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July 24, 2001
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I am glad that this board is up again.Anyway,
The girl that I was engaged to called me a
week ago,to refresh,I was struck by her while
holding her child (thread).Wondering why I
have not called.And to tell me that her 2yr.
old daughter is saying she loves me once again.Also,wanting to know if Im seeing any-
one.She got mad when I refused to get together privately.It was nice to hear from
her.But still scared.

July 24, 2001
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Stay scared....if she doesn't understand your reservations...then she isn't taking responsibility for her behavior...plus she has no qualms about "using" her own child to "get" to you.

Developmentally a two yearold saying she loves you again ...They "love" everyone.

You are wise to stay away.

Are you seeing anyone? "My personal affairs are MY personal affairs."

That will make her angry but is just a statement of fact.

don't let her sucker you in with guilt or "should's"

Stay strong!!

Sounds like a good realtionship to be out of.

don't feel guilty about the child...her mom will simply use her as a pawn... not fair to the kid or to you but out of your hands

July 25, 2001
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So, is she still drinking and dancing ? Remember what the child was all about, those strings to tug you with. Stay strong, do your thing, use the the suggestions that Jane gave you, Glad to see you have made it this far.

July 25, 2001
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Thanks for both of your replies.There
is much safety and wisdom in them.In
addition,questions such as:
"Why havnt you called?"
"It must be easy for you to move on
so quickly?"
"Can we just be friends?"
"You only accepted the baby."
There was more,Im still trying to pr-
ocess the rest of it.Its like she is
a completely different person.
She is still dancing.Drinking,not sure about that.
I cannot tell any more of what is
manipulation or truth from her!
Its difficult to stay away but,thanks
for your support. Love-Heart

July 27, 2001
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hello all..

I really need some advice...
I hit my now ex-girlfriend after a year of being together. I know that we will never get back together, but i never did anything like that before, and i feel to lost and confused and bad for what i done..i wasnt drinkin or anything like that. Please..i know my actions were wrong and I feel terrible, can someone please tell me what i should do..

July 27, 2001
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Where did the rage come from, did dad hit, or mom's boy friend? What triggered it all, and how do you normally handle tight situations?

July 30, 2001
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7/30/01

Dummy1 you need to go back and rethink about what happen and what made you so upset to hit someone,anger
is found to come from deep inside of yourself from a past event that happen
within your life time that made you get protictive at that time,also anger
starts at alower point level as yelling,mod swings plus don't be afread to seek help from a anger class
in your town. I hope things work out for you and don't go down the path that I have been on for my anger,if you need more advice check out web pages on the net.

July 30, 2001
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This is easier said than done but: BE STRONG AND MOVE ON!

July 30, 2001
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Hey thank for the replies...
I realy need to get in some anger management classes and work on myself..and the fact that i like to drink doesn't make matters any better.
I onlyn wish I can make thinks right again. I just feel so guilty, I also feel like dirty and nasty for what I did. But I should be greatful she didnt call tha cops on me. I dont know I thats what all abusers say or what...

July 30, 2001
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I do not know the events that led you to like drinking, but when you make a statement about what all abusers will say in situations like this,you are opening your self for a label.If this was bad enough for you to think that the police should have beened involved, then you should take a real closer look into your anger and possibly your drinking.

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