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any people out there with loved ones in the military??
March 25, 2008
8:38 am
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fakesmile
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hi.
my 2 brothers are in the military. one was in kerjastan [sp] and the other is in iraq. im having a really tough time wtih the one in iraq. he's my best friend. and my strength. i honestly wouldnt be here if he wasnt home on leave last christmas. but anywho, im soo scared that he isnt going to make it home alive. ive talked to my mom about this but shes just like 'i put him in gods hands' and i honestly dont know if i even believe in god. its a long story. im tired of pretending im strong. when the truth is im very very weak. i dont know who else to talk to about him being there. so i was hoping that there were some people out there that can help. people that have/had someone really close to them over there.
anyone?

March 25, 2008
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fakesmile,

Your mother is right, your brothers are in God's hands. Yes we are weak without God but He will make us strong. I will pray for you and your family. Have faith in God, He has faith in you.

Almighty God, our Source of strength and courage, we ask Thee to guide the leaders of nations in the ways of peace and justice and enduring freedom for the peoples of the world.

In these times of peril and war against terrorism listen to our prayers for the men and women serving in our armed forces, our military leaders and our allies.

Protect them all from harm as they go into battle on land, in the sea and in the air.

(((Fakesmile)))

March 25, 2008
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im catholic but its just so hard to believe in him. for example. the catholic bible says that god says its a horrible sin to be gay or bi or have any relations with someone of hte same sex but it has been sinetfically proven that it isnt a choice the person has. they just are.

March 25, 2008
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Yes, it may have been scientifically proven, certainly it is Man's Nature to sin. Man is a sinful creature.

Our journey as Christians is learning to overcome our basic nature and live the way God wants us to. The way the Holy Bible tells us to.

March 25, 2008
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Hi,

I have a son in the military..I always pray for his safety but as a Christian..I have placed his life on God's hands and because of that..I no longer worry about him..he is not in Iraq but at one point was supposed to go there and he really wanted to go. When we turn it over to God..we release the worry and anxiety to him and he changes us and gives us peace. There are certain things we cannot control and it is not up to us..this is why we have to believe in something bigger than us and that is God who created us. My son right now is in Arab country, when he goes on a temporary mission like he is right now..I dont get to hear from him at all..its like we speak and chat on line all the time and then he disappears for a few months...I dont worry at all because he is doing his job.

HOPESPRING - why dont we go on Liberation brew and start a thread there about our faith..it would be nice to share

 

 

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March 25, 2008
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fakesmile...i know everything you are going through. My best friend was over in Iraq for over 2 years..it started out as a 6 month gig and just kept getting extended. She is now in a hospital in Germany recovering.

I know the hell that you are feeling. Honestly, the only way i have made it through thus far was to just not allow myself to think about what she was doing over there or the "what if" scenarios. I know it is hard to do but its really the only way to keep your sanity. Because everytime i thought about it, whether it be a song on the radio, pictures of military on tv etc..i would just bust out bawling. It's hard too when you don't have someone to talk to about it. People try to empathize with you but unless they have someone directly involved in it, it is hard for them to understand all the emotions.

I have as many people as i can keep her in prayer..which helps me at least feel like she is covered. I also wear a half heart Mizpah necklace that she has the other half of..which states "May the Lord watch between me and thee when we are absent from one another". It gives me comfort that I am there with her and she here with me. I miss her everyday. I still cry alot thinking about her..but i have faith in her ability and faith in God that she is gonna come back here safely...my wait has been longer than i have ever imagined and it is painful.

It's ok to be scared and to feel sad but don't let it paralyze you. Trust that your brother knows what he is doing and that he will be ok. He's fighting to give you freedom and my friend always tells me to go out and appreciate that because not everyone has it.

Most importantly...I am here to listen and talk with you about it anytime you need. I know what you are feeling and maybe we can help each other through. 🙂 You and your brother will be in my prayers as well. *hugs* take care.

March 25, 2008
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my husband is in the national guard and his year over there basically destroyed our marriage. i don't know that I can be much support. i only was able to live with the strain by letting go and living as if he were already dead. he's been home two years and in my heart, he's already dead. i hope you find a better way. if I hadn't let go, i would have killed myself. i know there's another way, i just couldn't find it.

oops, good to hear from you. hope you are well.

March 25, 2008
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In the bible it says there is no Condemnation in Christ.

Remember there is no condemnation.

You were given your own voice within. Trust your heart. Trust your heart that is where God is.

I know one thing... never let the light go out. No matter how dark the nights.

My friend came back from Iraq. Then he went back. He wanted more money in the Private sector.

They made their choices as warriors to fight. That is their choice.

March 25, 2008
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i talked to my counsler about religion and faith. she said the religion and faith are two different things. yes i think there is a god. but i dont believe that you HAVE to be a certian religion to go to heaven and all that. but it still is hard for me to put my brother in gods hands just yet. what im really looking for is someone who knows how it feels not knowing day to day if you will ever see them again. thats my biggest thing right now.

March 28, 2008
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fakesmile..are u still around? hows this week been treating you? I'm missing my friend soooooooooo much!! and she is dealing with the death of a close friend right now and i have no way of getting a hold of her or knowing if she is even ok..so it's frustrating and scary as heck..all i can do is think positive, pray and hope for the best. I get tired of feeling frustrated by the fact that i can't do a darn thing about it..can't just pick up the phone and call her..it's a tough life. But i wouldn't trade her for the world.

whats on your mind?

March 31, 2008
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My husband is in the Army Reserve. He did a year tour in Iraq and is getting ready to deploy again, this time to afghanistan.

I handled the whole thing poorly, the first time around, depressed, etc. When he returned things just got worse, that is how I found this site.

I have changed over the course of 2 years and hope, this time it will be different. Meaning, I am not the same person I was back then. I have learned much, been doing alot of self-help and learning.

I also learned about faith and religion when he returned. I am not afiliated with any denomination or church, however I am looking (am ex-catholic). I have found refound faith, which has helped me through many hard times.

The day to day is not easy. I was glued to the tv set. This was when the Iraq war was on tv constantly. I went to work, but found I couldn't concentrate. When he called I was on a high for days! If he didn't call or e-mail, I would deflate so fast. It was a roller-coaster of emotions. Not knowing how my loved one was. Try and keep busy. I didn't do enough of this. I would come home from work and go to my room. Don't isolate yourself! I found well meaning folks asking how I was doing, however when I started to tell them how I was doing etc. They really weren't intrested, or didn't know how to respond.

How are you doing?

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