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Another Call (Bubishi)
November 4, 2004
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Well,
I just got another call from Deb. She told me that she had to pay her dad back 1000. that she borrowed from him earlier this summer. He gave it to her to help pay off her car. She's worried about paying her part of the rent. She said that she would try to pay me as much as she can. I want to believe that. I hope that she isn't just lying about that and using that money as a DP on another place or something. I know that her and her father was trying to get a loan because he was needing money. Why can't I believe her when she says that stuff?? She said that she still wasn't sure about anything. SHould I be happy that she called. I guess I'll pay the rent and see. What do you make of this?? Should I genuinely believe her. I told her that home was here when she was ready.

November 4, 2004
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hi Bubishi, she did call you so she is opening up to you..she could have not called and screwed you of the rent money too.

You have to learn to trust though, do you have any reason not to beleive her about the money??? you will have a very hard time in this relationship if you can't trust her.

Take things one day at a time. You have lots to think over Bubishi, I do wish you the best. Take things slow ok!!!

November 4, 2004
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I don't have any raso to think that. I know that she will give him money at the drop of a hat. Even if it means she goes without.

November 4, 2004
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good Bub...just learn to trust, its a huge factor in any relationship, cuz basically if you don't have any trust you really have nothing.

And stop worrying!!! she is calling you now, 2nd day in a row...things really are not THAT bad, she is
communicating....now go out later for a walk or do some Karate...and keep your mind focused on things you like!!

November 4, 2004
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since you didn't have your cake last nite..why not bake a chocolate cake from scratch!! (Zinnies idea!!) that'll keep you busy and its a good thing to learn to do, cook!!!

November 4, 2004
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It sounds like she is being upfront with you about her financial situation and at least she is communicating with you about her responsibilities, to you as well as her father. I don't blame you for being apprenhensive about it though. I really feel for you with so many things up in the air. You're in a heck of a limbo and that is very unsettling. My thought and good wishes are with you. SD

November 4, 2004
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Yay Bub! Two days in a row, yeah, that's good! And maybe her dad couldn't get the loan so that's why he needs the money from her. She's keeping you informed, and she doesn't have to, so that's a good sign. Telling her home is there when she is ready -- I like that. That would be nice to hear, from her point of view, because it's not pushy, it's just reassuring while keeping that distance she requested.

Two thumbs up, bub!!!

November 4, 2004
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Camer,
LEARN to cook.
Honey I can cook like nobodies business.

November 4, 2004
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then cook away tonite!!! that's awesome that you cook....hey why not cook a cake and Fed ex it to me overnite, and I can see how good of a cook you really are!!! lol!!!!

November 4, 2004
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Camer,
Now you know the anonymity thing. How am I gonna fed ex it when we aren't sppose to give out that info??

November 4, 2004
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bub... you can send it over to her in her honey's limo... or have Sunny and Johnny bring it over in Johnny's limo... OR, rub it on the screen, and she'll get it through electronic osmosis! :o)

November 4, 2004
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EXACTLY!!! cristine said it all.......ok Bub...just give my guy
Mark Bellhorn a call and he'll personally deliver the cake to me!!!

November 4, 2004
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I don't know who these people are. Why don't everyone just come over and I'll fire up the grill.

November 4, 2004
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Bubishi...you don't know who Mark Bellhorn is??? think of Boston Red Sox...think great player!!! ok, I'll
gather up the girls and we'll head over for dinner on the grill...sounds like a plan!!!

November 4, 2004
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Don't follow the red sox. Isn't that the group that just won the series. If you wanna talk to me about pretty women then maybe I'll know who you're talking about.

November 4, 2004
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Well,
I just took a shower which felt great. I've been trying to look at things from a positive point of view. I know that it will only last for a short time though.

November 4, 2004
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Hey everyone, how's it going today?

My night turned out better. He called and now I feel fixed, you know? That is what I don't want someone else to be doing for me.

I have to learn some coping tools.

Suggestions?

I need to leave soon, have a doctor's appt but I'll be back on later.

November 4, 2004
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Workin,
Still on?

November 4, 2004
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Anyone out there right now?

November 4, 2004
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hey B
Glad to hear all is okay - remember to try and think postively - I also used to meditate daily - I could tune out the whole world - I want to get to that point again

November 4, 2004
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Be optomistic - it is all how you view the situation - you know the saying - is the glass half empty or half full

November 4, 2004
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Hey Bubishi

I think you're doing great!

Now I don't know if this holds true for everyone, but looking at this board you would think it is common. The best way for a man to get my attention when I am feeling iffy about a relationship, is to act indifferent. I mean, really. If you read through the posts here. Look at the "anxiety" one that has been going on for months. It drives people crazy when you don't pay attention to them. It makes them think about you all the time!

Yes sounds like a game, but, isn't that how we operate? We as humans I mean.

Just think about it.

November 4, 2004
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What do you all think about the rent thing. Do you think that she would actually pay her father off on this when she knows the rent is due?? Or is she trusting that I would cover it. I mean, I've told her before that I would. I guess it's a matter of trust huh?? Just a thought.

November 4, 2004
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Just remember - less that a week ago you were so sure you were doomed and things were hopeless! She is calling and she is communication just try to be as understanding as you can, I truly believe she will come around and you can play out all of the things you have said you wanted to change. Remember to smile and make someone's day - for you are awesome!

November 4, 2004
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what did you say to her about the rent when she alluded that it could be a potentional problem?

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