me) is someone who knows the truth all too well but has more to gain by not honoring or adhering himself to it ...

November 3, 2006
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it is all about choice. Every person has choices and free will. I can go down the path of lying or telling the truth. I can accept your lies and lie to myself that it is okay or you will change or that I can change myself for you. That is a lie. Sooner or later things will break down. The sooner I walk away from a liar, remain true to my authentic self and respect myself, the better off I will be. The sooner I stop lying to myself that the liar really is okay for me, the sooner I will keep my self esteem intact. The sooner I tell myself there is no room in my life for lies and deception, the easier it is to make the right choices for myself both in terms of my own behavior and in selecting people to be in my inner circle without making excuses for them. Personally, I have been lied to enough in the past. I am done with that. That feels like a good choice.

November 4, 2006
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great advise..P &L
the counseler we went to said people develop patterns of lying to avoid the consequenses of what the truth might bring. that lies become a way of dealing with things and liars develop more lies and become habitual-or pathological... all because of the practice of lying..
that to stop lying for a liar takes PRactice... practicing telling the truth.. learning about themselves and why they lie.....

I like your advice though.. liars do have a choice..they choose to lie ...
YOU ARE SO RIGHT!... I also CHOOSE to accept the lies..and I AM telling myself that the lies are okay..and that he will change!..You are RIGHT..I need to STOP lying to myself! I am honest with him and I DO deserve the same respect! It IS NOT okay to LIE..I am lieing to myself. I will keep telling myself what you wrote and put it on my mirror!.. No more room in my life for lies and deception!
Thanks.
TDS

November 4, 2006
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I have decided to end a relationship with a gf, (I'm a female), whom I discovered during our interactions and on several times that she was dishonest and resentful of me.

Though I have not conftronted her yet, being a reserved and sensitive person even tho she is behaving as if she has done nothing wrong.

Something I found about people who lie is...that they have low self-esteem and insecurity issues and they lie to cover up the truth about themselves. Most of them wear a mask and tell you what you like to hear.

Another thing I can add is that these folks are in denial about their life which is again another form of LIE and deception.

You see, lies come in many forms and shapes such as dishonesty, withholding from telling the truth to others even when they ask you for it, criticizing or making fun of someone overtly coz you don't feel good about yourself or coz it makes you feel good about yourself, being in denial about your life and facing the truth about yourself and making a committment to change.

All these are forms of lies, they might be masked in very clever way. However, they are ALL LIES.

~Ras~

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