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Anxiety and Fear
April 27, 2000
1:01 pm
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LONELY1
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Please help me, I am so desperate, this problem effects my social/family
and work life. I'm starting to think the best solution is
to end it all, no one in the whole world has this problem.
I have a deep pyschological problem were I seem to panic so
badly I actually believe I may wet myself. But I never do,
I have had this problem for over 9 years.
It first came about when I had taken a LSD/trip drug
and someone who knew I was on the drug pretended that I had
wet myself, I paniced so bad that I have never been able to
get rid of the thought of wetting myself. I dont know if
you can help, but I have all the social shyness problems
of social phobia but also this one. Please help.

April 27, 2000
6:55 pm
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This is not a deep psychological problem but a very common anxiety disorder that can be treated we behavior modification and cognitive therapy. Read "From panic to power"
excellent book.
People with anxiety problems and panic attacks fear all kinds of ridiculous things.
You may be a nervous, anxious person who analyzes and worries a lot and the drug simply played on the genralized anxiety state and gave you a bad trip. That fear created a strong memory related to fear, wetting yourself and the panic.
This can be over come.
Please do not be so distressed.
You are not crazy.
30 percent of the population have an anxiety prob of some kind.

April 27, 2000
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It certainly may FEEL like a deep problem...but Brenda is right. You are not alone!

Seek help now. It's been nine years. that is long enough to worry and fret.

You are extremely "fixable"..but you have to do the work.

Good luck

April 27, 2000
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Most important: REDUCE YOUR STRESS LEVELS
WATCH AND MONITOR YOUR EATING
DO THINGS FOR YOURSELF
DO NOT TAKE ON OTHERS PROBLEMS
SAY NO WHEN YOU NEED TO
DO NOT LET OTHERS STEP ON YOU, ASSERT YOURSELF AND EXPRESS YOURSELF AT ALL TIMES
DO NOT STUFF YOUR FEELINGS
FACE YOUR FEARS AND CONQUER THEM ONE BY ONE BY DOING THAT WHICH YOU FEAR THE LEAST TO THAT WHICH YOU FEAR THE MOST, WITH THIS WILL COME CONFIDENCE, STRENGTH AND THE CYCLE OF FEAR WILL BREAK
GET LOTS OF SLEEP
MASSAGE THERAPY

April 28, 2000
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Hi there lonely,

what you have as everyone else here is saying, is an anxiety disorder with a phobia about the thought of wetting yourself.

as you have found it is so easy to develop these phobias. I have agoraphobia, where i have had such bad panics about so many things that it made me vitually housebound.

but please take heart, the phobia you have is very common and it is also classed (believe it or not!) as a simple phobia. This means it is one thing basically that you fear - the belief that you may humiliate yourself in public by wetting yourself. these things are curable, as brenda and janes have said.

the basic cure or should i say approach, is learning to retrain your mind. now with you, your mind learned during your acid trip, that whole fear of humiliating yourself and losing control, now you need to retrain your mind back to a more rational way of thinking again.

just like me, when i am about to leave the house, my mind is telling me all sorts of rubbish and making me afraid to go out, i have to stop and keep telling myself " no, that is rubbish, nothing bad will happen to me the fear is JUST MY ANXIETY BULLYING ME AGAIN"

I found a group that helped so much, and i really recomend that you check these guys out. They are a charity called First steps to Freedom. they have a web page, go visit and talk to them. they run group councelling and chat rooms too. they can give you excellent advice on how you can bring about your own recovery.

at the end of the day, you can beat this if you really want to. But it takes a lot of hard work by YOU. there are no magic pills for this, you don't wake up one day and find it has gone, it can only stop ruling your life when you learn how to retrain your mind.

I am myself going through this process now, it takes time but you can do it, but get support from people who understand anxiety disorders, unfortunately many people even doctors do not understand it at all.

in the mean time, try to be aware of when you are having these negative thoughts, when you have them try to remember that this is NOT reality talking but it is your anxiety.
You mind basically loves you so much and wants to protect you from anything it feels would harm you (like humiliation) that is has become like an over protective mother! the trouble with our nervous system and sub concious mind is though, it cannot tell the difference between a REAL threat and an IMAGINED threat. so it reacts the same way.
keep telling yourself that this is just anxiety. but do check out First steps, just type it into your browser. they can recommend some excellent books and relaxation tapes for you, put you in touch with fellow sufferers and all sorts of other help. they are worth looking at, that organisation helped me more that any doctors i had found.

at the moment you are consumed by this fear, but it is possible to turn it around, this is ehy many people who have phobias descibe it as a "challenge" rather than a disability because it is a challenge and a lot of hard work but the rewards are there and worth working for.
best of luck and keep us posted.
Hazza

April 29, 2000
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I am cured.

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