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Answer this one ? please
April 1, 2007
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ineedtoloveme
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Hello All,
Long time since I posted.

Here is my question:

I don't want to give too much info - because that might cloud your answer.

Why would a spouse go back and tell a person that you said (pillow talk) you thought him and her was having an affair ?

April 1, 2007
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My first thought would be that you gave him an ego boast by saying your thoughts to him. He then needed to keep his ego going by sharing that with the woman you thought he was having an affair with.

Atalose

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April 1, 2007
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Your question is a bit confusing but without much information, all I can say is that the spouse is insensitive to tell someone else of an affair between two other people. Now if this you telling your spouse that you thought one of the two of you were having an affair, then he is also insensitive there and should keep this between the two of you since it is nobody's else business unless he is confiding in a close friend and needs advice. I'd say maybe it is a case of overeacting, and no damage is done. The real damage would be if the affair is real, that is where I would put the worry.

April 1, 2007
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Sorry I was unclear-
I found out my husband was having "graphic" talk with a certain woman at work. I accused him of having an affair with her. He went back and told her what I said! When I found out he did that-he told me he did it to "save our marrtage" I have no idea what he means by that.... he couldn't explain it. Now I am looking for a plausible explanation to explain it before I leave his...
Also he is a sex addict.

April 2, 2007
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How would that save your marriage? Sounds more like he was covering his butt and her's too. Not sayin that they are or are not doin anything, but to me it is wrong for any spouse to discuss his marital life w/ anyone of the opposite sex. It opens the door for the other person to side w/ that spouse and thereby inflate their ego enough to think they are right and can do as they please, etc. Did he tell her this as a joke?

I know it has nothing to do w/ this, but it did happen to me many years ago. Hubby starts talking to a girl at work, she strokes his ego so he insists he can do as he pleases. Yes, he can but not that and stay married to me. So the problems escalate and she needs him to be there for her emotionally so now he is no longer there for me, etc. Make sense?

Not sayin that is what is goin on here, but possibly similar??

Just a thought.

April 2, 2007
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Sounds like there is more to his story than he is letting on. I guess time will tell.

April 2, 2007
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The only thing that he did was let the other woman know that you know that something is going on. With this in mind, this will give her and him a head up on what to tell you in case that you really start to find out that he is doing something else.

If he is a sex addict, then you already know what he is capable of doing or has done.

I give you much credit in you trusting him, because being I wouldn't trust a sex addict. I wouldn't believe anything that they say because they will lie in order to get what they are seeking.

Nappy!

April 3, 2007
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This is a real hard one. Maybe there is interest on one of their parts and your husband thought that he could boost the chances of something happening by telling her. Or something could already be going on and he told her so they can be careful and he told you he told her to make it seem like nothing is going on and he thinks it's silly that you even think that. You know your husband better than any of us do. If you think he's capable of being unfathful then he very well might be. Mem are very strange when another woman strokes their ego. Especially if she is younger than he is.

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